Woman on holiday? AIBU?

And what was the reason for taking about a 9yo’s breast tissue?

Who blamed the girl? Not me. Don’t make shit up.

People are overweight due to an excess of fat - hence fat.
It’s an adjective.
It’s unkind to use the word directly to the person themself but as a descriptor on MN we all know what op means.

@Gogoea Indeed. Particularly when she's responsible for what her DD eats. Poor "Sarah" - imagine having that for a mother. She'll be another damaged adult who will have to go NC with her "D"M to protect her self-esteem and sanity. 😞

This! Clearly a lower bar for them…

the mum pointed to an elephant in a book my daughter was reading and said “Sarah’s as fat as that”. -
My daughter giggled and repeated it and I could see Sarah’s face and she was very upset.

Umm - where’s the bit where you said “No Maisie we don’t say things like that. Say sorry to Sarah please”

Whether or not the mum is a dick, you should have stepped in there!!

Glad that's the case re: your son. But the away you have phrased it really does sound like that.

The woman is a toxic bitch and you should have corrected your daughter as well. Fat shaming a child is awful. That poor girl.

Did you correct her?

What a bitch.

You should have called her out there and then. Why didn’t you?

I can't believe that NONE of the other three parents said anything, either to your DD or Sarah's mother. So far the two fathers have escaped criticism unscathed.

I can’t believe you didn’t say anything to the mother but I am absolutely gobsmacked you didn’t correct your daughter.

Your son sounds lovely and empathetic. You’re lucky to have him. His response is the only decent one in the whole post.

I really think you need to have a word with yourself.

Yeah the mother is an absolute cowbag. What an awful thing to say about her daughter, especially in front of other people. And they are mostly responsible for their daughters weight surely at that age!
I'm sure you would have told your daughter off had she been the one to say it. But the fact she is just repeating an adult, and you didn't correct the adult, it is murky waters. Not sure I believe the people who would have done something in the moment. Maybe I would have told my daughter off, maybe I wouldn't.
Flip side of that though; I'm not sure why you are moaning about what your son said. He seems to be the only one trying to make the girl feel better. And if you didn't correct the adult, why would he?!

I'd like to think I'd later not associate with the lady and tell her exactly why. But I imagine, in reality, I'd try and lie low and grin and bear it if unavoidable. But that's because I'm an absolutely non-confrontational chicken shit.

As a side note, this is the reason I always stay in my own place on holiday - fear of befriending someone who turns out to be an absolute arsehole!

This. Your dd is 6. Still a little girl. All those shaming her and ignoring the mums behaviour should be ashamed. You hsve obviously brought your ds up right as he was kind and perceptive. Your dd will probably develop these skills too. Sarah's mum not so much and I feel desperately sorry for that poor 9 year old who will in all likelihood grow up with body issues because of her awful mother

I don't know why you are getting such a hard time op. Yanbu that the other mum is a toxic bitch. It's hard to speak up in the moment. I suppose you and your dh might have been just shocked and also, i think most of us are so used to try to be pleasant to others that we probably don't call out others as much as we should. I know it's something I struggle with. I usually wonder after the fact why I didn't say anything.

Yes you should have said something to your daughter but again maybe you were too shocked or the moment passed too quickly. I'd definitely talk to both your kids about it though and tell them that Sarah's mum was put of order and very hurtful and your dd shouldn't have laughed or repeated it.

Your son sounds very sweet.

No idea what your remark about your DS is supposed to mean - He acted decently and showed empathy, what a kind lad.
Your DD was obviously just copying the adult, but if she has also called your DS fat then you need to have words, she is old enough to know that calling people names is hurtful.

But why on earth didn't you say something? as soon as your the elephant remark was made you could have said 'that's a really nasty thing to say, why did you say it ?', if people aren't called out when they are mean,they will carry on doing it.

Poor little Sarah probably has a lifetime of abuse to look forward to from her mother. Not that you can do anything about that obviously, and you are right in your assessment that the woman is a bitch.

What’s her being an only child got to do with it?

As the parent you should have stepped in and said we don’t say things like this.

But you still persist in calling her fat several times on here rather than overweight.

Oh my bad! Thanx. I read it in a hurry and thought it was OP who pointed to the elephant and her 6 year-old called Maisie fat….oops!