I have name changed due to the sensitivity of this post. I am anxiety ridden writing this!
I know blowing raspberries are a fun part of play with children. But how would you feel about a 'grandparent' (not blood related) allowing your 3 year old daughter do this on his bare stomach, kept lifting his top up for her to do it and giggling saying 'oh its all wet and tickles'
I was SA as a child and I don't know if this is me being triggered from my past or if this is alarming.
There has been other things with the same person similar things being 'playful' that i feel overstep the mark, like bum smacking. It makes me feel very uncomfortable and I tend to step in and say things to distract my daughter away like in this instance I said 'your not blowing raspberries on granddads tummy are you!!!' And he stopped. This is in a room with other people that are clearly not faized by this.
I don't want to say too much more, but me and my partner are both on the fence with this but we are uncomfortable. We know if we say anything there will be a huge fallout with probably no coming back from it.