To despise picky eaters?

Meh, its not as if the only thing you served was roast chicken with chicken salad and a side of chicken ffs!

When you go to a buffet, you don't just stand in front of the tray of food you don't like and cry because you don't like it, do you? No you move the fuck on and find the food you do like and eat that.

Both MIL and SIL sound ridiculous and you deserve a bloody gin buffet to put up with them.

This post wasn't a dig at those with genuine issues, allergies etc, it was a "FFS, MIL and SIL need to grow the fuck up" post! I hear you, I get it @Brownoliveskincurlyblackhair

When I am hosting I always ask guests about preferences. If I've invited someone for a meal I want them to enjoy themselves so I certainly wouldn't deliberately serve them food that they don't like. I've been catering for my multi allergic DS for the best part of 20 years so it doesn't particularly faze me if I have to accommodate someone else's dietary restrictions for a meal or two. It doesn't make it any easier or more difficult to deal with if it's a medical need, religious observance, ethical objection or simple preference so I really don't care what the reason is, if a guest tells me that they don't eat something I'll respect that.
I don't eat chicken or commercially produced eggs because I think that even compared to other meat production the poultry industry is horrific. If someone cooked it for me when I was a guest I expect I'd force it down but I don't know anyone who knows me well enough to invite me to dinner who doesn't also know my views on the subject. I can't imagine any of my friends or family expecting me to eat chicken any more than I'd serve meat to a vegetarian or vegan.

I like to serve things that the people I love enjoy.

There is nothing dramatic about letting you know someone does not eat certain food lol.
Unless you planned to serve them just a loads of roasted chicken wothout anything else in sight surelly you could have just go on with your life and expect DIL to eat something else. Or if you want to be nice put some sausage or whatever simple thing she eats. I even do that for my MIL ffs.

And use your big girls voice and tell others you don't eat pork so they don't plate it up for you and eat the rest.

Idk why people make so much drama over people eating over, it's not like they will die of starvation for not eating everything offered that one meal they are there.

I don't eat chicken or pork, for no other reason than I dislike them, yet I still get invited to eat at friend's houses regularly

I was swinging towards fussy eater sympathy, but most of the judgment seems to be against us weirdos who will eat offal. I for one am very glad I will eat anything. I also love travel, I do judge people who go abroad and moan about ‘foreign food’. It is part of the holiday

I was subjected to "sit till you finish" at school. That's where I found out about the projectile vomiting.

Well they can,but they can't then expect their demands to be met by others.
Youngest dc has allergies so we bring food to parties, rather than expect other to manage this.

Me too. Hate fussy adult eaters

I’ve been medically diagnosed with ARFID.
One aspect of ARFID is the social anxiety around discussing with other people. I don’t like to draw attention to my disordered eating and have only disclosed my diagnosis to a small handful of people.
I will go to great lengths to hide it.

To me, different tastes are preferring chicken to beef or potatoes to pasta. If someone cooks me food I'll just eat it whether it's my favourite food or not.

nah, I'd sooner just not eat at yours.

Why are you judging people just because they have food preferences? Do you treat all so-called 'fussy eaters' with the same contempt or just the ones you dislike and create drama around? You sound insufferable. People have a right to express their food preferences.

It doesn't, what bothers is when non broccoli Belinda bores and drones on about being non broccoli and the trauma that broccoli brings..

Haha, definitely. No way am I preparing a buffet for five!

I'm not a fan of ketchup but manners would mean I just ate it, honestly or found a surreptitious way to wipe if off.

I’m with you to some extent OP. Probably in part because I’m celiac, I have to be so strict about what I eat so when people are like “no red peppers or french cheese” I do find myself thinking get a fkn grip…🙄

when you’re hosting/inviting its crucial to say at invite stage “any dietary requirements” and this is the point at which people can say allergies or strong dislikes. After that they’ll eat what they’re given in my house and I’ll think them rude if they don’t eat it/spring any last minute gripes on me.

I am a supertaster. Anything that tastes pleasantly bitter to others tastes dreadful to me

Quite. And saying they have ARFID when they are really just fussy. ARFID is a serious and rare medical condition...but the number of people that trot it out, including on this thread are statistically highly unlikely to all have a diagnosis.

If your food issues are that severe then you'd think you would let hosts cooking for you know in advance.

Liver and onions are delicious and only my mother has served me tripe.

Pub.

Don't know a single adult with diagnosed autism and even the ones I suspect might be (brother) eats anything. I've never heard another adult talk about ARFID as a problem either. If someone says, 'I don't like tomatoes' you accommodate them.
I realise that means I live in a bubble bit I truly never have had this discussion with an adult.

buffet.

Well, without getting too graphic about it, when I hear people saying that pretty bland things like chicken or mushrooms are disgusting or repulsive, I wonder what other… tastes… they find disgusting or repulsive. And again with extreme sensory / textural issues.

So you would eat tripe then?
Liver and onions?

There is always food you don't like doesn't make you "picky" just means you don't like something I'm really not sure why people think grown adults arnt allowed to have food preferences