Do you think smoking weed every night is cause for concern?

Also also, drug impaired driving includes all drugs, not just cannabis. In fact, the highest percentage of drug impaired driving was medical sedatives, not cannabis.

People who smoke cigarettes or weed (or anything else) always think they're really subtle about it and they hide it well and people don't know / won't notice, but everyone who doesn't smoke can smell it a mile away and can see the effects.

Your kids know that their dad smokes weed every night, and they'll grow up thinking it's normal. It really isn't.

People who visit your house will be able to smell the stale weed stench.

Smoking it at all is a cause for concern, never mind every night and with kids.

Drug impaired driving offences increased in part because they improved the methods for testing and they changed the laws to allow for testing with any suspicion of use. So it’s impossible to determine if the increase is due to an increase in impaired driving, or because they are now testing more drivers with better testing technology.

My neighbour smokes weed. He does it frequently and it stinks. Can’t hang my washing out plus the guy stinks of the stuff. Unfortunately they own the property so we have to put up with the odour. Weed smokers tend to think they don’t smell when they do. My son has life long severe health problems and weed is one of his triggers that he must avoid. He’s only been here a week and I’m keeping my windows closed. Will probably have to keep them closed until they hopefully sell up.

You hope your neighbours don’t know???
Are you on another planet?

The whole road will know!

It absolutely stinks and invades everywhere. My entire home gets invaded when neighbours smoke it.

Your 12 year old will absolutely know it’s weed if not very very soon. delusional.

When will you be prioritising your children over your partner?

So you say you both see it as normal and acceptable because it’s common in your family and social circles.

So you realise your husband is making it much more likely that your children will be drug addicts too, yes? They’ll also see it as normal. Well, that or they’ll see the light and won’t want to be around your dad when he’s smoking or stoned.

I feel for you OP as it’s not your fault he’s an addict, but you are encouraging it so you get a nicer version of him, which isn’t good. Would you also encourage an alcoholic to drink so they’re not irritable?

Yes it's a problem it was a problem bwfore the first and then the second child, do you honestly think this is healthy and yes the kids will probably end up down this path too

And people thinking legalising ot makes anything different really?

Definitely a problem, it's called the gateway drug for a reason. Setting a terrible example for the kids unfortunately, there's no masking the smell so it will be clinging to them also and they may suffer the effects of secondary inhalation.

No but he will lose his license if he was drug tested with daily use. That was my point in replying to OP comment.

Tbh I think it is less than ideal to say the least. It's well known to cause MH issues. I smoked it as a teenager. Once you have DC it's a different ball game.you have DC to care for. A little girl fell off her balcony and died .Mum was busy getting stoned! A couple of beers isn't ideal either. Can he try meditation or go running. Also DC will 100 per cent be aware

Agree. Someone local occasionally smokes it in the garden. I can smell it in our house hours after. Unless they are thick then all the neighbours know and your dh will constantly stink of it. @LastPodcastOnTheLeft you've just gone noseblind if you think otherwise

Oh and PS in Canada where they legalised it, drug-impaired driving offences increased 105% from 2017 to 2020, reports of increased hospitalisations for cannabis-induced psychosis, with an 83.7% rise in psychosis cases, particularly among young men.

Emergency department visits for cannabis intoxication or withdrawal are common, especially among young men. There are also increased reports of pediatric poisonings from edibles resembling candy and schizophrenia rates among cannabis use disorder patients tripled post-legalization, from 4% to 10%.

Youth cannabis use is associated with psychosis, anxiety, depression, and suicidality.

There's heaps more information on this but as mumsnet always hides my posts when I add links I suggest searching for more info if you need it.

And, yep very much a problem since the father of your child is an addict modelling addictive behaviours to them and putting his mental and physical health at risk by doing so.

Not a problem at all as long as you are a contributing member of society and good person. If he is neglecting his life duties for weed, then no it’s not good.
But I live in Canada where it is legal and almost everyone smokes weed. Most people I know who are doctors, lawyers, government workers, police officers, teachers, etc. all smoke every night. It was the same before it was legal.
It seems like the UK is very uptight about most things, including weed.

My ex was a massive weed smoker. I hated it. It controlled every aspect of his life. And stunk out the entire house, so embarrassing. Made him so unmotivated. Such a grim habit- and very expensive. I’m glad to be out of that now. Are there any upsides?

I’d seriously worry about the potential mental health issues and mental illnesses associated with regular use. The ‘it’s harmless’ brigade should educate themselves on this.

The smell does transfer even when the smoker is doing it outside
It’s very sad when you work with children and can smell it on their belongings such as their school bag, their coats, even their hair. Parents often think it’s undetectable if they don’t smoke it in the house but they carry the smell around on them and it transfers onto items in the home. Especially when it’s a daily habit. They just can’t smell it themselves because it’s ’their’ smell.

OP, I guarantee the smell will have been clocked (and most likely logged) by your children’s teachers.

My husband is a pothead and I would like to minimise the risks - a more accurate title.

As you know (or should) daily use increases your chances of memory loss, impaired cognitive function, increases risk of anxiety and depression and even schizophrenia, increases your chance of lung diseases, decreases motivation and productivity, turns you into an addict, weakens your immune response and is even bad for your heart.

This is all widely known and inarguable.

And their father is modelling this deeply unhealthy addiction to his kids, while you smilingly look on. So yep you are being fairly ridiculously unreasonable.

Kids very definitely DO NOT all try weed or any other drugs, but those with addicts for parents are certainly far more likely to become addicts themselves.

Prediction - you will now dismiss these facts and return to daily life with your addict husband, pretending not to understand the problem.

My first post hidden because I included links to four articles. There are hundreds of articles saying how bad being a pothead is for your health though, easy to look up.

Yes, it's a massive cause for concern. He is focused on skinning up, not his children. he is wasting shedloads of money on poisoning his body with illegal shit that could be spent on improving the quality of DC's lives.

You say it's no different from 'a few beers' - but a few beers every night when you have small DC is also a cause for concern - and you say he has those too. He's not in a fit state to parent. Your young children have noticed he stinks of it. He makes an attempt to hide his habit from them, so he knows it's not okay too.

Could he try and ease off a bit?

Please read this
https://www.uhs.nhs.uk/Media/UHS-website-2019/Patientinformation/Emergency-medicine/Cannabinoid-hyperemesis-syndrome-CHS-2506-PIL.pdf

My brother was a daily smoker and he gradually turned into a shell of his former self, throwing up and spending hours a day in the shower. He was hospitalized several times and we nearly lost him to suicide before he agreed he might have a problem. As the weed made him feel better in the moment he insisted it wasn’t the issue. It was truly scary

The smell of weed was probably why child Q was suspected of carrying some.

Agree. It was seen as something the “ loser” - that’s not my words, it’s theirs - teens did when my dx were at school (just a few years ago). The ones with no hobbies or aspirations.
Some teens are mature enough to not want to waste their time, money and brain cells on weed.