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Paid nursery inset days

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Zombiefluff · 27/06/2025 16:40

So yesterday our private nursery announced 6 inset days in their calendar from 1st of September. This is a paid, private full time nursery, not linked to a school.

I currently pay about 2k for a 1 year old with 15 hours and 1k for a 3 year old with 30.
Bank holidays are obviously paid for and now 6 additional inset days out of nowhere.
AIBU it is this nuts?
If I wanted to deal with inset days and random time off I would do a school nursery!!

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Groundhedgehogday · 27/06/2025 18:39

I'd be really annoyed by this. We used two different nurseries for DS, neither of which had an inset day. They did very occasionally ask us to pick up by 5pm for parents evening or for a twilight training. One of closed for deep cleaning on one day because nearly every child and half the staff came down with a vomiting bug in the space of a morning.

I'd be concerned about something going on if they suddenly need 6 full days of training that required a nursery closure.

Fetaface · 27/06/2025 18:23

Either way you'll get charged the cost.

Nurseries that send staff on training at weekends - staff need time back in lieu so cover is added. This will be factored into business cost so you will be paying for it.

Nurseries that send staff on training during working hours - staff cover is needed so again this will be factored into business costs and you will be paying for it.

Nurseries that have insets - no cover needed but closure needed. You pay for it.

Nurseries that have insets that are 'not paid for'. Costs are factored into daily rates to cover this absence.

Any way they do it your child benefits. Having staff that are qualified in first aid, food hygiene, safeguarding, curriculum updates etc all impact on your child.

Lmnop22 · 27/06/2025 18:15

I would be furious! Nursery is already SO expensive so to pay for days I am looking after my own kid and not working or paying twice for alternative childcare would be extremely frustrating. I pay about £75 per day for my DD so that’s £450 per year down the drain for the inset days.

Ignore all the pps saying they need to train staff and deep clean etc etc - do it outside the opening hours or train staff in shifts to cover the childcare too and deep clean at night/weekends! If my nursery can manage without inset days and be perfectly clean with great staff and yours did for the last 3 years, there must be a way yours can going forward!

Likely its yet another way to try and top up their income because the government doesn’t properly subsidise nurseries and the free hours they offer are underfunded.

TwoFeralKids · 27/06/2025 17:44

You expect that many inset days with school. It is expected. Not at a non school nursery though.

TwoFeralKids · 27/06/2025 17:41

Mine doesn't have inset days. Just bank holidays and other holidays. That seems like too many. YANBU.

stichguru · 27/06/2025 17:39

Training days are presumably to teach their staff things they need to know in order to be caring for/teaching your children, therefore they have to do them to remain open. If they can't charge for them, then they can't afford to pay the staff to do them, then how do they continue to care for and teach your child?

MeringueOutang · 27/06/2025 17:38

None of the nurseries I used for any of my kids had Inset days until DD, who's at a school nursery, and they don't charge us anything. Inset days are a school thing. You certainly shouldn't be funding these "Inset" days and having to cover the childcare yourself for the privilege, that's a total joke.

flowersandfoil · 27/06/2025 17:37

This is frustrating, and you’re well within your right to be annoyed about it. No one is making you send your child there, so if you’re not happy with their policies and the fees, choose another nursery?!

DappledThings · 27/06/2025 17:36

Crunchymum · 27/06/2025 17:29

You mention it 3 times in your first post!!

This is a paid, private full time nursery, not linked to a school

I currently pay about 2k for a 1 year old with 15 hours and 1k for a 3 year old with 30

If I wanted to deal with inset days and random time off I would do a school nursery!!

I get the expectation of private nursery. I was only saying that if you continue down the fee paying route in the future then you'll be dealing with this issue on a much grander scale.

But you're still making a false link between someone using a private nursery and private school. There's no connection. Anyone who uses a nursery that isn't one attached to a school is using a private nursery and it doesn't come with any suggestion they are planning to send the child to private school.

OP I'd be annoyed too. I get paying bank holidays, that's fine and part of the deal but closing for 6 extra days means finding 6 more days of childcare as they are otherwise normal working days

Zombiefluff · 27/06/2025 17:33

Crunchymum · 27/06/2025 17:29

You mention it 3 times in your first post!!

This is a paid, private full time nursery, not linked to a school

I currently pay about 2k for a 1 year old with 15 hours and 1k for a 3 year old with 30

If I wanted to deal with inset days and random time off I would do a school nursery!!

I get the expectation of private nursery. I was only saying that if you continue down the fee paying route in the future then you'll be dealing with this issue on a much grander scale.

Those 3 comments are saying different things.
You clearly have some weird vendetta here, the vast majority of parents with babies and toddlers pay for childcare and it’s has literally nothing to do with private schooling. No idea why you’re repeatedly bringing that up.

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Crunchymum · 27/06/2025 17:29

Zombiefluff · 27/06/2025 17:20

As in not a school nursery that operates term time with school holidays and inset days.

Private is literally how childcare nurseries are referred too, I hardly made a big song and dance by stating that it was in fact not a school nursery hence the shock at newly announced inset days which are typical in school.

“I'm just saying a private setting doesn't mean the kids spend more time is said setting.”

I don’t think you understand what you’re talking about any are getting carried away with your outrage at the notion of “private”. The only nursery a 1 year old can attend is private, where are you getting I think kids should or do spend more time in a private setting?

You mention it 3 times in your first post!!

This is a paid, private full time nursery, not linked to a school

I currently pay about 2k for a 1 year old with 15 hours and 1k for a 3 year old with 30

If I wanted to deal with inset days and random time off I would do a school nursery!!

I get the expectation of private nursery. I was only saying that if you continue down the fee paying route in the future then you'll be dealing with this issue on a much grander scale.

Crunchymum · 27/06/2025 17:23

I didn't realise you were a preexisting customer of the nursery.

I think you need to ask the nursery for clarification as presumably you've already signed the contract based on expectations of previous years. Would be very interesting what the contract says about the inset days.

If they are charging you for the extra 6 days then that is shit. If these days have been factored into fees then there isn't much you can do do. You need to ask the question though.

Zombiefluff · 27/06/2025 17:20

Crunchymum · 27/06/2025 17:13

Well you are the one who is making a big song and dance about it being a private nursery that you pay a lot of money for so I'm just saying a private setting doesn't mean the kids spend more time is said setting.

As in not a school nursery that operates term time with school holidays and inset days.

Private is literally how childcare nurseries are referred too, I hardly made a big song and dance by stating that it was in fact not a school nursery hence the shock at newly announced inset days which are typical in school.

“I'm just saying a private setting doesn't mean the kids spend more time is said setting.”

I don’t think you understand what you’re talking about any are getting carried away with your outrage at the notion of “private”. The only nursery a 1 year old can attend is private, where are you getting I think kids should or do spend more time in a private setting?

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MidnightPatrol · 27/06/2025 17:18

I agree it is annoying given you are still paying for those days… but then also have to pay for more childcare on top (or take six days random annual leave).

Crunchymum · 27/06/2025 17:13

Zombiefluff · 27/06/2025 16:46

What does private school have to do with childcare?

Well you are the one who is making a big song and dance about it being a private nursery that you pay a lot of money for so I'm just saying a private setting doesn't mean the kids spend more time is said setting.

Zombiefluff · 27/06/2025 17:12

tweetypi · 27/06/2025 16:58

We use a private nursery that has 5 training days (which really impresses me) and they are clear that they don’t charge for any nursery closures which includes the training days and bank holidays. Though the cost is then averaged out over the year so you wouldn’t notice it on a monthly basis.

Yeah we already paid for bank holidays and 2 weeks over Christmas, which seemed fairly standard but 6 days on top of that is just so much!

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CatchHimDerry · 27/06/2025 17:11

Zombiefluff · 27/06/2025 16:45

Well they could have announced this change before school nursery applications shut. They’ve done it later which really ties parents hand leaving them with no choices.

You may still be able to do a late application if needed OP, we did as we didn’t think circumstances allowed, but have worked it out. We heard back within about 10 days and we have a space and have secured breakfast, wraparound and after school place

May be different where you are but could be worth a look

Kolatop · 27/06/2025 17:05

Zombiefluff · 27/06/2025 17:03

I don’t see how that is remotely reflective of this post.

It’s not - they just thought it sounded clever 😂🙄

Zombiefluff · 27/06/2025 17:03

Coffeeishot · 27/06/2025 16:56

Some Mumsnetters tend moan about nurseries as if they are actual personal staff !

I don’t see how that is remotely reflective of this post.

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Zombiefluff · 27/06/2025 17:01

Kolatop · 27/06/2025 16:53

People on mumsnet are obsessed with defending nurseries. You could say your nursery have announced a new policy where they now own your child and will be sending them up chimneys and most posters would make it your fault or explain that soot is good for their immune system.

No, YANBU. Absolutely ridiculous when nurseries decide to charge when they choose to be closed. My nursery doesn’t do it, no good nursery would. It’s also illegal for them to allocate “free” hours funding from the government to days when they’ve refused to open.

Everyone bleating “when are they supposed to train them”… on inset days is fine. Just don’t charge parents when you’re not open - obviously.

People are being weirdly agro 😂
I would be surprised if many people would be happy paying for an additional 6 days when the nursery is shut.
They’ve done training without charging me for over a week of closures for the past 3 years.
I was going to restructure work to work around school but I haven’t planned random new nursery closures into annual leave!

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tweetypi · 27/06/2025 16:58

We use a private nursery that has 5 training days (which really impresses me) and they are clear that they don’t charge for any nursery closures which includes the training days and bank holidays. Though the cost is then averaged out over the year so you wouldn’t notice it on a monthly basis.

Emsie1987 · 27/06/2025 16:56

Had two kids at two different private nursery's. Never had inset days. They do close for Christmas two weeks and that's paid but I knew about it. The first nursery did have something in the contract about May needing to close for training days but over the three years it never did. If someone was on training they brought someone else in to keep rota

Coffeeishot · 27/06/2025 16:56

Some Mumsnetters tend moan about nurseries as if they are actual personal staff !

Kolatop · 27/06/2025 16:53

People on mumsnet are obsessed with defending nurseries. You could say your nursery have announced a new policy where they now own your child and will be sending them up chimneys and most posters would make it your fault or explain that soot is good for their immune system.

No, YANBU. Absolutely ridiculous when nurseries decide to charge when they choose to be closed. My nursery doesn’t do it, no good nursery would. It’s also illegal for them to allocate “free” hours funding from the government to days when they’ve refused to open.

Everyone bleating “when are they supposed to train them”… on inset days is fine. Just don’t charge parents when you’re not open - obviously.

Coffeeishot · 27/06/2025 16:50

Oh ok, have you asked them ?