Disrespectful or socially unaware DH.

I wear sports bras and go out in the garden in those and shorts when it's hot. In fact when I was younger and did a lot of walking I'd discard my top and just have my sports bra if it was hot. Face it, I show off a lot more if I'm wearing a bathing suit of any sort or if I'm in a Euro spa where no suits are allowed.

fyi - approaching 70. Fat and flabby. I don't care what anyone thinks. (but it does scare the young men in the spas if I wink at them....😆)

I could understand if he invited someone in to the house and maybe you d be conscious of your boobs jiggling about, but no one would know you were braless but you while you are lying on the lounger? If the neighbour noticed or saw you at all he d think you were were a top and shorts, nothing that would even register with him tbh

I think my DH would probably not realise that outfit was unsuitable to be seen by a neighbour, if I was happy to wear it outside. I'm guessing part of your irritation is because you felt uncomfortable at having to effectively ignore the neighbour although you obviously knew he was there?

Your husband probably didn’t even think about it. As far as he was concerned you had clothes on.
I wouldn’t worry about it

What if your neighbour had initiated the conversation?
Should your DH know to go running into the house so as to protect your dignity?

Relax, enjoy the sunshine, bra optional.

I had to go t the shops yesterday. I was wearing nothing at all under a summer dress, stopped and chatted to a neighbour and they were none the wiser.

I think your husband is just going about his normal day and I really have no idea what the issue is 🤷🏻‍♀️. The neighbour was talking to your husband not ogling at your (covered) chest?!?

So long as boobs were covered then what’s the problem. I was out braless under my summer dress in the garden. Nobody would know.

Christ I answer the door to the postie with no bra on. Do people even really notice that? Are women not allowed to go braless these days? You're overreacting!

you seem to have no better issues..

I had to re read that several times as I thought the issue was you were topless! You had a top on, just no bra so I don’t see the issue.

Why on earth do you think the neighbours would notice if you were wearing a bra or not and also why would they care?

Unless your boobs were hanging out the bottom of your top, I can't see the issue. Bob from next door won't care whether you have a bra on or not. He would probably lounge about entirely topless.

I am not aware of a limit on the socially acceptable number of conversations to have with one's neighbours. Sounds like no more than one per day. Help me out here, as I think I may be socially unaware or disrespectful.

Socially unaware or not thinking I think.

Respectfully, that’s not necessarily something a man is all that likely to be attuned to, ‘braless’ and ‘make-up less’ not really being translatable categories. As far as he was concerned, you had clothes on.

I don’t think he was being either socially unaware or disrespectful. You sound (understandably) cranky after a long shift, but your logic of ‘I’ve been wearing a thick uniform all day, therefore I’m lightly dressed on a sunlounger, therefore DH should not start chatting to the neighbour in case he sees me’ isn’t clear to me. I mean, you already sounded annoyed that he came out to water the plants when you said you would do them, when he was presumably just trying to save you some effort when you were hot and tired?

What a non-issue.

Your poor husband. "Sorry Bob, I can't talk to you. Whatisforteamum hasn't got a bra on under her top"

Your post also implies that your neighbour is a creepy pervert, because he might see you dressed, but without a bra?

No issue here.

He was neither disrespectful or lacking in social awareness. It just sounds like you were hot and tired so your DH was probably going to piss you off whatever he did or didn't do.

If you want to sit with t shirt and no in your garden that’s your choice, but your DH did nothing wrong by chatting to the neighbour.

It’s pretty controlling that you think he shouldn’t be allowed to make small talk while watering the garden because he spoke to the neighbour in the morning!

How would wearing a bikini be a better outfit for your neighbour to see you in than a “patterned t shirt” and shorts.

Your neighbour won’t know or care that they’re PJ shorts or that you presumably had no knickers underneath them.

Unless he was straining hard he won’t have noticed you wearing no bra under your top - especially as it was patterned so any rogue nipples would have been camouflaged.

Sounds like you’re making a mountain out of a molehill to me. How was your H supposed to know that your perfectly modest outfit felt to you so scandalous that you shouldn’t be seen by anyone but him?

You're being precious OP. Your dh did nothing wrong.

Your DH is not psychic, he can’t really be expected to avoid starting a conversation with a neighbour because you’re lying there with a top and pj shorts on. How is he to know you don’t want to be seen?

There’s nothing wrong with what you were wearing, it’s your garden.

If you don’t want your DH chatting in the garden with a neighbour you need to ask him specifically not to.. it doesn’t seem there’s a reason to though? It wasn’t interfering with you.