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What time would you put an 11 and 13 year old to bed over the holidays?

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Purpleturtle43 · 28/06/2025 20:43

If you have nothing for the kids to get up for in the morning? My husband and I can't agree what time is reasonable and looking for opinions.

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DongDingBell · 28/06/2025 20:54

We enforce screens downstairs and kids in rooms, but don't mandate the lights off.
At 11, I probably stuck my head round the door if the lights were still on when I went to bed (10-ish), but just to check they hadn't fallen asleep with the lights on, and say night again.

Shetlands · 28/06/2025 20:52

In bed by 10pm and out of their pits by 10am.

Swifey40 · 28/06/2025 20:52

I have a 10 and 13 year old. The 10 year old is in bed by 8.30, lights off at 9pm. The 13 year old is lights off at 9.30, unless we are out or watching a film. They still both are awake at 6 to 6.30, so no way they are going later than that. I rather like 😉 dh and we need to have some time together!

TomatoSandwiches · 28/06/2025 20:51

10pm and 10:30pm if they have separate rooms, in their bedrooms at 9:30 though, lights and screens of at the former and second.

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Purpleturtle43 · 28/06/2025 20:49

By putting to bed I mean lights out and screens off. Do people just let their 13 year year old decide when that happens?

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Trinity69 · 28/06/2025 20:48

My 13 year old would laugh me down the stairs if I tried to put her to bed! She’s usually up later than me, although I do stay up past 9 in the holidays.

Namechangedforspooky · 28/06/2025 20:46

I don’t put my 12 yo to bed . No rules really other than she needs to be in bed when we’re in bed and also get up in the morning without fuss!

Bertielong3 · 28/06/2025 20:45

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didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 28/06/2025 20:45

It depends if you want to spend any time with your husband

PeriJane · 28/06/2025 20:44

Why are you ‘putting’ kids of that age to bed in the first place? Can’t they put themselves to bed? Especially the 13 year old!

SilviaSnuffleBum · 28/06/2025 20:44

10/11pm?

Gemmawemma9 · 28/06/2025 20:44

I wouldn’t. They’re both secondary school age.
What I would do is make sure they’re not rotting in bed all day so they maintain some semblance of routine over the holidays, I’d expect them up and about by 9ish. But I wouldn’t be enforcing a bed time at their age.