Living at home at 25, is it common?

I am not sure why this would be a suprise to anyone. The cost of rent as a ratio to wages has been an issue for years. It is almost impossible for many single, working people to afford even a small flat to rent, let alone then find money to save a deposit to buy. My DC pays £800 a month for a room in a shared house as a student in a Northern city.

Whilst people have happily accepted the unearned wealth their houses have made them over the years, many seem oblivious to how this has impacted our younger generation. A few decades ago, a mortgage could be achieved on one median salary. Now this is unfeasible for all but the most wealthy.

Don’t think it matters - it is what it is.

It's a bit chicken-and-egg though isn't it @ilexgranita - has it become more socially acceptable because more young people are doing it (due to cost of housing)? Or are more people doing it because it's more socially acceptable? I'd say the former rather than the latter.

I think that whilst the cost of housing is partly to blame, it seems more socially acceptable for them to live at home - coupled with parents mostly being more liberally minded now compared to the 90s, it's become a no brainer - don't rent, live with your parents and then buy. When we we young adults in the 90s living with your parents would have been social suicide - you'd have been seen as a total weirdo/square - times have changed.

Yes
very common
I moved out after I finished university at 22
My DCs will stay at home until they buy their own homes

Very common

I was kicked out as a teenager. Lived in some terrible places and was also homeless. Then rented for years finally able to buy in my 40s.

I had my dc as a teen. DC moved out for uni. But due to rent being more than wages DC is living with us, in 30s. In the SE. Currently struggling with MH stress from work and depression so I’m glad I’m here to help but our living conditions are not ideal. Also MH is linked to not being able to afford their own place without a partner.

My 24 (25) in Aug is still at home. He’s still finishing his apprenticeship, he went back a year due to changing where he worked. So earning are low. Not sure when he’ll move out, no rush although his brothers are covering his room.

my 21 year old moved out 2 years ago
so just depends. Still got 2 at home. Prob have them for some time too

@Ninerainbows I’m 51 and even I didn’t buy until my 30’s. Some people of my generation did though.

There aren't as many 20-somethings buying on their own as there used to be. I am 40 and my 3 best friends all bought flats on their own in their early 20s as 5% deposit was between 5k and 10k. I think it's very hard to afford rent or mortgage payments, high energy bills, council tax and food on your own at the moment.

none of my 2 would want to live in a shared house either.
none of my friends children live away from home, even for uni.

@2chocolateoranges Everyone’s different.

For uni, my DD was eager to experience living somewhere completely different to her home town and so is my DS. We have several universities in our area but DS isn’t planning to apply to them, neither did DD. They want to move around and find out what life is like in a number of places, if possible. I was similar and so was DH.

I just hope that they can find jobs that allow them to do this. 🤞

Alas I've been slumming it up in shared housing since I moved out for uni at 18 (ahem...and after being told the year I graduated I had "moved out" and there was coming back after uni 😬)

In hindsight it probably would have been nice to have had the security to move back to my parents and save up for a few years (ahem...as all my siblings were closed to do... 🙃🫠) but also on the flip side I think after years of independence being back under my parents house and rules would probably have also been pretty stifling. To be fair to my parents they did give us all inheritance which has opened doors I that would shall we shall previously would have been locked to me.

My partner still lives at home after splitting with his ex before we got together and tbh it's not actually the worst thing. I fortunately get on great with his parents and it feels more like a home than the shit hole room I rent in a HMO that costs £440 a month 😳 thankfully we are about to buy a home and the mortgage between us for a 3 bed house will be in the same region I'm currently paying for a bloody room

...probably more common these days and if I'd had he opportunity I'd have probably also done it 🤷🏻‍♀️

My 22 yr old graduates this summer and starts her graduate job one month before she turns 23 so she will be with us for a while , thankfully she is clean and tidy.

ds is 25 and out of all his friendship group there is only 1 who lives in their own house and his is due to him relocating for work, the rest all stay at home.

house prices are astronomical just now so more and more young adults are staying at home longer.

none of my 2 would want to live in a shared house either.

none of my friends children live away from home, even for uni.

Haha I was 44 before I got married and moved out!! It fact I still stay there 3 nights a week as I work near them and live 90 miles away!!

Yes @Bollixtothat, it’s really frustrating for the 20-somethings who enjoy flat/house-sharing with their friends, but nowadays rents are so high. I had a few years in shared accommodations, it was a laugh, easy to move for work, and I could still save. DD would like a similar experience, but I don’t know whether the economics will work out.

Although she’s currently in a student flat with her mates, complete with an early 1980’s avocado bathroom, perhaps she can find something similar after graduation. 😂

Very common in my country. They aren’t building houses fast enough for our children to be living alone once they reach adulthood . Much better to stay at home as long as necessary to become financially stable in the long term .

Wow times have changed! It’s been almost 15 years since I was 25, but I don’t know anyone who was still living at home at that age. In fact, I remember thinking that it was mortifying to still be living in a house share at 25, and started looking to rent a flat on my own!

Mine have moved out. Dsd was 25 when she bought her house with her dp, dd1 lives with dh and dd2 is in the military living in a military house. Think I may be lucky

Yes, very much so. My cousin just moved out then moved back in again 'temporarily', she's 27. Her brother still lives at home and he's 25. My other young cousin lives at home and he's also 27.

Unless you want to spend your money on a grim flat share or HMO with strangers there's little motivation for young people to move out.

Until they pull together a deposit or maybe move in with partner. If the family home is sufficiently sized and the parents are happy to have them.

I guess if they were in a tiny very isolated village nowhere near any jobs or exciting things to do it could seem pretty stifling and limiting.

My auntie never left the family home. Until she had to go into care. And she had a decent career, boyfriend, great social life and a very happy and fulfilling existence.

I would say it’s the norm. A lot of our friends have either bought first homes for their kids or helped them with deposits but our ds 26 is still here and saving like mad.

My youngest DC is 25 so I know quite a few 25 year olds. The only one who doesn't live in the family home lives in her boyfriend's house, which he bought with an inheritance a few years ago. The other 10 that I can think of off the top of my head all live at home ( London, so very expensive to move out). Many of those have their older and younger siblings still at home, too.

@AllaMova Goodness, I’d be losing my mind!

My DD (20) is hoping not to have to move home after she graduates next year, she really enjoys flat-sharing with friends. I really hope she can find a job that enables her to continue doing that, She loves us, but she wants to continue living independently. 🤞

It’s very common. My older half-sister is 38 and she still lives with her mother. She’s showing no signs of leaving any time soon.

Back then it took you 8 years but now it would take a lot longer (because salary inflation hasn't kept pace with house prices). So it's a different decision now.

Yikes @wellstopdoingitthen, it would’ve driven me bonkers if I had to live at home at 30. 😕