AIBU for attending show with male friend?

I would find the attempt to control who you spend time with to be a huge issue, more so than the potential cheating. So many red flags here

Oh please 😳 OP, run for the hills.

You cannot trust him. At all.

Where are your friends?! They should be kidnapping you and blocking him on everything - he honestly sounds the pits!

Run like your arse is on fire.

Good partners do not limit your friendships or try to control who you choose to socialize with either through guilt or threats.

You have the right to attend the theatre with anyone you choose to do so.

Wow, he is quite the prick. Talk about double standards. YANBU. Dump this loser, then you can go to the show with male friends whenever you like. To marry a cretin like that would be highly unreasonable as well as self destructive. Don't listen to his bullshit, it's all manipulation to control you. Just back up the dump truck on his ass.

Any smart woman would run for the hills.

And wouldn't have got engaged so quickly to a horrible man.

Well you do get it. You’re either so stupid or gullible or desperate that you’ve decided to stay with him despite his shagging and lying and abuse. So do whatever you like, we can’t convince you it’ll be ok, he’s telling you otherwise

This is about the 4th thread I've read on here tonight where the man is behaving completely unacceptably and the op is asking if she's in the wrong.

FFS yes these men are awful but use some common sense and bin them. Being alone really isn't that bad.

Come on, surely you’re not that suggestible and easily manipulated?

He’s a cheat, a liar, what more is there to say? Why are you still calling him your fiance? End it, or - proceed at your peril.

Hes a big using lying cheating bastard.
Dump and move on.He cannot be trusted. Stop dreaming of something youll never have. He’s incapable. Sorry OP. You’ll get what you want with someone better. In due course. Not him.

Go to shows with friends of whatever gender whenever you like whether you’re in a relationship or not!

Men who are right for you won’t limit your friendship circle to other women

Stop it!!

Stop saying all this weird shit and get him out of your life.

...I'd hate to read that you stayed with him.

You’d be mad to marry this man.

Not only the potential cheating but why on Earth would you marry a man so insecure that you couldn’t go out with a male friend?

I went out to dinner with a male friend just last night. If my long-term, cohabiting DP had a problem with it that would be very much HIS problem. We choose to be together, policing who each other can be friends with is toxic.

Hahaaaaa HE CAN FUCK OFF. He’s not sick or lost his job he’s just a wanker. What worse things could he possibly mean?? Him sleeping with other people? Because that will happen.
I notice he doesn’t seem as happy about putting up with you daring to be seen in public with a male friend. Doesn’t he realise there are worse things he would have to put up with 😂. Op, just get rid.

please dump him @CrossingBoundaries007

What a load of shite, he's trying to turn you nuts. You'll be locked in the attic with Grace Poole guarding you next.

Yeah, you’d fight for him if he was being treated badly at work, or if circumstances parted you. Women with their heads screwed on don’t fight to keep shitty men after the shitty men have tried to cheat on them. They wave them goodbye and free themselves up to meet ones that are actually decent! I’ve just seen your update that he’s divorced because he’s already cheated on his ex-wife! Absolutely unbelievable. GET RID OF THIS WANKER

Sling this fucking idiot in the bin. He’s deflecting on you to try and make you feel like you’ve done something as bad as him. Going to a show is NOT sending messages for a hookup, the disgusting little man.

OP, if you're finding it all 'very disturbing' then that's your gut telling you that this relationship is WRONG for you! As others have pointed out, he's already cheated on you by making contact with these other women, AFTER proposing marriage to you, and you having accepted. He was unfaithful to his ex. He has probably already been unfaithful to you. He's bought you flowers in an attempt to manipulate you into forgiving him AND he's given you the silent treatment for a week, so is clearly a sulker. Then just to top it off, YOU said 'I don't think I can trust him'.

Do you REALLY want to marry a man like this??

Do you REALLY want to marry a man who you can't trust?

Think about it.

Then

DUMP HIM!

Why would you normally decline? I don’t think that’s necessary. I don’t think you should have gone if you normally wouldn’t in an attempt to piss off your partner (I use that word loosely), I think you should just break up with him because he’s a dick

You’re mad if you marry him. He is lying and trying to charm you with flowers. He will do it again.

Never be in a relationship where you have to be a private detective. You will regret keeping in contact with this dishonest man.