Your husband is not a valiant breadwinner nobly sacrificing himself for his family. He is a man living as though he were still single, with a pregnant wife and child tacked on as an occasional afterthought. Yes, he works long hours, but a considerable portion of those hours is voluntarily ceded to the gym, the pub, or side jobs for friends.
Meanwhile, you are thirty weeks pregnant, single-handedly raising a toddler, walking the dog, managing the household and a small business, and somehow expected to radiate gratitude because he has ‘given you’ a bigger house.
He may pay the bills, but financial contribution does not grant him a license to vanish from the daily life of his family. It’s not ‘providing’ if what he provides is absence and disappointment.
He knows you’re unhappy; he simply doesn’t care enough to enact lasting change. Worse, he turns your entirely justified frustrations into accusations that you are the problem, urging you to leave if you’re ‘never happy’.
You deserve far more than occasional gestures and the odd load of ironing. You deserve a partner who wants to parent his children, who values your well-being, and who understands that a family is not his one-man show with you as the slogging backstage crew.
So yes, your husband’s behaviour is profoundly lacking. And it’s time you stopped pleading for crumbs of his attention and started asking yourself whether this is truly the life you wish for yourself and your children. Because the truth is, he has not done ‘all he can’. He has merely done whatever he wishes.