Help me feel ok about this will

You don't sound the type to get over it, but it may prove a valuable lesson.
An inheritance is neither owed nor guaranteed.

Presumably you'll actually be getting £75k (or your husband, but it sounds as though you'll be making sure what's his is yours.) If his mother also inherited £50k and recently died, you and your sil will be sharing that too - unless of course she also selfishly denied you her full fortune. Does that help you feel a bit better?

Wow greedy and entitled much. Sounds like she knew exactly what she was doing!

It sort of depends on your relationship with the aunt.
If your DH acted like a son visiting several times a week, doing jobs, sorting out her affairs etc you might reasonably expect more. If he phoned her 4 times a year then you have been very lucky.

How did you know what she had in savings and assets, what made you assume it would be split 4 ways?
I can only assume that the 4 parties were discussing this poor ladies death, assets and will before she actually died.
Which is really horrible.

That makes me feel rich! DB and I got a little over £10k each.

I can top that. My father cut me out of his will without telling me. When I found out and asked him why, he said I was “irrelevant to the family” because I don’t have children whereas my siblings do.
He was a vicious bully and a nasty bit of work my whole life though.

It's ok to have feelings, its fine to ask about those feelings and are they valid - better to accept the situation and work through it than harbour a grudge.

I thought op had asked how to get over it, nothing wrong with asking how to sort out and arrange your feelings about something

My natural assumption would be an aunt without issue would leave her estate to charity, unless I knew otherwise.

£50K is a lovely amount.

We have only got one child and as it stands, if he predeceases us, the bulk of our estate goes to charity too. DH’s sister is wealthy and her children will be well provided for (we also have a very minimal relationship with SIL). My brother has no children and is much older than me (he also has plenty of money). SIL’s children and my brother (and a few other people) get a specified sum.

If it makes you feel better… my dad had a mortgage free house quite early as my mum died when I was a child. He married again. She also had a mortgage free house due to the early death of her husband (her kids were older but they lost their dad as children too). They sold these houses and bought a business. Didn’t go well - lost all their money and now too old/unfit to work. Us ‘kids’ ended up inheriting about £2K each eventually. Don’t think the parent who died early would’ve been pleased! Oh well - such is life! Sure it was worse for them. Thankfully, we’ve made our own money!

you got 50k for nothing be gratful

Exactly what I was going to say! I realise it’s not a race to the bottom but £50k would be life-changing for me. YABU.

To be honest your OP didn’t scream ‘grieving devoted relative’. You only mentioned the inheritance.

If she’d specified a particular amount to the charities and the residue to the beneficiaries they could have ended up with less than they are receiving, or nothing if the specified requests took up the whole estate. Specific bequests always come out the estate before anything else. If your DH Aunt ended spending a lot on a care home, there may not have been any residue once the specific requests were taken care off and therefore a risk that your DH was left with a lesser amount or nothing. I hope his is feeling more blessed than you do with his inheritance.

Go into the bathroom, look in the mirror and say loudly "stop being such a greedy bitch". It won't help but you need to hear it.

I spluttered my dinner. 50k from anyone, even more not a parent is beyond generous. She was entitled to do what she wished with her money.

My mother passed less than 2 months ago. I've got over 7k funeral debt and at least one other and not a penny as she didn't have it.

But honestly. She could have had millions. I'd rather give it all up and have her back.

I can't even with the entitlement!!

Yeah. Because grief just DRIPS from your post 🤣🤣 You’re grabby and disappointed. Just own it!

That’s sad

It sounds like you're grieving the money rather than the person

Focus on the fact that the 4 expected beneficiaries got the same. That’s fair and not contentious at all. If the amounts were not equal then I might have had some sympathy.

Do you disapprove of the charities that benefitted ?

My ancestor was a multi millionaire who left the bulk of his fortune to charity. He left a bit of money to his sons and grandsons and various relations. Also to servants etc. I think he thought there were many better causes to spread his money around.

£50k is still a lot. Your DH shouldn’t have acted so entitled to expect it frankly. Perhaps auntie could have made it clear but perhaps she had no idea that her own relatives were counting on it. Count your blessings and move on.

50 k is a lot, not £5, £50 or £500

Let's be honest here I can see why the OP might be a bit miffed.800k is a lot to give to charity's. But it's the wishes of the person who left the money so...

As does greed

That's what comes of counting chickens before they're hatched OP!

If it makes you feel any better, my friend's father always told her and her brother that his second wife would be allowed to remain in the house but the remainder would be split equally between wife number 2 and his 3 children (friend, her DB and their half-sister).

When he died, they found that he had changed his will a year or so earlier, and his estate all went to the second wife. It was over £10 million.

Nobody inherits from an aunt.

Yes they do.
My siblings and I inherited from 2 aunts and an uncle.