DH and the washing machine

This would irritate me too - some men just don't have much common sense. He probably thought he was doing a good thing 😂

It’s only washing. Unless they are the only clothes you own and your stood there naked waiting for them to be cleaned while your guest are imminent I think you need to get a grip tbh.
I can’t imagine getting home from a holiday and being pissed off by day one.

you lost me at "like most women..." I'm afraid 🤢

@recklessgran YANBU - your DH was either thoughtless or lacks common sense - I'd be annoyed too OP. You had your day planned - break the back of the holiday washing, shopping, check in with mum, host friends - and your DH buggered up your plan from the get-go with a totally unimportant and non-urgent task. On the upside, the weather forecast for most of England (assuming this is where you are) for the next five days is HOT and dry, so chuck what you haven't got washed in the laundry basket, enjoy your friends' company and get the rest of the washing done tomorrow. 😃

I would prioritise human clothes over dog towels (or other linens) YANBU.
My DP is obsessed with emptying the laundry basket, to the extent that there could be three wet loads and not enough drying space.
i do as much as I can on a quick wash at 30C and often change the settings in a wash that DP has started.

I never understand this tit for tat pettiness

I can't imagine being in a relationship that's so controlling you're not allowed to use the household appliances. How weird.

Sort the washing into colours etc. towels out and he can put the next lot in then hang the dog towels out. Simple (I hope)

I can see the OP's point, and I'm not exactly the best at getting washing done. I think what would annoy me is that the dog towels must have been festering in the car since before they went away so why are they suddenly so urgent today? If the same routine is followed every time they go on holiday you'd think her DH would know by now that she likes the washing done asap.

For those saying about getting it done when they get in, I'm usually completely knackered and it's often quite late when I got home from holidays. The very thought of sorting & putting a wash on, then wait for it to finish so I can get everything out & hang it up overnight, when all I can think of is my own bed, would be anathema to me. Not everyone has a washing machine that can be set to start by a timer, and mine just beeps louder and louder if you don't at least turn it off after a wash has finished. I could sort of understand if you came home on a Sunday & had work on the Monday, and for some strange reason had taken all your work clothes on holiday, but otherwise one day isn't that much in the scheme of things

I understand the urge to get holiday washing done and put away but that's just habit. It really won't matter if it has to wait a couple of hours or even a couple of days. It seems a very little thing to argue about.

i know, thanks for noticing.

You’re amazing x

‘Most women’ come on, let’s not generalise women down to being compelled to put a wash on after a holiday 🥴

You are massively overreacting. It’s mildly annoying at the most.

Why can’t you enjoy the company of your guests unless the holiday washing is all done?

It's an absolute non issue.

I’m of a similar mindset with the holiday wash, I literally bring the case in, empty it immediately into the machine and turn it on. It’s fully empty and everything where it should be within 5 minutes of arriving home.

This wouldn’t bother me too much though, it’s a hot day the towels will be dry within a couple of hours during which time the clothes wash could have been done ready to replace the towels.

LTB obviously!! How dare he not follow the rules 😂

Both the holiday wash and the dog towels need doing so it doesn’t make a lot of odds. But then DH does all the washing machine loading and unloading (and is far too punctilious about ironing, in my view). And we mostly put washes on overnight on the cheaper tariff anyway.

Wow, my DH doesn’t know how to work washing machine (apparently) despite being a plumber and installing 100’s. I wouldn’t be too annoyed, the dog towels do smell.

You left the cases in the car overnight??? I would have had them in no matter what time and the first load in the machine on timer to start in the morning. Our cases are emptied and put away straight away.

I'd be more upset about having 2 guests to stay today after only getting back from holiday last night!

Missing the point I know but this would upset me far more than the washing!

Its a bit annoying (and totally the sort of thing my XH would have done, only he would have done it deliberately to be a dick)
But I have to say that I have spent the day rooting about the house for stuff to wash because everything is drying in about half an hour, so all the dogs blankets, cushion covers, and various winter jackets have been bundled through before the country goes back to being damp and miserable.

I'm more annoyed about the fact that my neighbour is playing George Ezra on a loop very loudly in her garden, if I have to hear Shotgun one more time she'll be getting bundled into the machine and boil washed.

It would annoy me too, OP, because my washing machine is an officious bastard that decides for itself when the washing is clean, whatever cycle I choose, and would keep muddy dog towels in there for ages. If you wanted something specific washed and dried, the delay would boil my piss. Not great on a hot weekend. Nothing to do with being inflexible about routines. Maybe OP wanted to lie outside in a bikini that needed to be washed.

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I'd stop doing his wash. Separate yours out and do it properly. Leave him to figure out his own. A ten year old could do better than this man.