FWB asking if I pulled

That’s a fair enough point ..
We are all entitled to our own view , you are right ..

I don’t text my friends or family every day never mind a FWB. He asked because you asked that’s fairly easy to say and you’re annoyed, hence which was his reaction when you asked him. You don’t need to know if he’s sleeping with anyone else and same applies to him. It sounds like you’re overly invested in this. Unless you have a friendship where you do stuff in a group and are actual friends I would limit your contact for just shags.

This. Don't waste any energy on it. He's just a penis.

How would her question make him feel like shit ?

Because it was a rather personal question, to which the OP says:

"He got annoyed with me for asking and said it wasn’t something he would ever ask me as it shouldn’t be either of our business as we aren’t a couple. And then just refused to answer the question".

That's not the reaction of someone who was overjoyed at what he'd been asked.

But regardless of this, I refer to my earlier point where I said you and I have differing viewpoints. I gave my advice, you chose to quote me and tell me I was wrong. I responded by saying neither of us is right or wrong, as we are not the people involved, so we don't actually know and never will.

I could continue to explain my thought processes to you until the point where one of us dies of old age, however, I am not going to do that. You have failed to convince me of your argument, and I have failed to convince you of mine. I will never change my mind on this, and nor will you. There is nothing in wrong in that at all.

How would her question make him feel like shit ?
I’d be pretty sure the reasoning behind him asking her the same question , is not because he’s finally given the opportunity to get his own back !
infact that sounds stupid tbh

I had a FWB who would send me messages like your guys, but it was because he would get off on thinking about me sleeping with other men, not because he was interested in being exclusive with me!

And I stand by the fact that he only did it to make her feel as shit as she had made him. I don't understand how anyone in his situation wouldn't realise that his behaviour was exactly what he'd told her off about. I believe he was waiting for his chance to do this, and she gave it to him in the fullness of time.

Yes , but what you say doesn’t make sense ..
He already said it isn’t any of her Business when she asked was he with others , & it was sorted & not brought up again ..
OP went away then for a weekend, & obviously on his mind , was she with anyone, so he asked , clear as day hoping that she wasn’t , giving absolutely zero thought back to when she asked him ..
like I say different set of rules for him ..

Well like anything that has to be done more than once in order to make a comparison, we will never know.

You think what you think. I will think what I think. It doesn't make either of us right or wrong.

That’s not it at all ..
He doesn’t want OP with anyone else , he’s a guy & they’re all ego !
They don’t like to share , one set of rules for them & another for us women ..

I'm sorry for sounding daft, old fashioned, and plain clueless - but why don't you just have a relationship with him?

It sounds as if you've both got feelings for each other. Can you just suggest/admit it to him?

Stop being his FWB. It's going to get awkward isn't it?

Makes sense if you’ve discussed it and agreed that, OP clearly hasn’t though and without a discussion friends with benefits is usually just that

Not necessarily. Sometimes there can be an understanding that you’re not dating because the relationship couldn’t go anywhere for XYZ reasons, but you want to sleep with each other exclusively without the expectation that you’ll get more serious as time goes on.

OP you know there aren’t actually rules on how relationships or situationships or FWB work? It’s something the people involved negotiate together. If you want an exclusive arrangement, even if it’s not a serious relationship, then you can ask for that. And the other person can agree or disagree. It’s not that hard or that strange a thing to ask for. You just say you don’t like to share even when it’s just a FWB thing so if he wants to see other people or meets someone else, that’s fine but your arrangement ends at that point.
From what you’ve said about this guy, he didn’t want to be exclusive. He might be jealous enough now that he’d consider it! But either way, you are half of this equation and you get to ask for what you want too - not just agree or disagree with what he’s told you he wants.

he's just asking to prove a point. You asked, so he'll ask.

Exactly this. I cannot believe how many people, including the OP, are blind to this.

If she hadn't asked, he probably wouldn't be either. He wants her to realise what it feels like, although on Mumsnet God help any man who tries to demonstrate to a woman how she pissed him off. I mean, it's a woman's right to do that, obvs.

It's the opportunity cost really.

Even if you're not desperate for a relationship (and with autism maybe you prefer a more detached style?) you do have time for one if you have time to see this guy regularly and message him every day.

You see him as good enough to be your boyfriend I take it?

I saw once on another post a good observation.

If you have.a good FWB then you often don't want to swap the "guaranteed good sex date" with someone unknown online or someone you don't know. You want the emotional certainty.

However, this then ties up your energy as you won't take the risk of meeting anyone new. And if he's dating others he'll drop you fast if he starts a relationship.

If you went on 1 online date and 1 new mixed social event every month for 2 years, over time you'd meet someone you liked as much who also wanted a relationship. Even if it was a bit shit at times meeting new people.

On a side note… don’t be too confident you are safe because you use condoms. Genital warts and genitalia herpes are transferred skin to skin. Often from skin that isn’t covered by a condom. Personally I wouldn’t want to sleep with someone who might be having multiple other partners at the same time (and probably does given that he disliked being asked).

I agree with others about sending his reply back to him. FWB is not something that’s supposed to be exclusive though, otherwise you’d be dating surely.

Either have a fuck buddy or a boyfriend. FWB is so confusing. It just sounds like you're in a relationship, but he can sleep with whoever he wants. Not sure why anyone would be OK with this. Don't waste your time, it's never going to develop into a relationship, free yourself up for someone to come along who loves you.

Is there some honest to God reason why you can’t be a couple ? All this sounds so ridiculous. He obviously likes you and you like him. You have been shagging for 8 months but more importantly - text everyday .. if you actually want a proper relationship then don’t settle for what he is offerering and the same goes for him.. one of you has to have the courage to say … I want more .. and if the other doesn’t then find someone else . FWB is just a nonsense… it’s ’you can sleep with me but you’re not good enough to have a relationship with…’ (you to him and him to you ) .. it’s just fucking weird and in all the times I’ve heard about it - it’s ALWAYS been the woman who would like more but is willing to take the crumbs .. then again I’m old . So what do I know ?

Agree with the others to screenshot his response