One of Dd(12) best friends from primary has very strict parents, basically everything fun or remotely dangerous or unhealthy she isn’t allowed to.
During primary I was obviously more in contact with friends parents and involved with the kids so agreed to follow their rules and made sure they did suitable things.
Now they’re in secondary I don’t hang around or organise activities for them much anymore. Our house has become the hangout house and there’s a group of girls here most weekends.
There were several of them round for a sleepover on Saturday night who made bubble tea, ice cream sundaes and watched twilight. All things I know friend would not be allowed to do but it was hot and there were new friends round so I didn’t want to embarrass friend and tell her she wasn’t allowed so I just stayed out of the way. There’s defiantly been a couple of similar things that have happened that I’ve heard about and just ignored over the last year.
AIBU to obviously within reason just let them get on with it from now and do these normal things and not mention any of the ‘bad’ stuff to her parents?
the alternative is I say the kids are going to be doing these sorts of things now and their dd is no longer allowed to hang out with her friends because I’m not prepared to implement these rules.