Help me feel ok about this will

You’re a cheeky mare, OP.

I’m very wealthy, and childfree. People like you are the reason I’ll be leaving practically nothing to family by default.

The idea of me dying and my nephew’s wife complaining that she didn’t get enough from me…!

Most people don't inherit from aunts or uncles and £50k is a pretty good amount. Lots of people don't inherit anything as their parents/family have nothing to leave.

If you hadn't been expecting over £200k, you would probably have been happy with £50k.

What I said

How awful for you 😂

We have a distant family member, my dad’s lovely 2nd cousin who is elderly and extremely wealthy, and never had children. She was telling us that all sorts of people have been coming out of the woodwork in recent years, suddenly visiting her after years of no contact. She is leaving pretty much everything to charity, and I can well imagine that there will be reactions similar to yours.

God you sound like my sister in law, one Christmas she got pissed and told her parents in law she couldn't wait for them to die so she could inherit their house. "I'm going to be the lady of xxx house".

When his gran died she smiled for a week.
She was pleased when her fil died
She was very very happy when his mum finally died despite neither her or her husband not bothering to see her for over 10 years.

When sil's husband died soon after his mum her first question was "will I inherit his mum's money still"

Thankfully his sister screwed her over and she got fuck all!

I had to laugh at the neat way you’d apportioned someone else’s estate in your head 🤦‍♀️
Ridiculously grabby.

Ermm she actually needs to 'get past' inheriting 75k as 50k was left to deceased mother... 🙄

There’s nothing like a death in the family to bring out the greedy, money grabbing cave dwellers!

The aunt knew what she was doing,I think it’s funny can just picture all your faces.

A family member of mine left a will written similarly and we believe that was the belief. In my family’s case 3 named beneficiaries received £10k (not me, I have no skin in the game) with the rest of the estate to be split between 3 charities. The estate was worth £350k which I’m sure my relative couldn’t imagine when they wrote the will, it was mainly the value of a property

Why did OP think she was getting it though? Based on what?

How did you know how much was in her bank account before she died?

I think the OP is getting a hard time and people are being daft calling her a ‘vulture’ and the like. You’d have to be an extraordinary person to not be a bit disappointed if an inheritance you thought you were getting didn’t come to fruition.

It’s worlds apart from not expecting anything and then hearing you’ve been left 50k. It doesn’t make her a bad person, just a normal one.

I am one of the 10% that doesn't think you are being unreasonable to have gone up the hill of 'we might be getting a life changing amount of money' to 'blast we only got a make our lives easier amount of money'.

I think your foolish to never have 'what if' thoughts. And you did say you know you need to get over it. I don't think you are required to make a post detailing your full relationship and degree of grieving to talk about a specific point.

Sorry for your loss and hope you and DH are doing okay.

The issue is I garuntee you already spent the money in your head and it was never your money.. now your dissapointed

i would love £50k from
an aunt

and no one is entitled to a relatives money

even if they said when alive you may get it but I don’t think she hinted you were going to get £250k each

nor sure when mum died but you may be Lucky and you and dh get another £25k from her - split with his sibling so £75k in all

note the sarcasm

I would be thrilled with £50k

wow. Just wow

I’m going to be honest here, if I had no children there’s no way I would leave my money to nephews and nieces, not unless they treated me like a mother all their life. If they were just my deceased sibling’s kids, that maybe sent me a Christmas card once a year, it would 100% go to charity. Cats Protection and The Donkey Sanctuary.

I am appalled at the OP. I bet she’s been rubbing her hands in anticipation for years.

Tbh you do sound like exactly that, vultures.

Why do people of you think if you spend ‘more’ time with a relative you should get ‘more’ money? WTAF?
Sadly, I think when people have an idea of what may be in a will, and what they may get, it’s already in their subconscious and possibly plan for its arrival.
Perhaps the aunt her had seen her young relatives do well, and decided to also help people less fortunate? Perhaps the charities had personal meaning to her?
Maybe she had updated her will to include the charities?
Whatever the outcome, for most of us 50k is life-changing. Be grateful and most importantly…
Was she a decent lady? If she was, toast her life and be grateful.

its absolutely right that she decided what she wanted to do with her money. Hers. Not yours.

This was never your money to bank on. You’re feeling dejected because you believed yourself entitled to something that was never, and is not, yours to claim ownership of. Your injury is a self inflicted one.

There surely must be a word in German for this?

My nan was the only child of her generation
Her uncle had left his bungalow to the Jehovahs Witnesses. Literally a week before his death he changed his mind and left it to my nan, with his money going to them.
I guess aunt thought it would be a waste leaving that amount of money to a few individuals and it would do more for the world going to charity

I had to read the op several times.
You don’t want to appear as vultures? Then you want might want to reassess your entire op.
I’m a bit grossed out by your attitude.
Expecting anything was your first mistake. It’s not even your aunt. Who expects fuck all from anyone when they die?

I’m sorry for your loss. I think this is the root of your problems: We were expecting a

I don’t feel like anyone should ‘expect’ an inheritance especially from an Aunt. We are encouraging my PiLs to spend their money having fun. They are doing a great job.