To not have internet at home?

YABU. Your poor child, having to suffer because of you. He will need internet access in secondary school, one hour a night at a library won’t cut it, nor will working offline he will need to look stuff up. (And he will need a smart phone eventually)

You need to come up with a better solution for your problem, not impact that problem in your child

so remove all gaming equipment, your son can have his but locked away with only him having the key so you can’t use it, there must she some sort of support similar to AA use that, continue to block all sites,, tell your son to change the wifi password and not tell you what it is so you can’t use it

Put your child first

Can you get him a USB modem or other portable WiFi dongle type device. Then it would only be on his laptop.

Do you still have gaming equipment? If not the laptop belongs to your son he keeps it in his room. You can get those little myfi devices and similar that have data but only he should have the password. He will struggle with no internet access at all

Have you had treatment for your addiction?

I think this is your problem so you are BU if your solution is to deny something which is almost essential now to school kids (think of looking up explainations of things they didn't understand earlier).

Addiction is a serious illness so I don’t think you are unreasonable in trying to avoid a relapse - it may take a lot of effort to work around it for him

YABU, I think it is pretty selfish to deny the internet to your family just because you cannot control your gaming addiction.

YABU because this will absolutely impact your son through school. Lots of things are online now homework wise especially once you’re into projects & research, tests set online to be done as homework, and not just educationally but also socially this will really impact him- all the friendships and plans are made on Whatsapp/iMessage etc, him not having access to those things will restrict his social life. Even gaming now at that age is a common way of lads playing & bonding, playing on “live” together and all chatting away with their headsets on. You need to find a way to work around this without it being an issue for your child.

If you are adamant you cannot have wifi then I’d say as a minimum he needs a laptop or tablet which is just for him and it needs to have its own data plan so that HE has internet.

A lot of stuff may be done online - I would talk to school to see if they have homework club etc and also a lot of communication is done via email etc. I think it would be really difficult.

totally understand why you don’t have it - but it might be unsustainable as he moves up into secondary school as so much research and communication is done online. As are parents evenings etc - many no longer face to face but via zoom.

Tricky, I voted that YABU as this will definitely affect your son through school.

They may not be allowed smart phones in school but in a few years his social life will be organised via whatever messaging platform is popular at the time and he is bound to feel left out.
It also means he can't just do homework as and when he wants to, he has to do it all in one go at the library.
I would get him a tablet/phone and put plenty of data on it for him.