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To not really understand the need for people to drink alcohol all the time?

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BusWankers · 28/06/2025 07:43

I really don't understand why people socialise and drink alcohol all the time, or go out specifically to get drunk and have fun, or all the "LOL Prosecco time!" At 11am in a Sunday. And people buying boxes if beers and 4 bottles of wine as part of the weekly shop.

I do drink, very rarely, sometimes for weddings or whatever.bit I really don't understand the normality of everyday drinking.

I know I'm in the minority, bit
..what gives?????

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tommyhoundmum · 29/06/2025 21:13

BusWankers · 29/06/2025 20:46

The edge off what?

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Life maybe

DontReplyIWillLie · 29/06/2025 21:11

BusWankers · 29/06/2025 18:12

Fine. 🙄 It's not my business why some people eat at McDonald's...but I'm allowed to have an opinion....

It's not my business why people decide to buy super expensive cars, but I'm still allowed to have an opinion.

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That doesn’t mean the rest of us have to give a shit.

AppleWhichWatch · 29/06/2025 21:00

Redpeach · 29/06/2025 20:47

A large percentage of people who drink do not become violent, whilst some of the most violent and dangerous countries in the world have low alcohol consumption. Its not a black and white issue.

Exactly!!

JayJayj · 29/06/2025 21:00

Gwenhwyfar · 29/06/2025 20:58

Alcohol is the therapy :)

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That’s what alcoholics say!! 🤪

Gwenhwyfar · 29/06/2025 20:58

JayJayj · 29/06/2025 20:54

You need therapy then not alcohol.

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Alcohol is the therapy :)

AppleWhichWatch · 29/06/2025 20:57

BluntPlumHam · 29/06/2025 18:57

It’s the dependency of it. Why can’t you have a children’s party without booze? Why do you need a depressant to get through it? It also seldom ever stops at one glass of wine.

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Are you At All familiar with the concept of enjoying something? Or do you only eat gruel & drink water??

Gwenhwyfar · 29/06/2025 20:56

Aprilrainagainagain · 29/06/2025 20:52

I'll tell her. Thanks for your sweet reply.

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Quite right to tell her the man is to blame and not the alcohol.

AppleWhichWatch · 29/06/2025 20:56

BluntPlumHam · 29/06/2025 18:49

No you are not, it was a complete culture shock for relatives of mine when they saw how early people start drinking in this country. Some hammered by 6/7 which was insane.

The airport as well 8am people drinking pints.

I attended a school fair 4-6pm. They were selling alcohol… at a school fair and when I politely declined the tokens to purchase alcohol I was met with a disapproving glare. Alcohol dependency is an issue especially when you can’t even get through a 2 hour fair.

It's not about 'getting through' 🙄🙄
At the Christmas School Fayre, I enjoyed a mulled wine or two. I enjoyed it, I didn't NEED it.

JayJayj · 29/06/2025 20:54

PrincessHoneysuckle · 29/06/2025 20:45

Because it takes the edge off.

You need therapy then not alcohol.

Redpeach · 29/06/2025 20:54

Aprilrainagainagain · 29/06/2025 20:52

Well that's ok then. I'll tell her not to worry next time everyone at a wedding she is serving at is drunk. It could be worse they could be sober

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Surely the advice is a sex pest is a sex pest with or without alcohol

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 29/06/2025 20:54

These days I don’t drink very frequently, and it does make life easier tbh.

But I still like to have the option to have a drink every month or two (as in when there’s an occasion when I want to, not to a schedule) because I still enjoy it.

To me it’s the ceremony of it, and sharing something together, but it doesn’t have to be alcohol.

Aprilrainagainagain · 29/06/2025 20:52

Gwenhwyfar · 29/06/2025 20:47

Sober people grope too. Alcohol isn't the problem here.

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I'll tell her. Thanks for your sweet reply.

Aprilrainagainagain · 29/06/2025 20:52

Redpeach · 29/06/2025 20:48

Sexual assaults are also committed by sober men, probably most

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Well that's ok then. I'll tell her not to worry next time everyone at a wedding she is serving at is drunk. It could be worse they could be sober

AppleWhichWatch · 29/06/2025 20:49

FattyMallow · 29/06/2025 18:01

It's harmful, it's antisocial, it's heavily marketed and it brings out so much nastiness in people. On top of all the above mentioned, doing it every day is quite decadent, to say the least.

Decadent 😂😂😂

not good for your health, but decadent 😂😂😂

Redpeach · 29/06/2025 20:48

Aprilrainagainagain · 29/06/2025 20:46

My daughter is a waitress at a hotel and last night a very drunk man put his hand up her skirt. I hate drinking and I loathe drunk people

Sexual assaults are also committed by sober men, probably most

GonnaeNoDaeThatJustGonnaeNo · 29/06/2025 20:47

I loathe cricket but it’s not beyond my imagination or understanding to realise that others have different tastes to me and find it enjoyable.

Gwenhwyfar · 29/06/2025 20:47

Aprilrainagainagain · 29/06/2025 20:46

My daughter is a waitress at a hotel and last night a very drunk man put his hand up her skirt. I hate drinking and I loathe drunk people

Sober people grope too. Alcohol isn't the problem here.

AppleWhichWatch · 29/06/2025 20:47

BusWankers · 29/06/2025 17:52

Not what you think it does....

Because it could be 60 different reasons all contributing 1%.

Which makes alcohol the main and huge contributer to violence...

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No it doesn't 😂😂😂

you think the 'other reasons' stop existing?

Redpeach · 29/06/2025 20:47

A large percentage of people who drink do not become violent, whilst some of the most violent and dangerous countries in the world have low alcohol consumption. Its not a black and white issue.

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BusWankers · 29/06/2025 20:46

PrincessHoneysuckle · 29/06/2025 20:45

Because it takes the edge off.

The edge off what?

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Aprilrainagainagain · 29/06/2025 20:46

My daughter is a waitress at a hotel and last night a very drunk man put his hand up her skirt. I hate drinking and I loathe drunk people

PrincessHoneysuckle · 29/06/2025 20:45

Because it takes the edge off.

AppleWhichWatch · 29/06/2025 20:44

DontReplyIWillLie · 29/06/2025 11:20

You obviously haven’t seen me when someone tries to take the last brownie.

😂😂

AppleWhichWatch · 29/06/2025 20:43

JoeTheDrummer · 29/06/2025 19:25

Erm… it tells me that 60% of violent crimes don’t involve alcohol and 40% do. Yes, of course there will still be crime without alcohol, but there’d be a hell of a lot less.

I was merely pointing out that cake and alcohol aren’t really comparable.

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No, there's no saying the 40% are solely down to alcohol- correlation v causation. They would be less, no doubt, but we don't know how much less.

but I agree cake & alcohol aren't comparable though both nice!!

unfortunately I can't have either at the moment!! (Medical issue) 🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

1543click · 29/06/2025 20:42

I agree . Its the excess and the constant need so many people have to talk about alcohol so much of the time. The worst thing is the personality change. So unnecessary to be constantly drinking.