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AIBU to make a complaint to school

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Hangingwithmygnomies · 27/06/2025 20:10

My 8 year old DS came home from school today clearly unwell. He was complaining of a a really bad headache, backache and feeling sick and "shaky" and he went straight to bed and fell asleep after some calpol. My MIL picked him up today as it's my full work day, and the teacher (not his normal one) who brought out his class advised that he has started to feel poorly after morning break, went and laid down at one point and was feeling so rough that he was unable to do any work. No one fron the school called me to tell me he was unwell and I'm really angry that he was left most of the day clearly in pain without any pain relief! To be so unwell that he couldn't complete any work and no one thought to call me to collect him, is surely unreasonable on the schools part?

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cherish123 · 27/06/2025 20:44

Hangingwithmygnomies · 27/06/2025 20:40

@Vvvvvvvvv I think that's my issue as it seems based on what the teacher told MIL, he didn't really manage the day if he was laying down and not well enough to complete any work. If he had just felt a little under the weather and they wanted to see how he was then I would totally understand. I don't think he fell asleep because he was tired, more from pain like I do when I have a migraine, which I'm wondering if he actually maybe had one as I started getting them young. If he presented at school like he did when MIL dropped him home, I really feel he should've been sent home. I have a good relationship with the school and don't want to jeopardise that, so maybe might just mention it casually when I take him to school Monday rather than an official complaint. They're aware I WFH from home so collection is not a problem for me

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I wouldn't. They obviously didn't think he was ill enough to warrant a call.

Missingbthe point but - I assume you mean lying down (not laying down😆)!

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Hangingwithmygnomies · 27/06/2025 20:40

@Vvvvvvvvv I think that's my issue as it seems based on what the teacher told MIL, he didn't really manage the day if he was laying down and not well enough to complete any work. If he had just felt a little under the weather and they wanted to see how he was then I would totally understand. I don't think he fell asleep because he was tired, more from pain like I do when I have a migraine, which I'm wondering if he actually maybe had one as I started getting them young. If he presented at school like he did when MIL dropped him home, I really feel he should've been sent home. I have a good relationship with the school and don't want to jeopardise that, so maybe might just mention it casually when I take him to school Monday rather than an official complaint. They're aware I WFH from home so collection is not a problem for me

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porridgecake · 27/06/2025 20:20

This is normal for schools.
You won't get anywhere with a complaint.

Vvvvvvvvv · 27/06/2025 20:18

Don’t make a complaint. It’s highly unlikely this was done through negligence or incompetence. It’s more likely he was going slowly downhill during the day and you’re now seeing him, tired and at home, at his worst. Teachers are under huge amounts of pressure not to contact parents, and if they know you work then they’ll have be even more reluctant to call. Believe it or not, teachers have the best interest of their pupils at heart - I imagine only a monster would see a child desperately ill and in pain and ignore that, suggesting he wasn’t presenting as unwell at school as he is now. If he’s in bed with calpol, having managed the day, then what harm is done. If you feel so strongly about it then maybe an email saying that in future you are happy to be contacted if your child shows any signs of illness so you can make the call about what should be done, but I wouldn’t make a complaint, not in this, honestly quite mild sounding, instance.

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Hangingwithmygnomies · 27/06/2025 20:18

ladeedarrrmmy · 27/06/2025 20:13

I highly doubt that’s the full story.

I'm not relying on my son's say so - that is what the teacher told my MIL so why would that not be the whole story?

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ladeedarrrmmy · 27/06/2025 20:13

I highly doubt that’s the full story.