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Echolalia in a 2.5 YO

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Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 07:24

My nearly 2.5 YO little girl still uses a lot of echolalia and I am starting to think that it is not normal kid in her language acquisition
She

  1. sleeps and naps well 13 hours
  2. Eats a good variety of food although a bit picky but loves green vegetables
  3. Follow 2 step directions even when upset about something .
  4. She can focus well for activities like colouring for a good 10 minutes and read a couple of books .
  5. Always hold my hand outside
  6. Doesn’t have meltdowns . When tantrums she stops within 10 minutes and easily redirected
  7. She interacts well with caretakers and family . She plays back and forth with her peers by exchanging and sharing toys , playing with the ball
  8. Has appropriate social boundaries and always shares her toys , copies children’s actions when parallel play
  9. Doesn’t bite , push , throw .
  10. She is excited to go to new places etc
  11. She loves getting messy with play doh , colouring
  12. She always holds my hand outside
  13. Always eager to follow commands like tidying up and bed time

Communication wise

  1. speaks in 3-4 word sentences
  2. Asks lots of questions : what’s that ? What happened ? What’s that sound ? Where is my toy / daddy ? What have you got ?
  3. Answer easy yes and no questions , some easy why questions , open ended ones like what did you do ? What do you want ? What’s / where’s who’s ?
  4. Uses easy pronouns like I , me , you mine , ours , yours not always correctly
  5. She shows her toys to new people

She almost always repeats phrases that we say but not questions and if I say to her “ hello my baby’s name “ she just repeats it . She can form long spontaneous sentences like “ my bunny is eating food “ when she does the action of feeding bunny but to make a request she still uses single words. At times she says “ I want more pasta” but not a lot .

I did ask professionals and they just brushed it off as normal development that will taper off after 3 .

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x2boys · 28/06/2025 11:06

And what does your mother think ,given she works with children all day every day?

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 11:03

x2boys · 28/06/2025 10:54

You realise the paediatrician can often be on the panel for diagnosing autism?

Yes I do , my mom is a paediatrician but not a developmentally one . I did ask about high functioning or level 1 and was told that nowadays the spectrum is too broad but he did say that for an official diagnosis traits must have an impact on the day to day life

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SantaToSSD · 28/06/2025 11:01

My eldest was 2 years and 2 months old before he said any recognisable word. By the time he was starting school he was still saying some words backwards, or at least mixing up the sounds within a word. He is now a functioning adult, holding down a good job (admittedly in IT, not the most sociable environment).

I've never read the OP's posts before but I agree with those who say your dd sounds totally within normal ranges. Try to relax and enjoy her more OP. Childhood passes so quickly.

x2boys · 28/06/2025 10:54

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 10:46

The main reason is because I see how different she is from her peers . When I say professionals I mean HV and paediatrician so obviously not knowledgeable of more subtle forms of the spectrum like level 1 or high functioning. Paediatrician did say that most level 1 still don’t get picked up until later on when social demands change

You realise the paediatrician can often be on the panel for diagnosing autism?

Whaleadthesnail · 28/06/2025 10:52

I knew exactly who you were from the format of your post, which I've seen on here at least four of five time?!

You post a long list of things which are normal for a child of that age.

You say professionals aren't worried

You ignore the overwhelming majority of answers saying it's NORMAL

Why are you looking for issues where there are none? PLEASE seek some help for this anxiety or it will rub off on your poor DD who sounds like she is developing perfectly normally

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 10:46

x2boys · 28/06/2025 09:57

As the parent if a severely autistic teenager, and i know many other children with an autism diagnosis, i see nothing concerning in any of of your multiple threads
And even if random, s on the Internet think there are red flags
Why would you take their word over actual professionals?

The main reason is because I see how different she is from her peers . When I say professionals I mean HV and paediatrician so obviously not knowledgeable of more subtle forms of the spectrum like level 1 or high functioning. Paediatrician did say that most level 1 still don’t get picked up until later on when social demands change

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tumblingdowntherabbithole · 28/06/2025 10:20

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 09:53

Please if you read other comments from other mums they see it is a concern and a potential red flag ..

Only because they don't know who you are. You post this thread constantly.

x2boys · 28/06/2025 10:01

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 09:57

Maybe you haven’t seen it but another post said that her daughter used to do what mine did

And ?
So what it's normal for small kids to repeat conversation and behaviour it's how they learn.

ShittyHottie · 28/06/2025 10:01

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 09:57

Maybe you haven’t seen it but another post said that her daughter used to do what mine did

Maybe you haven't seen it but at least a dozen posters think your DD sounds perfectly typical for a 2.5 yr old and that the real problem lies elsewhere.

ChaChaChaChanges · 28/06/2025 10:01

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 09:57

Maybe you haven’t seen it but another post said that her daughter used to do what mine did

One. Out of dozens and dozens, posted over dozens of threads.

Seriously - get help.

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 09:57

ShittyHottie · 28/06/2025 09:53

Only the ones who don't recognise you!

Maybe you haven’t seen it but another post said that her daughter used to do what mine did

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x2boys · 28/06/2025 09:57

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 09:53

Please if you read other comments from other mums they see it is a concern and a potential red flag ..

As the parent if a severely autistic teenager, and i know many other children with an autism diagnosis, i see nothing concerning in any of of your multiple threads
And even if random, s on the Internet think there are red flags
Why would you take their word over actual professionals?

ShittyHottie · 28/06/2025 09:53

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 09:53

Please if you read other comments from other mums they see it is a concern and a potential red flag ..

Only the ones who don't recognise you!

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 09:53

x2boys · 28/06/2025 09:51

Many many times .

Please if you read other comments from other mums they see it is a concern and a potential red flag ..

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ShittyHottie · 28/06/2025 09:53

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 09:51

The thing is she is not showing any other traits of asd ..any other traits that your dd had ?

She isn't showing this trait either. She sounds perfect and you really need to stop this.

x2boys · 28/06/2025 09:51

Zapx · 28/06/2025 09:41

Have you posted this before?

It really sounds pretty normal for a 2yo tbh OP. Asking questions IS being conversational. Repeating stuff also very normal. Not speaking in whole sentences yet also very normal!

Many many times .

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 09:51

BittyItty · 28/06/2025 09:43

My DD had this, we consulted a speech therapist and it resolved in about 6-8 months. I was told she’d grow out of it but the earlier you resolve the better as it could be signs of ASD. My DD has since been diagnosed with ASD.

The thing is she is not showing any other traits of asd ..any other traits that your dd had ?

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tumblingdowntherabbithole · 28/06/2025 09:47

You need to stop posting these threads and get yourself some help.

BittyItty · 28/06/2025 09:43

My DD had this, we consulted a speech therapist and it resolved in about 6-8 months. I was told she’d grow out of it but the earlier you resolve the better as it could be signs of ASD. My DD has since been diagnosed with ASD.

Zapx · 28/06/2025 09:41

Have you posted this before?

It really sounds pretty normal for a 2yo tbh OP. Asking questions IS being conversational. Repeating stuff also very normal. Not speaking in whole sentences yet also very normal!

Zonder · 28/06/2025 09:05

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 08:18

She is nearly 2.5 and should be conversational by now or at least a little bit

Communication wise

speaks in 3-4 word sentences
Asks lots of questions : what’s that ? What happened ? What’s that sound ? Where is my toy / daddy ? What have you got ?
Answer easy yes and no questions , some easy why questions , open ended ones like what did you do ? What do you want ? What’s / where’s who’s ?

This is a 2.5 yr old child being conversational. What else are you expecting in terms of conversation?

FarmGirl78 · 28/06/2025 09:04

But she is conversational. I'm not sure what you expect, she's not going to be sitting down with a pipe and slippers and asking your views on the humanitarian crisis in Sudan is she?

Stop looking for stuff that's not there and please seek support from your anxiety. Having a mother with anxiety will hinder her far more than you could realise.

ShittyHottie · 28/06/2025 08:39

How much interaction do you have with other similar aged children?

ShittyHottie · 28/06/2025 08:38

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 08:18

She is nearly 2.5 and should be conversational by now or at least a little bit

You have literally described a conversational child in your OP.

She is conversational, by the typical standards of a 2.5 yr old.

Candyflower58 · 28/06/2025 08:18

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 28/06/2025 08:04

Dear Op ‘ no one else sees these traits’ because they are not there.

Please try to relax and stay calm, you are more likely to harm yourDD by being over anxious at this stage of her life.

She is nearly 2.5 and should be conversational by now or at least a little bit

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