What time would you put an 11 and 13 year old to bed over the holidays?

My 10 and 12 yos are awake at 7 no matter what so generally about half nine for ten year old, twelve year old half ten (edited to add and sometimes before that depending on how tired or how mad a day it was)

9 for 11 year old and 9.30 for 13 year old

Do you have a 17 year old ?

My 11 year old mostly goes to bed before I prompt her because she’s tired. That’s normally around 10pm. My 13 year old would stay up past midnight if I let him, so it’s usually 11pm if we don’t have to get up and out first thing.

Screens off at 9pm can read / chill till 10pm. I don’t think I’m overly strict. 12/14 here. I think it’s good to have downtime before bed and they do need limits.

930-10 I’d say

They need to manage themselves. Mine are 14 and 15, bedtime is around 11pm

Now I would say at 12 8pm is so early, I can't imagine it, from about age 6/7 mine played cricket, tennis, football and theuly all finsihed after 8pm. Different people have different sleep needs as well as different times they need to get up. Mine didnt have to get up till 715/730 so no need to go to sleep before 11. They'd chill in their rooms and sleep when they needed to.

10 and 12 seems really young to be up so late, are they knackered the next day?

I need a fair bit of sleep so I’m usually in bed by 10 and asleep by 10.30. At that age my dd would have been in bed and asleep by 9 in the holidays (8 during term time.)

I appreciate what you're saying; different hourses for different courses.
My 7 year olds go to bed at 9 and wake up the next day (mainly) refreshed.
So, yeah, I guess 10/11 for a tween and teen doesn't sound too late to me.

I’ve a 12yo and a 9yo. They share a bedroom and I put them to bed at the same time. I read them a few pages of whatever we’re on at the time (rn it’s Harry Potter), then sit with them til they’re asleep. School nights, lights are out by 9pm. Weekends/holidays, 9:30-10ish. X

It isn’t really that I monitor it now, more that we did it for years when they got phones, around secondary time, that it’s just habit for everyone to give me their phone around 10. My 17yo is actually the best in the house, much better than I am, at putting down her phone to wind down for bed.

Mine are

6 - school night 7 lights out 7:30, summer hols 8 lights out 8:30

11 - school night 8:00 lights out 8:45 (he needs a LOT of sleep and gets up at 7am bang on every day)
holidays 8:30 lights out 9:15 unless we’re out or he’s got friends etc

kids don’t suddenly turn into adults at 18. It’s a gradual process whereby from mid teens to 18 they gradually have more responsibilities, freedoms etc. If a 17 year old has been micromanaged to the extent that their screen time is managed, they’ll be a useless adult. The point is help our children grow into functional, independent adults capable of navigating the world on their own. Of course we still help and support them- I still help my 19 year old with loads of stuff when he needs me, but they need to be given some independence and opportunities to show their capabilities.

Our 11yo gets sent upstairs by 9:30pm as he wakes up at 6:00-6:30am still. We don’t police his lights off but he knows he has trouble sleeping if he doesn’t turn it off by 10pm.

We read to him too. It’s nice.

You read to your 13 year old 🤔?

I’m finding it baffling a 17 year old needs bossing about and micromanaging about screen times/bedtimes.

has been working full time since she was just turned 17, cannot imagine infantizing her when she brings home more than me and helps pay the rent 😂

10pm.

I just turn the wifi off. That works like magic😅 They then get into bed and read for a bit or just go to sleep. Depending on their plans for the next day, in the holidays, I probably turn the wifi off at 10ish if not already quiet in their rooms

That seems very late for an 11 year old - they are still growing, and need at least 8 hours of sleep per night (more actually).

Aiming for a 9pm "in bed" results in my kids and nephews/nieces getting far better sleep - if they aren't sleepy at that time they are of course allowed to read books - we have tons of them, and the 13 year old has a kindle (one that isn't attached to the internet) so they can read as much as they like. The younger one likes graphic novels and non-fiction, but we try to encourage fiction reading (the stats on that helping their reading age are incredible, and it also seems to help them sleep better). They seem far happier with an earlier bed time than a later one, and we have far less "melt downs" and requests for snacks etc etc the next day.

At that age?? Yikes - they are still pretty young and have a lot of sleeping to do - I would suggest at the very least 9pm - with the proviso that if they are still tired they can read in bed. But absolutely NO electronics in their bedrooms.

They're far too old to be getting put to bed! Leave them to it, they should be able to go to bed when they want to.

I'd put them to bed just before me so I can chill for a while tidy up for the morning depending on plans and accommodation

Mine get sent upstairs by 1030pm.