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Should I block him?

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Burritowrap · 28/06/2025 06:17

I met a guy at a conference. We hit it off as friends straight away and have been talking for around a month via text. I told him a few weeks later that I fancied him and I had been thinking about him a lot. He seemed shocked by this but seemed to love the attention.
We have had a few phone calls and video chats. We have been talking daily. He told me one weekend about how he wants to have a family in the near future, would like to get married and basically pulled me in with this dream. I really want a family and a husband and I was literally all over it. (Oh dear!) He was going on about how he would love to do this with me and how he is overwhelmed by me coming into his life. He has mentioned it makes things complicated as we live a short plane ride away.
This week, he hasn't been replying as much. He has been very cold with his responses often taking 24 hours to reply. I'm a very direct woman and I know what I want. I have a good career, take care of myself and I am very old soul like. I asked him what the deal was and he said he was busy with work, sorry!
He said he isn't used to this intensity and he is enjoying my attention.
Yesterday, he kept messaging asking for photos and stuff. I messaged him a bit directly saying I want a relationship, not to be played around. I lost my cool and probably seemed insecure or needy. I just feel so let down and like I have to pursue and chase. He said all of this future stuff and then left me cold for a week.
What should I do? I have asked him to book a flight to see me which he hasn't done. Am I being messed around?

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Mumto42005 · 29/06/2025 13:53

Yet you posted on the 02/06 to say this man didn’t want to talk on a call?! And just back in January, you were suggesting your boss fancies you! Please OP, it sounds like you are an attention seeker!

Muffinmam · 29/06/2025 13:50

Bepatientandiwillreturn · 28/06/2025 06:22

Op as a I'm a very direct woman and I know what I want. I have a good career, take care of myself and I am very old soul like (which on the basis of this thread I would question )

Surely you know how f**king weird this all is

This person is very very immature.

Also no one is entitled to a relationship on the basis they look after themselves and have a good career 🙄

PrayMore · 29/06/2025 13:50

You're either batshit crazy or a weird liar.

RealEagle · 29/06/2025 13:43

Think someone is very bored

Whocanresist · 29/06/2025 13:42

It sounds like you are wasting your time with this one.

Whocanresist · 29/06/2025 13:42

Are these all different men op?

DiscoBob · 29/06/2025 13:37

He sounds like he says whatever he thinks women want to hear, then starts bombarding them with requests for increasingly more risque photos? Sleazy fucker.
Just tell him to do one or better yet definitely just block.

SunnyViper · 29/06/2025 13:29

😂.

TinyFlamingo · 29/06/2025 13:27

Cool it off and if he's interested he'll pursue you.

Behaviour is a language unless behaviour matches what he says it's disingenuous.

Don't go all in on the fantasy/what if.

Keep yourself emotionally safe and don't give more than you are getting. Eyes open. You got this

outerspacepotato · 29/06/2025 13:26

Approach like a taco, not a burrito.

Ivy888 · 29/06/2025 13:19

You sound very intense. I am going to assume you havn’t had any physical contact (no kissing, no sex). You live a plane ride away (so a few hundred km away??) and yet you’re talking about wanting to start a family together. Sorry op, you need to calm waaaaay down and take a thousand steps back. You’re into the IDEA of being with him, you have no idea what it actually is like to be with him. How are you in general op? Are you in a happy place? Or are you trying to fill an unhappiness with desperately finding a relationship? Because that’s what I’m sensing here.

Bonbonthechewyone · 29/06/2025 13:14

Sorry, this is all completely batshit. Why are you talking to a guy you've met once about marriage and kids? You don't even know him.

Pingiop · 29/06/2025 06:58

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Caligirl80 · 29/06/2025 06:57

This is a lot of drama for someone you've only just met. And you live a plane-ride away.

Not worth the agro. You're a smart woman - surely you can understand when something is more trouble than it's worth? No need to be nasty about it with him - just thanks but no thanks.

Gonk123 · 29/06/2025 06:32

He was reeling you in talking about what future he wants. And then asking for photos. Block him! He isn’t interested, sold you a bit of a dream. He will mess you around. Save yourself the upset. He would be chasing you if he likes you - he doesn’t, he is just filling time.

SecondVerseSameAsThe1st · 29/06/2025 06:28

Burritowrap · 28/06/2025 06:23

It's so weird

Yeah, something is very weird here, OP. 😂

SecondVerseSameAsThe1st · 29/06/2025 06:26

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😂🤣😂🤣

tygertygers · 28/06/2025 22:52

Oh dear oh dear, OP.

McTootsBagpipes · 28/06/2025 11:27

Nurse! She’s out of bed again!

LemonLass · 28/06/2025 11:22

He seemed shocked by this but seemed to enjoy the attention

Based on your past posts catching up with you, you guys may have more in common thank you think @Burritowrap 😆

Bollihobs · 28/06/2025 10:18

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🤣🤣🤣 Indeed!

Or, if you want to carry on @Burritowrap you need a new user name, too much history showing up on this one now. 🤔😁

Greenfields20 · 28/06/2025 09:30

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AnnunciataM · 28/06/2025 09:24

So last summer you were dating someone who didnt want you to meet his friends until you'd got a promotion. Then earlier this year you thought your boss fancied you. By April you wanted to have a baby with a weed smoker who you'd been with 18 months, and now you've met someone else?

I think you could do with some time being single!

LemonLass · 28/06/2025 09:14

Hi @Burritowrap
It seems they are enjoying the attention and may get a kick out of it. They are future faking to keep your interest (because they are enjoying your attention). They found an "in" with you wanting a family (and telling you they share same future goal).

In my opinion, they have suckered you in and enjoying the control. They dont want a relstionship. They want things to carry on as they are.

If you continue, it will be crazy-making because you believe their nonsense (but it is nonsense). They would be in touch if they were genuine and book that flight if they wanted desparately ro see you again? They dont.

Sorry to state things so plainly but as you are a straight talker, I thought you may appreciate the same, together with some objectivity.

Cut them off and I hope.you find someone who doesnt play you like this again x

Dangermoo · 28/06/2025 08:59

He just wants sex and is flattered. Is he asking you for a certain kind of photo?

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