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To say this weather is causing me to become depressed

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allofusare · 29/06/2025 06:50

I know it sounds like I’m some sort of misery reveller, after all long hot days are supposed to be what we all love, but I’m really, genuinely struggling.

I haven’t slept well for weeks due to the heat and neither have the children. Late nights and early wake ups. Stuffy bedrooms even with fans circulating,

During the day it’s so hot. When in work I feel like I’m slowly melting in stuffy classrooms with kids whining endlessly about water bottles and crackling ice. On my days off (I’m part time) it’s often overwhelming, especially in the middle of the day. Constantly worrying about the children burning - one insisted on standing outside yesterday just for the hell of it with no hat or sun cream and had to be dragged in forcefully. Everyone’s just irritable with one another, the car is like an oven when you get in it, flies, fucking FLIES.

And there’s this low level pressure to be out enjoying it. One of our soft play centres has actually put out an appeal just begging people to attend because the hot weather means it’s been empty for weeks.

I want autumn now. I want coolness and leaves turning and rain.

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flapjackfairy · 02/07/2025 18:49

OntheBorder1 · 29/06/2025 22:49

Another one with no comprehension skills!!!! I did not say people like your child have to get a grip, I was talking about the average MNer who can't seem to cope with temperatures over 25 degrees or anything else for that matter

Why do so many posters take everything as if it is aimed solely at them?

I merely asked about the excess deaths because I have never heard anything about excess deaths in summer where I live so I was just curious. OK?

nothing wrong with my comprehension thanks.
you posted in a snarky way ( obviously having a pop at those woosie brits thinking it is hot. ) You then implied that excess deaths were a figment of the medical professionals and asked what kind of people die of excess heat. I replied in kind and gave you a clear example and now myself and other people have been irked by your tone you claim you were only ever intrigued .
It may be the hottest place on earth where you live for all know and perhaps no one succumbs in your country but that doesn't mean it is the same everywhere.

Cherrytree86 · 02/07/2025 12:56

greencartbluecart · 30/06/2025 17:17

Nobody promised us nice weather but we really shouldn’t have fucked with it the way we have for the last 40 years ( when we knew we had a problem )

@greencartbluecart

most people are just living their lives not fucking about with the weather. I don’t feel guilty 🤷‍♀️

greencartbluecart · 30/06/2025 17:17

Nobody promised us nice weather but we really shouldn’t have fucked with it the way we have for the last 40 years ( when we knew we had a problem )

bookworm14 · 30/06/2025 17:03

user8429706521 · 30/06/2025 13:36

@estrogone my Granny had a theory that you like the weather how it was when you were born - true for me as a sun seeker born in the 1970’s heatwave. Years!

Definitely holds true for me - I was born in January and can’t bear the heat!

Sessanta · 30/06/2025 15:55

user8429706521 · 30/06/2025 13:36

@estrogone my Granny had a theory that you like the weather how it was when you were born - true for me as a sun seeker born in the 1970’s heatwave. Years!

She might have had something there. Just checked back to when I was born at the start of the1960s.

34 degrees.

I’m not a sun seeker but I have no problems with very warm weather. Love it!

marshmallowfinder · 30/06/2025 13:48

chillinwithmygnomies · 29/06/2025 06:55

Move to south wales, the weathers shite here!

Absolute rubbish. It's hideous beyond in Monmouthshire and has been for days. It's currently 28 degrees and unbearable.

GoldDuster · 30/06/2025 13:42

greencartbluecart · 29/06/2025 07:23

I am guessing you are in the rather hot south where the medical profession is geared towards a risk to life on account of the heat rather than somewhere else in the uk

but hey - let’s enjoy the damaging heat shall we ?

they estimated 600 excess deaths occurred a few weeks ago, and I guess the same over the next few days

we do get excess deaths in cold spells - but the difference is that after the cold spell the death rate drops as the people who die in the cold often didn’t have long to live anyway. Deaths due to heat however add to the years death rate - these would not have happened

yes cold and wet isn’t fun but that doesn’t mean we have to say excess heat is fun or better - objectively it’s worse

I like to think of it as just The Weather. Nobody promised the humans temperate comfort in all places at all times forever.

TheEllisGreyMethod · 30/06/2025 13:40

I'm with you, my work in a hospital is unbearable - horrible uniform and minimal access to water.
Then my dd isn't sleeping, so I'm tired and grumpy and she is tired and living her terrible 2s to the extreme.
Feels relentless, keep telling myself it won't be as bad when she is older.

user8429706521 · 30/06/2025 13:36

@estrogone my Granny had a theory that you like the weather how it was when you were born - true for me as a sun seeker born in the 1970’s heatwave. Years!

estrogone · 30/06/2025 13:31

I think some humans are cold humans and some are warm humans. We can't escape our type.

I am a cold human. I hate the heat, it makes me feel lethargic, my mood is low and I feel generally miserable. I feel like I can't get enough oxygen. It's a physical reaction that is truly unpleasant.

My DH is a warm human. He hates short days and loathes icy weather. He becomes grumpy and irritable (bear with a sore arse) during winter.

The best advice I can give is be prepared to invest in making life more comfortable.

We have aircon for the summer and a fireplace for winter. We sold our car and figure the cost and environmental saving gives us leeway.

I have a wardrobe of cool summer shifts and moisture wicking tees/shirts.
DH has the best winter coat he can afford.

My long winded point is that you can make life bearable with a modest outlay, it just costs a bit.

verycloakanddaggers · 30/06/2025 11:20

EscapeToSuffolk · 29/06/2025 23:21

I wonder if people will still be saying "It's just summer blah blah" in ten years time when it will probably regularly be over 40C in summer.

Why does no-one acknowledge climate change? It's odd. I know the last two summers haven't been particularly warm but they've not been normal either. And yes, the anomaly of 1976🙄

The majority of people accept the science, then you get a split in the minority between those who dont understand the science and those who are climate change deniers.

Going on about 1976 is Hmm indeed.

Havetheweekendoffreports · 30/06/2025 06:09

EscapeToSuffolk · 29/06/2025 23:21

I wonder if people will still be saying "It's just summer blah blah" in ten years time when it will probably regularly be over 40C in summer.

Why does no-one acknowledge climate change? It's odd. I know the last two summers haven't been particularly warm but they've not been normal either. And yes, the anomaly of 1976🙄

Oh they said that 10 years ago
and 10 years before that
and 10 years before that

Sessanta · 29/06/2025 23:54

EscapeToSuffolk · 29/06/2025 23:21

I wonder if people will still be saying "It's just summer blah blah" in ten years time when it will probably regularly be over 40C in summer.

Why does no-one acknowledge climate change? It's odd. I know the last two summers haven't been particularly warm but they've not been normal either. And yes, the anomaly of 1976🙄

1976 was warm but it was unusual because of the associated drought.

The year before was warm too.

To say this weather is causing me to become depressed
EscapeToSuffolk · 29/06/2025 23:21

I wonder if people will still be saying "It's just summer blah blah" in ten years time when it will probably regularly be over 40C in summer.

Why does no-one acknowledge climate change? It's odd. I know the last two summers haven't been particularly warm but they've not been normal either. And yes, the anomaly of 1976🙄

Simplelifenodrama · 29/06/2025 23:06

I am exactly like this OP. I hate it really hot. I can't do anything , really unmotivated, don't sleep, moody and low. There are others like you out there. Bring on some rain, and Autumn, can't wait. My fear is that most summers are going to be like this from now on.

CheerfulYank · 29/06/2025 22:52

YANBU. I HATE summer. We have window AC units so it’s bearable, but the humidity gives me migraines, 14 weeks off of school is far too many for my DC, and I feel guilty that I’m not out doing more with them…but when we do go somewhere “fun” I just feel sweaty and grubby and annoyed.

OntheBorder1 · 29/06/2025 22:49

flapjackfairy · 29/06/2025 14:39

I have a child with complex needs and poor lungs. He literally cannot go out if it is too hot and humid. The humid air contains more moisture than dry air so it is literally heavy. so he has to work v hard to keep his oxygen levels up. He inevitably gets tired and his saturation levels start to crash. He relies on oxygen and a bipap machine to keep him alive .
So these are the kind of people who die in v hot and humid weather.But I will just tell him to get a grip and stop making a fuss about the heat. Thanks for the tip !

Edited

Another one with no comprehension skills!!!! I did not say people like your child have to get a grip, I was talking about the average MNer who can't seem to cope with temperatures over 25 degrees or anything else for that matter

Why do so many posters take everything as if it is aimed solely at them?

I merely asked about the excess deaths because I have never heard anything about excess deaths in summer where I live so I was just curious. OK?

OntheBorder1 · 29/06/2025 22:39

PumpkinSparkleFairy · 29/06/2025 08:48

Yep I’m not a fan of 30+ temps either (SE England here).

We need rain badly for the garden. Sun is so fierce it’s little fun doing much outside. We have a few jobs to do outside but not fancying pulling up driveway bricks in this heat! We have an 8 month old and she’s tossing and turning more at night. Good drying weather on the upside 😂

I don’t want autumn to come but I want the heatwaves to break! Low 20s fine by me!

ETA I’m loving the pp who doesn’t believe in excess heat-related deaths, that’s those silly dead people told 😂

Edited

I never said I didn't believe the heat related deaths, I merely enquired about them. We have far more days with hot weather here than you do in the UK and I've never read anything about heat related deaths here, never given it a thought, so I wondered why it was such a big thing in the UK yet never mentioned here.

People in the UK bang on and on about how hot it is and how dry. I've yet to see farms in the UK covered in huge irrigators as they are here to achieve green pasture, and the ozone layer over us is thinner so we burn more easily than you guys do - and yet you carry on as though you live in the hottest place on earth.

Crikeyalmighty · 29/06/2025 14:59

Hazy and warm but not baking here in Bath -

flapjackfairy · 29/06/2025 14:57

Havetheweekendoffreports · 29/06/2025 14:54

I highly highly recommend the Meaco fans

Game changer

thank you.

Havetheweekendoffreports · 29/06/2025 14:54

flapjackfairy · 29/06/2025 14:53

I can't say that my son would never be a statistic .He even struggles indoors but also people with asthma and other lung conditions can also really struggle. Why is it so hard to believe that heat waves cause additional.deaths,?

I highly highly recommend the Meaco fans

Game changer

flapjackfairy · 29/06/2025 14:53

Havetheweekendoffreports · 29/06/2025 14:42

Presumably your son isn’t ever in the heat
so would never form part of those statistics
so the PP’s posters question still stands

I can't say that my son would never be a statistic .He even struggles indoors but also people with asthma and other lung conditions can also really struggle. Why is it so hard to believe that heat waves cause additional.deaths,?

Havetheweekendoffreports · 29/06/2025 14:42

flapjackfairy · 29/06/2025 14:39

I have a child with complex needs and poor lungs. He literally cannot go out if it is too hot and humid. The humid air contains more moisture than dry air so it is literally heavy. so he has to work v hard to keep his oxygen levels up. He inevitably gets tired and his saturation levels start to crash. He relies on oxygen and a bipap machine to keep him alive .
So these are the kind of people who die in v hot and humid weather.But I will just tell him to get a grip and stop making a fuss about the heat. Thanks for the tip !

Edited

Presumably your son isn’t ever in the heat
so would never form part of those statistics
so the PP’s posters question still stands

flapjackfairy · 29/06/2025 14:39

OntheBorder1 · 29/06/2025 08:42

Good grief - it really doesn't get that hot in the UK, and it's about time people started learning how to deal with it. Who on earth are all these people dying from the heat?

I have a child with complex needs and poor lungs. He literally cannot go out if it is too hot and humid. The humid air contains more moisture than dry air so it is literally heavy. so he has to work v hard to keep his oxygen levels up. He inevitably gets tired and his saturation levels start to crash. He relies on oxygen and a bipap machine to keep him alive .
So these are the kind of people who die in v hot and humid weather.But I will just tell him to get a grip and stop making a fuss about the heat. Thanks for the tip !

Havetheweekendoffreports · 29/06/2025 13:23

What have you and family done this weekend op?