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To think this is not OK?

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SchoolTripSENDrama · 30/06/2025 18:11

Name changed as this is outing.

Mumsnet, I need your wisdom. DC is in reception, has ASD and an EHCP. They have 1:1 support.

a school trip was organised which would have been completely unsuitable for DC. Partly due to them being such a flight risk but also, they would not have got on the school bus in the first place. I asked what the option was if DC didn’t attend the trip and was told the school had enough staff to accommodate them, so if DC didn’t go on the trip they would get slapped with an unauthorised absence. No option for them to attend school that day.

AIBU to think this is not ok or do I clearly not have a clue how schools work?

So as not to drip feed, I kept DC at home and their 1:1 support went on the trip with the rest of the class.
I was told I could have gone on the trip too but I had too work, plus I knew it would have been so stressful for everyone, especially DC and I wasn’t prepared to put them through that.

is this legit?

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Shinyandnew1 · 30/06/2025 18:32

Was the school telling you that your child should have been on the trip with the 1:1?

AnSolas · 30/06/2025 18:26

What documentation was provided to explain how they were going to safely manage your child?

If your child would not travel by bus how would the trip even start?

You need to make the school prove they could not have take your child out for the day.

The extra staffing is there for your child s support system
So while I can understand why they did not want one child alone with an adult what is the long term plan if your child will not get on the bus?

Unless the school can prove that your child could have participated it is the school creating a situation where your child is excluded due to het extra needs.

Caramelty · 30/06/2025 18:25

Yes the school is clearly in the wrong.

My dd had a broken leg for one school trip which involved wading in streams and of course they let her stay behind. It is clearly the same situation of an inappropriate trip and not all dc can go.

The school should have let the 1:1 stay at school doing their job, completely wrong for the school to insist on your dc going.

Jabberwok · 30/06/2025 18:21

I was thinking gees just tell the kid they have to go....then saw they have 1:1 support. So clearly there is recognition of an issue.

Personally I'd meet with the headmaster and politely point out that were being a prick. No education was being missed and it was they who were unable to allow your child into school. Next time advise you will be sending child to school (naturally you are not going to) and they will have to deal with the fall out.

Parrotdrill · 30/06/2025 18:18

I would hit the roof.

they should have found a way to include your child be that 2:1 etc. mine all have sen and their 1:1 and or other staff were there to ensure they could join in no matter where the trip was. This was true in both mainstream and special schools that they ended up in

if not going on trip (which I think is wrong - if they are drummed for to be in mainstream they should do all the activities their class mates are doing)
THEIR 1:1 should have been available at school to be with them.

utterly unacceptable that a way to accommodate them wasn’t found and also that the child’s 1:1 was being used as general ratios on the trip.

essentially an illegal exclusion.

put a stop so such practices now - your child has a right to a full and equal education and should not be excluded from things.

as k yo see the risk assessments made for the trios and also get it in writing from the school that the child’s 1:1 was not available .

make a massive complaint to Sen governor and LA

MounjaroMounjaro · 30/06/2025 18:17

I wouldn't accept an unauthorised absence, either! And the one-to-one should have been looking after your child, not going on a trip with the other children.

SchoolTripSENDrama · 30/06/2025 18:17

@Hadalifeonce exactly. I really just want to know whether they could legally do this - so to speak.

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Hadalifeonce · 30/06/2025 18:15

I wouldn't accept an unauthorised absence; they essentially made it impossible for your child to attend school. What would have happened if you had taken them to school, like any other day?

SchoolTripSENDrama · 30/06/2025 18:15

Nope. I thought they might have been able to stay with their 1:1 and the rest of the school.

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Hanovercrosse · 30/06/2025 18:14

What was the trip ? Did you want your child to stay at school on their own ?