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Friend told ex where I’m now living

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Imbadwithmakingnames · 28/06/2025 18:08

I left a mentally abusive marriage a few years ago. I’ve restarted my life in a different part of the country and I didn’t want him to know I had moved away.

A friend of mine saw him recently. I know he’s still an alcoholic and has mental health issues. She said she was worried about him and decided it was right to tell him where I was living.

She didn’t inform me of this, I just got a message from him saying she had told him and asking if it was true.

I feel betrayed and I don’t think it was right of her telling him. She’s since wrote a message to me with excuses, not even the word sorry mentioned anywhere. I’m heart broken as I trusted her.

I really don’t know where to go from here. I don’t think I can ever be friends again now.

Am I over reacting?

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AcquadiP · 28/06/2025 18:15

And no you're not overreacting. If she was worried about him, she could have just contacted you to let you know and then you could decide what, if anything, to do about it. She's not a friend, OP. I wouldn't trust her ever again.

Hedgingmybetching · 28/06/2025 18:13

No that's totally unacceptable! How much does your ex know? Your actual address or just the town?

So sorry your friend did this! What on Earth was she thinking?!

Pedallleur · 28/06/2025 18:13

No friend of yours then is she? Just block them both. Tell her nothing.

AcquadiP · 28/06/2025 18:11

What the hell?!

Has she given him your address or just told him you're living in a certain village, town, city or county?