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Lifestyle Choices impacting on the NHS -Boiling my piss!!!!

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Lardychops · 27/06/2025 00:40

DH is currently on an NHS orthopaedics ward with around 7/8 other men.
He played 5 aside around 3 weeks ago , got bashed on the thigh and the bruise has spread and become hard and hot and painful, now infected and he needs it operated on due to risk of sepsis.

On the ward are 4 men 60 plus who have been involved in motorcycle accidents with legs in pins and have undergone several operations and been in hospital weeks ( 1 for months) as well as a young lad who was brought in yesterday following a cycling collision with another cyclist with his upper left side shattered. One other man was on a sponsored 3 peak running challenge (with a one man band scenario or such like ) and has shattered his ankle. Looking at an op tomo and a very long recuperation. yesterday a man left who had been in for three months after a skking accident with a broken hip that would not heal properly.

Am I unreasonable in thinking that with the NHS in the state it is at this current time that personal responsibility for lifestyle choices should be more of a consideration for all of us with the tax payer footing the bill for feckless and irresponsible behaviours.
It’s all avoidable surely , making better, healthier choices that do not willingly impact on limited resources.

Sports such as football, skiing, cycling, motorcross as well as mountaineering are risky to one’s health and people need to take personal responsibility.

Am I being unreasonable tax payers?

OP posts:
JustMyView13 · 27/06/2025 12:08

BigFatBully · 27/06/2025 10:56

Sickle Cell Anaemia
Arthritis
Manic Depression
Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome
Haemophilia
Accidents such as being run over by a drunken or careless driver, being assaulted
Swine Flu
Impetigo

Quite. I was drawing blanks.
FWIW I’m not in favour of an NHS that decides whether ailments / illnesses / etc are self inflicted or as a result of lifestyle choices.

MrsTWH · 27/06/2025 12:00

Are the other patients not taxpayers too?!

Surely it’s the literally the entire point of the NHS - everyone gets to use it when they need it, free at the point of delivery.

Or are only injuries and illnesses that you deem acceptable allowed to be treated? Nobody with a BMI over under 20/over 25, nobody who has ever smoked/vaped, nobody who has ever had a drink of alcohol, nobody who has fallen over on a walk/off a bike, been in a car accident, chosen to have a baby… none of these people can be treated? All could be argued as lifestyle choices.

YABU and utterly ridiculous.

AngelicKaty · 27/06/2025 11:53

ChandrilanDiscoDroid · 27/06/2025 09:58

And yet she isn't putting her money where her mouth is and insisting on him being transferred to a private hospital and paying for his care.

This would only partially ease the cost burden on the NHS, but not help in other ways (like waiting lists) because the doctors operating privately will have come away from the NHS for a day a week (or more) to do so and reduced the NHS workforce.

CrispieCake · 27/06/2025 11:52

Why not tax all these "lifestyle choices" appropriately?
We tax sugary drinks and tobacco, maybe we could start taxing motorcycles, high-performance bikes and adult football clubs to claw back some of the associated costs.

CrispieCake · 27/06/2025 11:48

TesChique · 27/06/2025 10:59

OK. In that case I am hereby mounting a request to have my NICS slashed to avoid paying for any NHS treatment your child needs. After all, having a child was your lifestyle choice, why should i be financially impacted by it? I'm sure you understand and will support my point of view .

Do you see how ridiculous that sounds?

Do you see how ridiculous you sound?

But the child is a separate person from the parents and the child did not make a lifestyle choice. And so is entitled to treatment if "lifestyle choices" is the criteria.

AngelicKaty · 27/06/2025 11:45

@Lardychops This thread is hilarious and I sort of hoped you were joking, but it appears not. Kindly OP, human beings want to live, not just exist. It isn't just sports such as football, skiing, cycling, motorcross and mountaineering that are risky to one’s health - all of life is. LIFE. IS. RISKY.
How do you know the motorcyclists on your DH's ward weren't just travelling to work and got hit by car-drivers? And speaking of driving, that's a very risky activity if you look at the accident and death statistics. Do you drive OP? If so, will you now stop because you realise this is a terrible "life-choice"? Do you ever travel abroad OP? Will this continue to be one of your life-choices when you know of the risks attached? (Nowhere near as risky as the drive to the airport, of course).
Doctors encourage us to exercise to maintain good health, so what exercise would you suggest that has minimal risk OP? You could pull a ham-string or tear a meniscus just reaching for that net pass whilst playing tennis - damn this risky sport! And if we don't exercise and try to minimise our chances of developing conditions like heart disease and T2 diabetes, that could have a catastrophic affect on the NHS. Oh no, wait, that ship has already sailed ...
In your new world order, the FA Cup, World Cup, Olympics (Winter and summer - have you seen those javelins? 😱 ), F1, Motocross GP, world exploration, etc would never happen.
Accidents happen in life even if we personally do all we can to avoid them (because we can't control other people's behaviour), but you would have us all wrapped in cotton wool, never daring to take risks of any kind. The world has been built on human endeavour OP, and all that endeavour carries risk - and joy - the joy of life. This is how human beings live and, more importantly, want to live.
YABVU OP and you will see the vote is largely in agreement with this view.

nomas · 27/06/2025 11:38

CrispieCake · 27/06/2025 10:49

Also why should the OP use her own money to fund her husband's "lifestyle choices"?

Surely the expense of any treatment should be met by him since it's his "dangerous" hobby 😂?

Exactly!

limescale · 27/06/2025 11:30

lunaswand · 27/06/2025 10:48

well you sound fun. Imagine you sit in your house wrapped in bubble wrap all day ?

That is DEF not listed under the Amber heat health alert checklist!

WestwardHo1 · 27/06/2025 11:28

gsiftpoffu · 27/06/2025 11:16

YABU.
Playing football and cycling is a healthy choice. Much better than sitting at home, eating an unhealthy diet, smoking, drinking and getting no exercise. And while it does use NHS resources to deal with people having footballing or cycling accidents I imagine that if everyone stopped cycling or playing football the cost would be greater to the NHS due to the increased number of people needed treatment for the type of diseases caused by a lack of exercise and obesity.

That said, I live in an area in the Alps where in recent years there have been more and more ski areas offering downhill mountain biking trails with obstacles, jumps etc. This is to attract more tourists when the ski lifts aren't running and also to prepare for when ski tourism goes down the pan as there's less and less snow.
The local hospital absolutely cannot cope with the number of mountain biking accidents. It's worse than the skiing. There are crisis meetings going on currently involving the provincial government and various health boards, hospital management etc.
This week two people have died on the mountain bike trails.
So in this case, I do think they need to come up with a solution because the hospital is at breaking point dealing with these mountain biker tourists.

Wow, I had no idea!

Illuminating, thank you. Though I guess flying over the handlebars and landing your collarbone on a rock is even more likely to break it than stacking it on a red run and landing on snow is.

DiscoBob · 27/06/2025 11:25

It's an orthopedic trauma ward. Of course those are the kind of accidents men get to break a bone. If you're not really elderly. Sports injuries and motorcycle/bike collision.

I was in the ortho trauma ward for five weeks. One young girl broke her arm falling off a bicycle. Everyone else was a fall from standing height or being knocked by a vehicle. Most other female patients were seventy five- 90 yo.

So it does seem like mens hobbies are much more dangerous than women's, that's for sure. I used to be surprised I was still alive every time I got off my boyfriend's motorbike.

Frostynoman · 27/06/2025 11:22

By your metric, what are the acceptable activities to have participated in and to have run the risk of, or achieved, broken bones in?

limescale · 27/06/2025 11:18

CrispieCake · 27/06/2025 10:40

Because of the mass sense of humour failure (or at least failure to even spot the humour), I imagine.

Was OP's post meant to be funny?

Livpool · 27/06/2025 11:18

That includes your husband I assume?

gsiftpoffu · 27/06/2025 11:16

YABU.
Playing football and cycling is a healthy choice. Much better than sitting at home, eating an unhealthy diet, smoking, drinking and getting no exercise. And while it does use NHS resources to deal with people having footballing or cycling accidents I imagine that if everyone stopped cycling or playing football the cost would be greater to the NHS due to the increased number of people needed treatment for the type of diseases caused by a lack of exercise and obesity.

That said, I live in an area in the Alps where in recent years there have been more and more ski areas offering downhill mountain biking trails with obstacles, jumps etc. This is to attract more tourists when the ski lifts aren't running and also to prepare for when ski tourism goes down the pan as there's less and less snow.
The local hospital absolutely cannot cope with the number of mountain biking accidents. It's worse than the skiing. There are crisis meetings going on currently involving the provincial government and various health boards, hospital management etc.
This week two people have died on the mountain bike trails.
So in this case, I do think they need to come up with a solution because the hospital is at breaking point dealing with these mountain biker tourists.

Enigma53 · 27/06/2025 11:09

WTAF are you talking about?? Im guessing your husband is included in the irresponsible brigade??

BigFatBully · 27/06/2025 11:03

Cancer, which is one of the most common reasons people use NHS services is caused by a gene mutation. Genes form our DNA that we have from birth. Some cancers are hereditary, such as breast cancer. Some people can never smoke, eat healthily, exercise, do yoga etc and still get cancer.

Our gene cells constantly make copies. When a gene cell develops a fault, it mutates at an alarming rate, to form a malignant tumour. This is how cancer begins.

TesChique · 27/06/2025 10:59

OK. In that case I am hereby mounting a request to have my NICS slashed to avoid paying for any NHS treatment your child needs. After all, having a child was your lifestyle choice, why should i be financially impacted by it? I'm sure you understand and will support my point of view .

Do you see how ridiculous that sounds?

Do you see how ridiculous you sound?

WestwardHo1 · 27/06/2025 10:59

This OP reminds me of the stay homers during Covid who self righteously condemned all the selfish people who might need "rescuing" the second they set foot outside the door. They often get very indignant on behalf of the RNLI who are constantly going out to rescue the selfish people who insist on going outside and doing activities instead of staying inside and looking at life through a computer or phone screen like responsible citizens.

(Though in a way I'm torn because I'm currently full of loathing for the noisy way men ride their stupid motorbikes, keeping me up and night and waking me up early in the morning.)

PrettyDamnCosmic · 27/06/2025 10:57

For FY2025-26 the OBR estimates the tax take from tobacco will be just £8.1 billion. While research published in 2017 estimated that treating smoking-related illness cost the NHS £2.6 billion a year (£3.5 billion adjusted for inflation), the wider economic costs reach over £13 billion (£17.4 billion adjusted for inflation) once factors such as lost productivity, tobacco litter and smoking-related house fires are considered.

https://digital.nhs.uk/about-nhs-digital/corporate-information-and-documents/directions-and-data-provision-notices/data-provision-notices-dpns/local-stop-smoking-services

https://obr.uk/forecasts-in-depth/tax-by-tax-spend-by-spend/tobacco-duties

Local Stop Smoking Services - NHS England Digital

Data Provision Notice to require the submission of data from local authorities and any system supplier commissioned to collate data on behalf of a local authority to collect data submitted by local authorities on the Stop Smoking Services provided...

https://digital.nhs.uk/about-nhs-digital/corporate-information-and-documents/directions-and-data-provision-notices/data-provision-notices-dpns/local-stop-smoking-services

BigFatBully · 27/06/2025 10:56

JustMyView13 · 27/06/2025 10:45

I guess technically, every use of the NHS could be argued as a consequence of a lifestyle choice. I’m struggling to think of one that isn’t (except disablement from birth).

Sickle Cell Anaemia
Arthritis
Manic Depression
Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome
Haemophilia
Accidents such as being run over by a drunken or careless driver, being assaulted
Swine Flu
Impetigo

Sadmummy3 · 27/06/2025 10:53

So if the NHS refused to treat anyone due to lifestyle choices who's left?
Can't treat smokers, drinkers, obese people, anyone who plays sport, pregnant women, anyone who drives a car or motorbike.
So who exactly do you think should be allowed hospital treatment? YABVU.

WestwardHo1 · 27/06/2025 10:52

Sure they're expensive but I'm not sure they're as expensive as all the people eating and sitting their way into long years of ill health.

EastGrinstead · 27/06/2025 10:50

Surely, having the charming OP to look after him after his accident will be enough to ensure he takes more care next time.

BeesAndCrumpets · 27/06/2025 10:50

err... EH?!

YABVVVVU

CrispieCake · 27/06/2025 10:49

nomas · 27/06/2025 10:46

Are you serious? Why would she pay when no one else is?

Also why should the OP use her own money to fund her husband's "lifestyle choices"?

Surely the expense of any treatment should be met by him since it's his "dangerous" hobby 😂?