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To no longer attend Wedding’s when only invited to the evening

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TeriBW · 26/06/2025 22:02

Anyone else not a fan? Everyone is slaughtered on arrival, it’s often ‘picky’ food so nothing substantial and it’s hard to get more than a quick hello with the happy couple…

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TheWisePlumDuck · 26/06/2025 22:12

Agreed.

If we are not close enough for me to be invited to the wedding, then I have no social obligation to suffer through an acquaintances reception.

BrendaTheBlendeer · 26/06/2025 22:10

Mum2jenny · 26/06/2025 22:08

Obviously your choice OP, but I think it depends on how near the venue is to you, and how much you want to support the couple getting married.
ive attended evening only events and enjoyed them. It did mean a bit of travel and booking a room, but I did like the couple getting married, so it was ok.
Its obviously your call, and it’s your choice but ppl getting married generally have a budget and can’t invite everyone to the whole shindig.

Well, they always could if they chose a venue/food option etc that meant they could have all the guests all day. They're choosing to have something fancier for fewer people, it's not that they can't invite everyone to the whole thing.

Their choice to do that, evening guests' choice not to bother.

supersonicginandtonic · 26/06/2025 22:09

I much prefer just an evening invite. All the waiting around and boredom has finished. I'd take drunk people over that anyway

MorrisZapp · 26/06/2025 22:09

I love an evening do! The ultimate low stakes night out. No etiquette to worry about, no social agony. Wear what you fancy, turn up and jump right in to the fun part, I love it!

BrendaTheBlendeer · 26/06/2025 22:08

No, I gave one a miss a couple of months ago. Several hours travel, paying out for a hotel, to just go to a terrible disco with expensive drinks and a few sausage rolls? No thanks, got better stuff to do with my time.

If it was a couple of miles away, maybe, but even then it's usually quite rubbish unless you've got a gang of people to go with.

Mum2jenny · 26/06/2025 22:08

Obviously your choice OP, but I think it depends on how near the venue is to you, and how much you want to support the couple getting married.
ive attended evening only events and enjoyed them. It did mean a bit of travel and booking a room, but I did like the couple getting married, so it was ok.
Its obviously your call, and it’s your choice but ppl getting married generally have a budget and can’t invite everyone to the whole shindig.

TinyTempest · 26/06/2025 22:08

YANBU if everyone is slaughtered by the time you get to all these receptions.

YABU about the food as you can have dinner before you go.

Londonrach1 · 26/06/2025 22:07

Yanbu. Only been once to the evening part...no food or drink provided. Didn't see the bride much as they were having photos.

Normandy144 · 26/06/2025 22:07

Agreed, it's much nicer to have everyone for the whole day rather than a two tier event. Look carefully at the guest list - if the person is worthy only of an evening invite then probably no point at all.

Pomegranatemum · 26/06/2025 22:06

YANBU. Especially if much travel or expense is required. I think if it were local it’d be fine.
DH once travelled a considerable distance for this, and the food was basically cheesy chips 😳

Allseeingallknowing · 26/06/2025 22:05

Bit churlish, isn’t it? Weddings are so expensive. The happy couple often can’t afford for everyone to attend the reception.

Haggisfish3 · 26/06/2025 22:03

Totally with you. I don’t go either. I’m getting married soon and everyone is invited to everything!

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