New colleague staring at my cleavage- is this my fault ?

Yes.
I wouldn't have that much out even on a night out.

Well Simon goes to work on international television and it seems to be ok. I find that more ugly that a woman’s cleavage actually. It’s just seems to be normal for a woman but a man flaunting hard nipples is very off putting to me. Breasts are so much prettier than a man’s hard nipples in a tight tee shirt. And I’m not gay at all.

Yes

Is it possible he had just zoned out. I’ve done that before (not looking at clevage) and been asked why I’m staring at xyz

To play devils advocate here…where is your proof to take to HR?

Surely you need evidence of something and unfortunately I don’t think you have much.

FWIW though it’s creepy AF when a man does this.

My apologises 🤣

@dtarer
I would say that unfortunately it probably is too low cut for work without wearing a vest or top underneath it. That being said, it doesn't give that man the right to stare and make you uncomfortable. So I would firstly report to your line manager and secondly just pop a vest on for work to provide more coverage and prevent this happening.

Yeah, ewww

Shouldn't thst have a sensitive image warning?
😂

🤣🤣🤣 ok, because you said it, it must be true then. Do you realise that men do wear thin tops? And not everyone wears a shirt to work? I wear scrubs for some parts of my job and you can see my nipples along with other men’s nipples. Denying you can never see men’s nipples through their clothes is frankly ridiculous. But here is SC at his work event to prove my point.

But men don’t wear under shirts anymore. I just think that no ones really looking at a man’s nopples unless they’re gay and there’s nothing wrong with that. But a body is a body. Some better than others. It doesn’t matter. Wear what ever you want as long as you’re not naked and flashing people. That’s a crime. Dressing how you want isn’t.

Except they don't. A man would have to be wearing something very thin or sheer and they don't.

Nice top! Honestly the amount of guys going around topless atm and we are expected to cover ourselves up - ridiculous! It looks nice, the guy was a creep!

A bit dis-and-dat...

Which is why all women should be locked away in cellars, just like you want them to to be, you vile poltroon.

I agree. Not businesslike or professsional, any more than a man with his shirt unbuttoned down to his chest would be.

Tbf I think you're getting a bit of stick. You haven't actually said what your job is....my 1st job was a bar job and that kind of top would have been perfectly acceptable. In an office probably not. As a larger breasted woman I tend to go for a scoop neck or a lesser v neck, the top you have shown is a plunging neckline. For office wear I'd suggest either a cami underneath or a v neck that goes no lower than 3 inches below the collarbone, but thay does of course depend on the look you are going for. Either way you should feel comfortable and men should have the willpower to not stare!
But playing devils advocate there is nothing wrong with either covering more or showing more; it's all up to you in the end.
Ask yourself if Dana Scully would wear it 🤣 because she always looked good as well as professional.

This seems a very male response...
Probably wrong but what a weird reply....

No, I’m not going to ask you that but I still wish I looked like that in a top or blouse.

The first top is horrible. Is there any point in wearing that if you don't want people to look at your cleavage?

I love clothes - I love getting compliments on my clothes and I like my clothes being noticed but I want my clothes to be noticed, not my breasts.

Well this thread is interesting! The top isn’t suitable for work. But looks lovely for a night out. I have a similar figure and would never wear anything that revealing at work.
But it’s not easy to look modest and professional when you have a large bust.

In a bar or other such environment no big deal. In a professional setting there is no context in which having your chest on show to the level of the photo the OP shared is acceptable. Save it for Tinder.

The OP shared that specific photo to give the impression that it was her to provoke a response. She clearly has form for attention seeking behaviour.

hes a pig, your top is fine.

if you cover up there will be another man that stares at something else. I used to date a guy with a tights fetish, anything nylon drove him wild. Another friends partner was absolutely obsessed with knee length skirts (the possibility of them swishing up and revealing thigh apparently). I know someone else with a foot fetish too! Ah and now I think of it I remember a really creepy dude at work who always commented suggestively on my adidas trackie bottoms 🥴 Women’s bodies are just so heavily sexualised, there’s no safe piece of clothing,

Cover up your tits and it’ll be just some other creep brazenly staring at some other part of you. Wear what you feel good in and The unified response from all decent people must always be: don’t fucking stare at people.

Not true. I’m 36GG and never show cleavage (never have even when younger and perter) and I’m not wearing tops up to my chin. A not too low scooped or square neckline covers just fine. I find too much cleavage a bit too either barmaid/serving wench or matron for my style taste.

That’s a going out top, not really a work one. Wear tops that show off your cleavage and men are going to look. Some are going to stare. Yes, it shouldn’t be that way, but it is.

I’m well endowed and have plenty of scoop and v-neck tops which don’t show any cleavage but aren’t up to my chin. I don’t want to feel uncomfortable or objectified, so I find these a happy medium.