DH and the washing machine

You’re unreasonable for saying like most women. My OH always gets the washing on when we get back from holiday.

Mine would be dry and ironed by now 😂

Totally! This is me too. Really pisses me off when anyone else goes near the washing machine. They can unload it, they can hang the washing up (where I tell them to), they can put it away, but they DO NOT put it on!!

How petty and silly. How long is the wash going to take? A waster of energy worrying about this.

Like most women I'm keen to crack on and get the laundry started

Wtf? Your post smacks of sexism and ‘women’s work’ bollocks.

I am the boss of the washing machine/ washing fairy and this wouldn’t bother me unless the clothes in your holiday washing were urgent and the weather outside was bad.

omg 😂we need the laughing emoji back!

Like pp, I would have put a load on last night. In fact my holidays luggage would have been packed with the washing already sorted.

My DP is absolutely not allowed to touch the washing machine. Unlike many of you with gardens and outside space who like a good drying day, we live in a small flat with no outside hanging space. I can only dry eight large items at a time, even on hot days it takes a full day to dry a load. I approach the washing with military precision. Every now and again he inexplicably decides to ‘help’ and we have to have the washing conversation again. I feel your pain op.

Not a big deal. Just ask him to put the holiday washes on after the load of towels has finished. Laundry is not women’s work and no, ‘most women’ in equal households aren’t keen to crack on with laundry after a holiday any more than their male partners.

Surely op should have been setting the alarm throughout the night to ensure all of it could be done overnight thus freeing up the machine for her husband . . .

This

I read your post and basically thought 'so what' - If it's a good drying day I'd be doing 2 loads anyway.

That would irritate me too OP. A lot.

Sounds like you need to unclench - and communicate your plans to DH better in future.
Big generalisation about 'most women' there. Sounds like he was going to fail before he even put the dog blanket wash on.

He put the dog towels on, so you switch plans, you get the groceries. It's true that the more you have to do, the less you worry about it. Think about what it took to run a house when your children were small and, as an older person, you've got virtually nothing to do, even with guests arriving and a Mum to pop in on. Although I do the panic to get washing out, then remember that we now have long summers. You need to think things out a bit more and safeguard against unnecessarily inflexible and picky, thinking. I was having this discussion with a woman in her 70s yesterday. We were talking about how happier people are if they don't adopt an 'old' mindset, as they age. Look at each action in the whole scheme of things.

I would only be annoyed be the dog's stuff would leave hair in the machine which I'd have to clean out before putting a load on. But if I needed the machine urgently and there was only dog towels in it I'd spin and drain it and put it in the sink and rewash it later.

"Like most women I'm keen to crack on and get the laundry started"

Sexist bollocks. It doesn't matter, does it, really? It's his washing machine too.

Why didn't you get the dirty laundry out of the car yourself, yesterday if you wanted to put a wash on so desperately?

My DH does all the laundry and ironing etc in our house. And most of the cooking. Just to give the other side that ‘not all men’ are totally useless.

I hope you've left dh's laundry for him to do. Since he knows how to use the machine.

Great he got them done and then can hang them up and then clean the machine And Get the other loads in

Then the holiday washing really can wait. Just put it in the laundry basket and do it another day. It’s not going to disintegrate if you leave it till next weekend. Honestly, this “must get it done today” rule is just made up in your head pressure and not worth a second thought let alone a row and a horrible atmosphere when your guests arrive.

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You can both fit multiple loads of laundry in today.

Why does your agenda trump his?

When the load has finished, pop the dog towels to one side for him to sort out and stick some of the other washing in

I think you are wrong to be annoyed, this is just one of those things where you both have a different idea of how to do things and neither is particularly right or wrong.

Mildly frustrating but not something I would annoyed by.

I don’t really understand this - the dog towels needed washing so did the cases, why are the cases a priority? Do you want to wear the clothes in them tomorrow?

Your OP doesn’t say you told your DP your plans for the washing machine? I had a load I wanted to do first thing this morning, but I hadn’t told DP and knew there was a risk he might put another load on before me, but that was the risk I was running. In our house, we say “don’t run a wash load, I have plans for washing” and then the other person doesn’t use it.. otherwise bad luck.

Not worth falling out over. No need to be cross about it. Inwardly roll eyes, put next load ready and tell him to swap them over once the towels are done. If they have been in the back of the car for weeks, they probably stink and need washing /airing more urgently than other things in my system.