Page 4 | New colleague staring at my cleavage- is this my fault ?

dtarer · 2025-06-26T18:29:23+00:00

I sometimes wear tops that show some cleavage. It’s hard to avoid in most tops that aren’t super high cut. I notice men sometimes look. But today in a meeting, a man did not stop staring. his gaze was fixed the entire time he was talking to me. It was extremely uncomfortable. I somehow feel it’s my fault this happened. But I really love this top and I don’t think it’s obscene. I find it hard to avoid showing some cleavage, especially in summer. It just suits my shape somehow. I’ll post a pic of the top if it will let me.

Boliviabae · 28/06/2025 03:18

Devianinc · 28/06/2025 02:37

Yeah, they really are

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No they really aren't.

Their function is to feed babies.

Feeding and food are not sexual things.

At some stage, western society took a strange turn and started sexualising breasts.

We just see them as sexy now because we are told to see them as sexy.

Devianinc · 28/06/2025 02:39

Boliviabae · 28/06/2025 00:03

Breasts are for feeding babies.

It's interesting . Breasts have become sexualised in western society, so women must cover them up.

In some other countries, breasts are not sexuslised at all, so women will walk around with their breasts completely out.

It really depends on the culture that you live in

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Where in a civilized society does this happen with modern technology.

Devianinc · 28/06/2025 02:37

Emonade · 27/06/2025 21:53

Boobs aren’t a sexual thing though are they

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Yeah, they really are

Devianinc · 28/06/2025 02:34

I meant fake is a flaunt, real isn’t. I tried to fix my edit but I did something wrong

Devianinc · 28/06/2025 02:23

I’m changing my mind between real and fake boobs here. So if you have enhanced your breasts and wear clothes like that then you’re looking for attention and the blouse is a flaunt. Thats a no. If you born well endowed then you wear whatever is the most comfortable to you. I just realized the difference and it makes a big difference. Fake or real. Real is a flaunt, real is what it is

DisabledDemon · 28/06/2025 01:50

No, he shouldn't be staring but that neckline is inappropriate for work. I would never wear something so revealing.

saraclara · 28/06/2025 00:22

Idontjetwashthefucker · 26/06/2025 19:57

Loving the faux naivety from the OP and the fact she just HAD to post a pic

Stole my post before I could type it!

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 28/06/2025 00:19

echt · 28/06/2025 00:17

Arf.

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Agree. Arf, arf.

echt · 28/06/2025 00:17

Ggfwqd · 28/06/2025 00:12

Men are attracted to breasts because biologically they are a sign that a woman can feed the young babies well.

Arf.

Ggfwqd · 28/06/2025 00:12

Men are attracted to breasts because biologically they are a sign that a woman can feed the young babies well.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 28/06/2025 00:09

Boliviabae · 28/06/2025 00:03

Breasts are for feeding babies.

It's interesting . Breasts have become sexualised in western society, so women must cover them up.

In some other countries, breasts are not sexuslised at all, so women will walk around with their breasts completely out.

It really depends on the culture that you live in

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Breasts have become sexualised and women go along with that. That top doesn't exist to make breast feeding easier. It exists because some women think it makes them look sexy.

Boliviabae · 28/06/2025 00:03

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 27/06/2025 23:53

Don't be ridiculous. Breasts are sexualised and everyone knows that- including women who choose to wear tops like that.

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Breasts are for feeding babies.

It's interesting . Breasts have become sexualised in western society, so women must cover them up.

In some other countries, breasts are not sexuslised at all, so women will walk around with their breasts completely out.

It really depends on the culture that you live in

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 27/06/2025 23:55

Cherrysoup · 27/06/2025 19:52

You asked, you got answers. Just because you don’t like the answers doesn’t mean people are calling you a slag. I’d agree, tho, that is a going out top, not an office top. Colleagues should not be staring, it’s very unprofessional, but I’m not amazed if he’s a bit fascinated with that deep a cleavage on show. I wore this top to work yesterday and wondered if it was too much, but it shows absolutely zero, while being a nice square cut.

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Honestly? Yes I think that's too low cut for an office/ school or similar

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 27/06/2025 23:53

Emonade · 27/06/2025 21:53

Boobs aren’t a sexual thing though are they

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Don't be ridiculous. Breasts are sexualised and everyone knows that- including women who choose to wear tops like that.

Cel77 · 27/06/2025 22:56

I've had men looking at my breasts even when "hidden" under jumpers or normal tee shirts.

Walkaround · 27/06/2025 22:09

Emonade · 27/06/2025 21:53

Boobs aren’t a sexual thing though are they

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Not for babies, just for everyone else. The vast majority of people do not look at cleavage and think of milk.

Chinsupmeloves · 27/06/2025 22:04

Cleavages will always be noticed and mostly admired so we have to expect this if we show them off, just the way it is.

The majority of interested viewers will be discreet, some won't.

So yes, if you choose to do this you will get attention, whether at work or partying. It's not a fault, simply what happens. Xxx

OneHardyMintZebra · 27/06/2025 22:02

Sorry but it is inappropriate for work. I don’t have cleavage but I still wouldn’t wear that to work. Just like I wouldn’t wear a dress/skirt above my knee. Lovely top though. Of course women can wear what they want, but in their own time. But I guess difficult to judge depending on what you do. I work in an office and have to see members of the public in a professional capacity. No way would I feel comfortable going to meetings wearing that. And I don’t see any other women doing so.
But if you feel comfortable and your workplace hasn’t said anything then go for it.

No he shouldn’t have been staring but some men are pigs. We all know this and therefore expect that some will stare at breasts (doesn’t make it ok but that’s never gonna change unfortunately)

Emonade · 27/06/2025 21:53

AngelinaFibres · 27/06/2025 19:58

This. If he was wearing trousers a 1970s rock star would like ( cock and balls bulge clearly visible ) that would be inappropriate too. You have breasts. Visible nipples, cleavage , camel toe , exposed thong top etc etc have no place in the workplace.

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Boobs aren’t a sexual thing though are they

Sallyssn · 27/06/2025 20:53

Perhaps he was hungry.

AngelinaFibres · 27/06/2025 19:58

EleanorReally · 26/06/2025 19:41

i dont think cleavages are suitable at work

This. If he was wearing trousers a 1970s rock star would like ( cock and balls bulge clearly visible ) that would be inappropriate too. You have breasts. Visible nipples, cleavage , camel toe , exposed thong top etc etc have no place in the workplace.

Cherrysoup · 27/06/2025 19:52

dtarer · 26/06/2025 21:25

Ok I see. So I was asking for it then, wasn’t I. What an inappropriate, unprofessional slag I am. I deserved what I got.

You asked, you got answers. Just because you don’t like the answers doesn’t mean people are calling you a slag. I’d agree, tho, that is a going out top, not an office top. Colleagues should not be staring, it’s very unprofessional, but I’m not amazed if he’s a bit fascinated with that deep a cleavage on show. I wore this top to work yesterday and wondered if it was too much, but it shows absolutely zero, while being a nice square cut.

New colleague staring at my cleavage- is this my fault ?

Emonade · 27/06/2025 19:38

insomniaclife · 27/06/2025 18:21

Q. Why do women’s clothes emphasise body parts?

A. Because men are aroused by visual stimulus and women must constantly be appraised for desirability

Q. Why do women wear clothes which reveal or emphasise body parts?

A. Because women want to score high in the appraisal men are giving them.

Q. So is this appropriate at work?

A. Fuck no. No no no.

Thats such misogynistic bullshit

Mere1 · 27/06/2025 19:16

It is inappropriate.

GoldenGail · 27/06/2025 19:10

dtarer · 26/06/2025 19:49

Is that inappropriate for work?

Yes