Help me feel ok about this will

Yes I hope so too. I doubt they will though. The money will probably be wasted on nonsense and high salaries. Call me cynical but I doubt it will reach those that the charities are supposed to help. Depends on the charity I suppose.Many charities are just as much vultures as the OP. So many saintly people on this thread who wouldn’t mind if this happened to them😂. Yes and I know the OP got 50 grand. Charity begins at home as my old Dad used to say.

It's not even your own aunt, FFS.

you really don’t like charity do you! Wow

Who do you think needs the money more - you, or the people who benefit from the charities? Think about that and be happy for the people that the money will help.

Lol all the people judging this woman as if they wouldn’t be so shocked themselves. It’s ok for this woman to be surprised or disappointed. She’s not ungrateful or greedy. The keyboard martyrs out in full force as always.

Personally I would not leave so much money to a charity as I am sure it will not be spent on the poor and needy or for the cause but more on advertising and paying the fat cats salaries! I would leave a smaller amount to charity and the rest to family. Blood definitely thicker than water! So I can see why you are disappointed, as I would expect family to first safe guard family as charity begins at home!

Well if it helps with perspective, my parent was very wealthy, multiple investments, properties etc, and died leaving nothing at all to me or my siblings. Will changed a couple of weeks before they were hospitalised, leaving everything to step parent, who promptly went no contact after the death and disappeared. Hadn't "expected" anything, but a few quid would have made life a little safer.

Be happy with the very lucky £50,000

YANBU
I'm amazed you are being told yabu.

Charities tapped out the market
with their aggresive "chugging" tactics a few years back and their new shtick to top up the CMOs bonuses is to offer "free will writing," where they butter up elderly people tell them what shit heads millennials and gen X are and that really they should leave it all to a donkey sanctuary and the salvation army.

I actually think its immoral given the HUGE wealth gap that is coming - unless you HATE your family you shouldn't do this.

Their shit head lawyer will also have advised them on the specific minimum amounts to leave you so you cant even contest the will...

if you don’t want to be seen as a vulture, so I would suggest you stop behaving like one. Your approach to this is shocking. No wonder your husband’s aunt left her money to charity with relatives like this.

Because it’s foolish to bank on money that was not, and is not, yours. It also saves on disappointment if/when the expectations aren’t met.

After caring for a relative, going twice a day, 7 days a week, taking their washing & ironing home, doing their shopping, cleaning, hair washing, bed bathing, picking up prescriptions, library books and organising medical appointments for 7 years while working full time and running my own home I got zero left in the will.
2 relatives who visited every 2-3 months for less than an hour to read the newspaper I bought and drink the tea I’d shopped for, got a large cut of the finances left in the will.
Where on the phone to the solicitors less than a week after the funeral I had organised demanding to know where their money was…

Go figure….

I absolutely adored my relative and was heartbroken when finally they died. Lost beyond words not knowing what to do with myself when I no longer needed to go to the house.
I had no idea of what was in that will. Never asked. Never had any expectations either.
Can’t lie, I was somewhat surprised. There was an injustice and felt it was undeserving, would rather it had gone to a charity.

You’ve got nothing to ‘get past’. It is none of your business what was in the will.
You were left nothing as you weren’t in her will. Your husband who was her relation was.
He’s lucky To be left £50.000. Many people will inherit nothing.

The OP had no reason (that we know of) to expect the money in the first place though. Apart from anything else, it’s not her aunt.

She did what she wanted with her own money, there's nothing to 'get over'. You can do what you want with your own money too.

I imagine they had their mortgage paid off in their heads!

Methinks you were already mentally spending the money before she had even passed away, singing 🎵 ‘We’re in the money’. What a let down it must be ONLY receiving £50k! Give your head a wobble, it was her money to do what she wanted. Be thankful she left you something.

Exactly this! Seems to me like OP had already decided how they were spending the 250K!

It rarely goes down well with family when people leave large amounts of their estate to charity, understandably I think. It’s only human.
But charities are really in need of funds just now and do such impactful work; the Red Cross have helped out at British A&E departments when they can’t cope, animal charities have been doing a lot in the cost of living crisis, as have food banks, homeless etc etc
there’s a lot of need around just now.
Still a bitter pill to swallow but maybe some consolation.

I hope the charities are grateful. When my mil died last year, she left some to an Alzheimer’s charity - not an inconsiderable amount of £25k. We posted the cheque to them and never got an acknowledgement or an offer of condolences and gratitude that she had left them any money. Just very rude and entitled.

Oh gosh - I inherited half my late aunt's (by marriage) estate and my cousins are complaining because they didn't get anything. Who was it who saw her several times a week, phoned every day, generally looked after her? They never came near her for years. People are so grabbing when it comes to inheritance,

Everyone can say you shouldn’t expect inheritance etc but that’s life changing money. I’d be gutted.

Unless she was explicitly told ‘you’ll be getting X amount’, there was no reason for her to believe she was getting anything from the aunt.

Oh OP. You earn your own million quid and then YOU can decide how to spend it.

I'd definitely prefer 250k to 50k, we all would, but making a post about it and not expecting an absolute kicking from MN is a bit naive. We should all keep out greedy little thoughts to ourselves.