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Had an incident with a woman this morning who’d left her dog in a hot car.

86 replies

SquashMeDown · 29/06/2025 11:36

Went to town this morning, when I arrived and parked there was a car nearby with a dog barking and sounding upset.

I went to get a parking ticket and saw that a man was already watching the dog.

The windows were open a tiny bit but there were wind deflectors in the windows so only about a mm of ventilation. It’s a sunny day, and the temperature just over 20°.

The man then left but took a photo of the car.

I hung around for a few minutes wondering what to do. I was just going to get a drink, so took a photo of the outside of the car with its number plate, with the intention of coming straight back and deciding what to do. In all this took about 10 minutes.

As I was leaving a woman came up to me and aggressively told me to delete the photo, that she didn’t give me permission to take the photo. I pointed out I was worried about her dog so had hung around and didn’t want it to be hurt or die. She was so rude and aggressive, claimed she’d only been a couple of minutes (she wasn’t, she was at least 10 minutes). I stood my ground and explained I was just looking out for her dog, but she was so awful - she could have been lovely about it and appreciated that someone was looking out for her poor dog, but no, she was defensive and turned it all round on me.

AIBU for thinking that leaving a dog in a hot car for over 10 minutes is fucking cruel, and she did nothing to help herself by being so angry and rude?
Or should I just have minded my own business?

OP posts:
JackieWilsonsaiditstimeforbedlittleone · 29/06/2025 11:49

If she hadn’t of left her dog in a hot car you wouldn’t have had to take a photo. Simple!

She sounds like an idiot.

You did the right thing.

Gizlotsmum · 29/06/2025 11:48

She was never going to appreciate being told she was a bad owner ( she is but anyone leaving a dog in a car is not a reasonable person). However you did the right thing being aware of the situation, I would have probably reported it regardless.

Mandi26 · 29/06/2025 11:48

Always phone the police in this situation the call handler will talk you through what to do. I was advised to phone back after 10 minutes if the owner wasn’t back. The call is then logged, number plate taken etc if you end up taking matters into your own hands or they send a patrol car everything is documented and timed. I don’t understand why some people have pets to treat them like that.

Theseventhmagpie · 29/06/2025 11:48

You were 100% right.

TeenLifeMum · 29/06/2025 11:47

So you watched a dog suffering and took photos for 10 minutes? I’m not sure you’re the hero in the piece you think you are. She was clearly wrong and you can legally keep your photos for your fb rant on the local group later.

Astrak · 29/06/2025 11:46

In my opinion, you did exactly the right thing. Dogs can die in these circumstances.

MrsSkylerWhite · 29/06/2025 11:46

Report to RSpCA. She needs a stiff talking to. Who on earth doesn’t know that dogs/kids (anyone, really, shouldn’t be left in hot cars?

hiintrepidheroes · 29/06/2025 11:46

You did the right thing. I’m disgusted at people taking their dogs out in the city centre in the middle of the day at the moment.

IglesiasPiggl · 29/06/2025 11:44

You were right to look out for the dog. And people don't need to give you permission to photograph their car in a public place.

faeriesandelves · 29/06/2025 11:39

Absolutely you’re right and I would have done the same as you. Poor dog

Hotelmotelholidayinnnnnn · 29/06/2025 11:38

I would report her and keep the photo
you did the right thing