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DH and the washing machine

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recklessgran · 28/06/2025 09:54

Just looking for some perspective on this as sometimes I think I'm going mad. We returned last night from a week's holiday - obviously with the usual dirty laundry and like most women I'm keen to crack on and get the laundry started and out on the line. This morning DH got the cases in from the car so I thought I'd get the first wash load on ahead of going out to get groceries for us as well as my demented mother to whom I would need to deliver said groceries.[Lives alone with a small care package] and obviously haven't seen her so would need to catch up and make sure she's O.K, etc
DH fully aware of this plan [and the fact that I always start the washing as soon as the cases are in from the car]. He was taking our dog out for a run whilst I cracked on with above jobs. No issue with that - usual routine. However the next thing I can hear the washing machine going so I asked DH what was in the washing machine. Dog towels he says. Dog towels says I? What? Now - today when I've got a case load of dirty holiday washing to do? Yes, you guessed it - all this hot weather and he decides to put a load of muddy dog towels on that he's been storing in his boot since the last wet weather so obviously not newly muddy or needed to be washed today or likely to be used imminently given the current heatwave. He does not understand why under the above circumstances I'm so cross that he has prioritised laundering the bloody dog towels. So, AIBU to be really cross with DH this morning as he seems to think so having just stormed out with said dog ? [So as not to drip feed he has form fror this kind of thing and often has his own agenda where it doesn't occur to him to consider anyone else's needs.]

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recklessgran · 28/06/2025 10:07

He's back already and faffing about in the garden. I'm still waiting for the machine to finish. Thanks for the perspective - guess I've got too much to do today - two lovely house guests turning up this afternoon hence why I wanted to get everything done so we can enjoy their company.

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MemorableTrenchcoat · 28/06/2025 10:07

Of all the things to get “so cross” about…

legyeleven · 28/06/2025 10:06

Very irritating but now laundry is his job. You go to shops and visit your mother. He sorts the rest of the washing

Didimum · 28/06/2025 10:04

Not worth a row or even a post on MN.

BitOutOfPractice · 28/06/2025 10:03

It’s irritating yes. Not something to be furious about or have a row about though. Just go out and do your mom’s shopping and see her. That sounds much more important than some washing that will still be there tomorrow.

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 28/06/2025 10:02

YABU for getting back last night and not putting a load on overnight. It could be dry by now.

OneNewLeader · 28/06/2025 09:59

Can’t you just leave washing by machine and ask him to put it in when he takes the towels out?

Mymanyellow · 28/06/2025 09:57

This is why nobody is allowed anywhere near my washing machine. I know what you’re all thinking;make them do their own, teach them all to use it properly etc. But nope keep away I’ll find you a hundred different jobs.

grumpygrape · 28/06/2025 09:57

I'm amazed you have a husband who knows how to use the machine. Probably used all his mental faculties doing that and there was nothing left to think about holiday laundry.
The towels must have been pretty gross having been stored from wet in the boot 🤮

SnowflakeSmasher86 · 28/06/2025 09:57

Ugh what an idiot! Hopefully the weekend will stay dry and you can get it all done, but it is frustrating when someone tries to do something useful but just ends up leaving the actual important things to you.

I mean depending how cross you were, I can’t say if the way you acted was unreasonable, but the way you feel definitely is not unreasonable.

Sansan18 · 28/06/2025 09:57

Unless he's put it on a really lengthy wash cycle I don't see the problem.

HippeePrincess · 28/06/2025 09:55

It may be mildly annoying but with the weather like this we’re getting 3/4 loads dry per day so it’s not really an issue.

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