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Are children of teachers always this bad or have we had bad luck?

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JapaneseMaggie · 27/06/2025 11:33

DS has had very few problems at school, has lots of friends and different friendship groups. Few fall outs but always dealt with and moved on from quickly, his behaviour is very good, no issues in class etc. He’s had two big fall outs with two boys over the past 4 years. One ended in a formal complaint from us as the school were shocking in how it was dealt with then an apology and admission of wrong doing, the second seems to be heading the same way. We knew with the first one that his dad is a teacher, although not at the school. This second one we’ve learnt that both parents are teachers/senco again in different schools. There is a huge difference in how these fall outs have been dealt with compared to others, and the fall outs seem far more intense and instant separation at play times.

It’s two AIBU really. Firstly are children of teachers generally like this? Another friend has a child in another school who was bullied by the son of the headteacher at my DS school ironically.

And secondly, is this school siding more with children that are from parents in the same profession or am I paranoid?

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SnemonyLicket · 27/06/2025 12:01

I am an ex-teacher and both my children are very well behaved, never get into trouble, and get on well with others. Most teacher friends I have are in the same position with their own children. However, just like with non-teacher parents, some kids are poorly behaved or difficult regardless of what their parents do for a living.

As for how the school deals with them, they might be doing a bad job of dealing with the issues, but I would be astounded if they cared less about the profession of the parents involved. I’ve worked at a number of schools and never once was a child of a teacher treated any differently from the rest of the kids. The staff don’t care what the employment situation is for the kids’ parents.

BookArt55 · 27/06/2025 12:00

So two teacher's kids have friendship issues and all kids of teachers are now bad eggs?

Just because someone is a teacher it doesn't mean they know how to parent. It doesn't mean their kid will be an angel.

That is like saying that a doctor can never have an ill child.

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JapaneseMaggie · 27/06/2025 11:53

Ablondiebutagoody · 27/06/2025 11:45

Generally like what? You haven't explained what the kids are doing

The first one decided he didn’t want to be friends with DS anymore. They’d grown apart but then he started telling people that DS had bullied him, including the other children and his mother. His mother approached DS on the playground about this. Both myself and his dad were insisting that the school looked into this as if DS was bullying we wanted to sort it out. School said no DS wasn’t bullying, just a case of two boys no longer getting on, however this message that DS was a bully was continued by the boy and his parent.

The second one is more DS grew away from the child, the child wanted to be friends with him still and see DS out of school, DS said no, boy starts being horrible directly to DS and says “I’m being horrible because you won’t be friends with me” . Again school say two boys that just don’t get on anymore.

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beasmithwentworth · 27/06/2025 11:46

Of course they aren’t all like this! What a question!! That’s suggesting that the children of all 468000 teachers in the UK are all ‘like this’. Further more it’s suggesting that somehow it’s the fault of the parents’ jobs that make them so. I think this is entirely coincidental that your 2 experiences happen to have been with those who have parents as teachers .

I am not a teacher nor do I work in a school but situations are handled badly in schools up and down the country every single day without the children of any teachers being involved. It just happens. I would be horrified to think that the situation was swayed by parents of the other children being in the same profession. I can’t believe that this would happen - though maybe someone will come along and say this can happen.

BusMumsHoliday · 27/06/2025 11:45

You are working from a sample size of two.

It also sounds like your problem is with the school, rather than the parents?

Ablondiebutagoody · 27/06/2025 11:45

Generally like what? You haven't explained what the kids are doing