Help me feel ok about this will

She'll probably still get the emails!

I knew the general standard of reading comprehension on this site was poor but fucking hell, this takes the biscuit

I'd go no contact. She can have amazing time getting prescheduled emails from these charities for her birthdays.

She’s dead 😂

She’s dead.

She was thinking of the greater good. You should try it!

I worked in probate for many years and have seen enough of this sort of absolute nonsense that nothing shocks or even mildly surprises me. Just let it go, OP. And if it's your husband who's enraged by the "unfairness" if it, give him a slap round the chops from me. Not his money, not his business to decide how his aunt should have disposed of it. The same, by the way, goes for parents!

Oh ffs MN are bat shit crazy abour wills.

Obviously if person got living relatives you will make their life as comfortable as you can unless you have beyond damaged relationship with all.

I'd go no contact. She can have amazing time getting prescheduled emails from these charities for her birthdays.
Daft cow.

I think 50k is a pretty good inheritance! I’ve lost every relative apart from my younger brother and never inherited a penny.

I disagree. There's lots of different reasons someone might leave money to charity. As long as you've made provision for dependents - and by that I mean under 18s, maybe young adult children at university, an adult disabled child who cannot live independently - then it is not selfish to give money to charities that mean something to you. There's a big difference between need and want.

This actually has to be a piss take.. no one could be so ungrateful surely..

when I read these will posts their are people who express distress that the will does not reflect the nature of their relationship ie they loved their mother dearly but the will was geared towards a less wealthy sibling so they feel hurt - or ones like your's where there is zero mention of a relationship with the deceased other than a blood tie and its all about the money they expected because of that.

Often people leave a specific amount to beneficiaries and the rest to charity because they don't know how much the estate will be worth.

So leaving everyone £50k 10-15 years ago may have been thought of as a reasonable sum, assuming only £50k left for a charity. The problem comes when any property rapidly appreciates and the remainder vastly outweighs the sums left to beneficiaries.

One of fhe posts I saw on here about inheritance will always linger with me. A poster was bemoaning the fact that people tend to live for longer these days and this meant that they would have to wait until they were well into middle age to inherit! Greed and entitlement writ large

Can’t be given £800k to charities when you have close family members that need it

We don’t know that the OP’s partner needs it. Maybe he just wants it.

50k would literally change my life so I can't get my head around your reaction I'm sorry... I honestly think it's a lovely thing to do for a charity and a really nice way to leave your mark when you go. To be honest even if my own mum did that I wouldn't be that devastated because she's done more for me throughout my life than I could ever repay her for both financially and emotionally so yeah to be your being v v v v v unreasonable. I'm sure you have your reasons though...

You’d probably get agro from people but if you’re here complaining then off course your husband is probably upset and rightly so. This is my opinion on it. Everyone is entitled to spend their money how they want however anyone who gives money away to charities when they have blood family ( who they have great relationships with and not just cultures you’ve never seen that turn up when you are dead) is not a nice person. Charity begins at home! Can’t be given £800k to charities when you have close family members that need it. But when you’re dead you’re dead, nothing changes except my opinion of Aunty Bessie.

So you think 50k isn't a large sum of money???

@TerryWogansWig ,tbf if I was your DH and you were complaining about receiving 50k I'd make sure that about 75% was put in trust for your DCS / young nephew/ nieces aa you obviously don't think it's worth having.

I think you're confusing the feeling of being massively disappointed with the feeling of injustice. That's not me being snarky, it's just what I think is going on here. Intentionally or not, you've assumed a huge, life-changing sum of money was likely to be coming your way - who wouldn't hope for that? Who doesn't mentally think of all the good that could come of it in their own lives?

And then once you find out you're getting a (still life-changing, for lots of people, and very generous) smaller sum, you feel like you've 'lost' 250k (or 375k, I guess, if DH's mum has died). That has got to feel disappointing and bit surprising.

But you haven't lost anything - you've gained 50k, and your assumptions have made it feel like a loss. So THAT feels unfair - because you feel like you've had something taken from you. I get it, but you need to just....give your head a bit of a wobble. It wasn't ever money that was yours, and when it comes to wills there is no 'fair'. You still got a lovely windfall and many, many, many people will never inherit a penny: lucky you.

I think a lot of people, whether they’d admit it or not, feel entitled to deceased relatives’ money. It doesn’t sound nice when you say it like that, but it’s almost a socially acceptable form of greed.

I assume they actually got 75K, as the mom already died so if they got her share and was split between the 2 kids.

something that is close to your heart means that it has value to you, not that you need anyone's permission who you leave your money to; that you have stated this to those, 'expecting,' what is your intentions are leaves no room for disappointment or expectation.

But if one has been told that they will inherit, or if has been inferred, feel it's understandable to be disappointed.

My great aunt cared for her parents for 20 years, and although there wasn't a direct inheritance, after a compulsory purchase of the land, my grandfather, as executor felt it was morally right to give her the proceeds.

She had a blast with the £1.5m.

Unjust in what way? Don’t you think she was of sound mind when she made her decision?

It’s ok to feel disappointed, OP. We are expectant of ‘something’ from my husband grandmother one day, which would be very welcome as we are getting increasingly worried about the mortgage after some real bad luck in recent years. We will get over it of course, but I can understand the initial feeling.

It’s irrelevant how the charities spend their money though. The aunt decided where she wanted her money to go, and she no doubt had her reasons for that. No one is entitled to anyone else’s cash.

Op you do NOT have ti adjust your views
I’m shocked at some of these replies.
Not sure if it’s jealousy or ‘money is the root all evil’
A lot of good can be done with money.