Help me feel ok about this will

She’s an only child. Her parents own a half a million pound house and both have good paying jobs. Believe me, she’ll be fine!

Word for word this.
When I became aware from a friend exactly the perks involved in working for a well known charity and found out that it is in fact extremely common, I cancelled every single direct debit I had to them. I had about 6 at the time.

I am now extremely selective to whom I donate and keep it local if I can.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to wish the money had gone to family rather than charity, but it is what it is, this was her wish. Spend the 50k doing something to honour her and be grateful anything at all was left.

The charities only got the balance of the estate after your DH’s share was paid out. She made sure your DH’s share was safe. Does that help?

My uncle and aunt had no children between them, although he had a son with another woman during their marriage. On second death their combined estate was split between his son, three grandchildren and two nephews and my aunt's six nieces and nephews (a total of 12 beneficiaries) we each received £52k and it was very welcome.

Loubylie what a stupid statement. For starters the ops dh inherited from an aunt. I inherited from two of mine. And had it occurred to you single childless people may have other family or friends to leave things too.

Giving 800k to charity over blood family is ludicrous. I would be very upset.

It was her money, and it was what she wanted. It's fine to be upset, but it doesnt change anything and the only person affected by your upset is you, so it feels a bit pointless.

I can understand why you feel this was unfair-I would too. So often in the media we hear of money being left to family members who deserve it least.

Then I guess your ds will be getting a lot of money as and when

Good point@loveautumn.

I am sorry for your loss but honestly this isn’t about you - don’t be so ridiculous.

People are so envious in the U.K. - and get offended by any and every thing. Loads of pps pretending they wouldn’t feel disappointed by this. Going on about “entitlement” - that’s generally how inheritance works! In fact if you die intestate there’s a list of priority for family members to inherit.

Giving 800k to charity over blood family is ludicrous. I would be very upset.

So you don’t need help with getting over her death, just her money which you feel entitled to.

Same here.

We had a neighbour, an elderly lady, who told DH and I she was leaving us 'something' in her will. We had an idea she told other people the same thing too.
She developed dementia had to go into care and was there for some years, her house was sold to pay for it and a guardian appointed to look after her affairs. (This is not cheap.)
After her death we were very surprised to find she had indeed left us a nice (low five figures) amount, we raised a glass in her honour. We thought all her money would have been spent on care home fees and legal expenses from the guardian.
On the other hand, my childless and widowed aunt, who I was close to, left her entire estate to two local hospitals. She was a retired nursing sister and a great fan of the NHS. Can't complain, really. 😂

I would be shocked too if you had not been aware these charities were important to her. We support a couple of charities by giving small amounts and those who know would not be surprised if we left them money in a will (even though we don't plan to, as we will leave it to our children). We actually don't give a lot regularly but try to support them in other ways such as fundraising, donating to their charity shop etc.

In contrast, my parents are not committed to any particular charity, so I would be very surprised if they planned to leave money to one.

It's not unreasonable to leave money to charity but that is a huge amount and I would wonder why she decided to do that and not talk about it to her loved ones.

Because she loves him to bits but can’t really be arsed with me.. or my sister. Who doesn’t have children and will be getting nothing either 🙄

I'm afraid your initial response has been crass and grabby and possibly explains why your DH's aunt decided to leave her money as she did. The charity beneficiaries are probably more grateful than you would have been, however much you had got.

It’s people behaving like the OP about wills and money that has made me determined to spend every last bit before I die. I’m leaving nothing. I’m going on cruises, eating a restaurants, buying expensive body care products, going to concerts, getting my hair done weekly, whatever I want. If there is anything left, it’s going to charity.

Maybe she did, and would still rather her money went there than to grabby relatives?

Silly aunt didn't know how terrible charities are with money!

Its nice to see an OP that actually listens to everyones opinion for a change and reconsiders their point of view. Half the time time i think people who post on AIBU just want validation

But why is that the responsibility of ops DPs aunt? Surely its OP and her DHs responsibility to help their children?

We don't even know how involved OP and her DH were involved in the aunts life. As I said above, most ppl don't expect to inherit from aunties and uncles because most people still have children so tend to leave stuff to their own kids.

50k from an auntie is a huge bonus most ppl would be grateful for.

Vile. If I were unfortunate enough to be related to you I'd leave you one fucking penny and the rest to a hit man to take you out.

And the only person who would be affected by you being ‘pissed’ would be you. The money would still be going where the deceased person wanted it to go.

Did DH get some of the mother’s share as well?