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Grossed out by new partner walking in when I was showering

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HelenaJl · 28/06/2025 17:09

I have a fairly new partner, my first after my 10 year marriage ended. I stayed at his for the first time last night and went to have a shower this morning (no lock on the door). A few minutes in my partner walked in and used the loo!! He was sat there trying to talk to me and I didn’t know where to look. When I said afterwards I didn’t expect that he said it shows how comfortable he is around me and that his past relationships have always been like that so it’s just normal these days.

I can tell you in my entire marriage my ex never walked in on me to use the loo and vice versa! I found him sitting there and ‘dropping off’ a right turn off to be honest!

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healthybychristmas · 28/06/2025 17:12

Ugh I would have jumped out of that shower so fast. I was absolutely hate being in the same room as someone who was going to the toilet unless it was my own child.

PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 28/06/2025 17:12

YANBU - an emergency pee is one thing but sitting down on a poo … would make me need another shower

Notyomama · 28/06/2025 17:12

Yuck. I've been married about 400 years and never once has my husband come in to have a shit while I was showering. I could just about tolerate peeing if he was desperate, but not as a regular thing.

HelenaJl · 28/06/2025 17:11

Chamomileteaplease · 28/06/2025 17:10

Do you mean he did a poo??????

that is gross!

Yeah! I messaged on my friends whatsapp group and a couple of them said their husbands do it too and they don’t mind! I feel like the dating game has changed quite a bit 😂

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Ilovemyshed · 28/06/2025 17:11

Crikey, its just a bodily function. If you have sex then seeing him on the loo isn’t weird.

3KidsPlusDdog · 28/06/2025 17:11

Eugh, that’s disgusting

Chamomileteaplease · 28/06/2025 17:10

Do you mean he did a poo??????

that is gross!

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