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Primary school leavers party

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Sickoflisteningmum · 30/06/2025 10:12

The group chat has been driving me insane since one of the mums started it in January. How dramatic and over the top some of these women are and also how much time they have on their hands for a Y6 party for their precious offspring! There’s constant updates and everything HAS GOT TO BE PERFECT! They are 10/11 yr olds, they aren’t emigrating to Australia, they are just leaving primary school!

Christ I can’t wait for them to all F@*k off in July!

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Sickoflisteningmum · 30/06/2025 12:18

AlaskaThunderfuckHiiiiiiiii · 30/06/2025 12:15

Mine had been ridiculously over the top and is costing £70!!!!!!!

This is exactly what I’m talking about. I think people need to see it to believe it! Sending strength to you! X

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AlaskaThunderfuckHiiiiiiiii · 30/06/2025 12:15

Mine had been ridiculously over the top and is costing £70!!!!!!!

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Sickoflisteningmum · 30/06/2025 12:13

We were all asked to volunteer in January - which I did, all who volunteered attended a meeting and all had a job at the end of it. Dead simple, so why all this fuss for 6 months I can’t understand.

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MageQueen · 30/06/2025 12:09

I remember this so clearly with DS and am dreading it with DD soon.

The whatsapp groups were not as crazy as they could hav ebeen, but I was really bemused by the number of parents who were absolutely devastated and traumatised by their children finishing primary. I completely understood the slightly ridiculous hysteria of some of the children int heir final assembly, and I also thought it wasn't weird that some parents got emotional in those moments too. But the number o fparents who told me they were just really struggling and it was so hard etc etc... so weird.

DS is only a few years out of primary and he already barely remembers half the chidlren in his class!

HarperValley · 30/06/2025 12:09

I’d just let them get on with it, great to have some people taking the lead and giving their time to plan something for the kids surely.

Redpeach · 30/06/2025 12:06

Its a good thing people are taking the lead in organising stuff

Tiredofwhataboutery · 30/06/2025 12:04

Crikey DS has just had his (Scotland) PPG paid for them to go to a trampoline park, parents paid for Pizza Hut afterwards. It was about 8 posts on class WhatsApp and lots of thumbs up.

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Sickoflisteningmum · 30/06/2025 12:03

Yes, the end is near you are right. I didn’t think I could mute it because it’s a group - I’ve just done it! 🤣 Thank you all! x

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Sickoflisteningmum · 30/06/2025 12:01

Redpeach · 30/06/2025 11:43

Perhaps they feel the same way about you

I really hope so

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betsy99 · 30/06/2025 11:55

Leaving primary school seems to be a 'big thing' these days, its probably a sign of the times. There are seven school years between my eldest and youngest, DD left 15 years ago, and from memory there was an end of year assembly and disco. With my youngest there was picnic, plays, assemblies and hoodies etc.
Personally I thought it went a bit OTT but it wasnt harming anyone. Mute the chat and let them crack on.

Smartiepants79 · 30/06/2025 11:46

Mute the group and leave them to it
Is your child going? If they are maybe be a little grateful someone is going to some effort to make it nice for them.

Redpeach · 30/06/2025 11:43

Perhaps they feel the same way about you

latetothefisting · 30/06/2025 11:42

Muting maybe but why would she leave it, presumably she's in the group because she needs to be - she'd feel a bit shit if something was changed last minute and she didn't know, so her child turned up at the wrong time or not in fancy dress or whatever. I imagine all the photos after will be shared on the group as well which her dc will like to see.

Sympathies though, starting to plan in Jan for a party in July is insane. At least the end is in sight now!

user1476613140 · 30/06/2025 11:41

I had nothing to do with the groups, I stayed out of it. Try that approach?

Ignorance is bliss 😊

Makingpeace · 30/06/2025 11:40

You can mute them if it's WhatsApp.

Jot down the date, time and place. Tell them you'll be there with the kid. And mute the group! And sigh light relief that you are not one of those types.

Finteq · 30/06/2025 11:39

Let them have their moment.

They obviously don't have much else going on I their lives.

Maybe mute the group

LlynTegid · 30/06/2025 11:39

Leave the group, but tell them why. Overdramatising such an event is not good, and if they are projecting that to their child(ren) then it could be contributing to poorer mental health and bad spending choices later in their life.

Ablondiebutagoody · 30/06/2025 11:37

I would leave the group. DS's primary leavers party is a couple of hours at school in the evening. Disco, games and pizza thing. School are charging £4.50. All fine. No need to get involved.

Lmnop22 · 30/06/2025 10:54

Leave the group?

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