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Asking a child’s mother to pay for replacement pastry?!

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HeatingFiddler · 29/06/2025 08:03

Yesterday at my local coffee shop/bakery I had my pastry on a tray on the counter and was waiting for my coffee. In front of me was a mum with two kids.

One of the kids was fairly young and kept touching everything including glass cabinets, tables, chairs, the self-serve cutlery. She also kept putting her fingers in her mouth and hair. As kids do.

Anyway. She suddenly grabbed my pastry! I shrieked (probably an over reaction, but god the child has literally just shove her fingers in her mouth moments before). Kids mum turned around and asked what the problem was. I said that her child had just touched my pastry, after putting her fingers in her mouth.
And she said, ‘oh. Kids will be kids. I’m sure it’s fine.’

Obviously, I said, ‘kids will not just be kids. It’s unhygienic and poor /parenting and I would like for you to buy me a replacement.’

She said ‘if it’s that big of an issue I’m sure you can ask the staff for a new one.’

At this point a member of staff arrived. I explained the situation and said, ‘I don’t think a replacement should come from you. This happened because the child was not being supervised. The child’s mother should pay.’

Anyway, in the end the child’s mother agreed to pay and she took the one her child had touched and they ate it and then left.

Was I being unreasonable to say the mother should pay and to refuse to eat the pastry after that? I genuinely don’t think The coffee shop should have had to front a replacement either - it wasn’t their error!

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Baggingarea · 29/06/2025 08:16

I have a germy toddler and agree she should have offered to pay! I dont know if i would have pressed the issue however.

nomas · 29/06/2025 08:11

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nomas · 29/06/2025 08:10

ruralmural · 29/06/2025 08:08

No, op still pays for her one.

Yes, but the child’s mum had to pay for the replacement, and rightly so.

BedChem · 29/06/2025 08:10

This actually happened...?

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ruralmural · 29/06/2025 08:08

Tontostitis · 29/06/2025 08:07

I think you were absolutely within your rights to ask the mother to pay for a new one. Years ago I banged on someone's door and demanded 50p for a new donut as their super reactive dog terrified my son into dropping his. Looking back in pretty sure it was exhaustion and pmt but I got the 50p. 😂

No, op still pays for her one.

Tontostitis · 29/06/2025 08:07

I think you were absolutely within your rights to ask the mother to pay for a new one. Years ago I banged on someone's door and demanded 50p for a new donut as their super reactive dog terrified my son into dropping his. Looking back in pretty sure it was exhaustion and pmt but I got the 50p. 😂

nomas · 29/06/2025 08:07

YANBU. Why would anyone want to eat her child’s saliva, the deluded fool. Well done!

Moonnstars · 29/06/2025 08:06

YANBU. If she knows 'kids will be kids' then she should be watching hers more carefully. I hope she actually paid for two pastries considering you said she took the one the child had touched and not just paid for yours.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 29/06/2025 08:04

YANBU. Hopefully she will watch her child more attentively next time.