New colleague staring at my cleavage- is this my fault ?

Breasts were sexualised long before The Sun.

Of course they are a sexual thing. And it's not just Western culture which has made them sexualised.

They aren't sexual.

Men in the western world have decided that they are sexual. They use media to promote this.

In parts of Africa, remoter parts which are not influenced by media, breasts are not seen as sexual at all. Women walk around with breasts out.

Breasts are not sexual just because men tell us they are sexual

Yes, far too deeply cut! More appropriate for night out

I think a top that low cut is inappropriate for work, unless you wear a vest or alter it to cover the cleavage. It's unprofessional to show cleavage at work, just as you don't wear hot pants or men don't have their shirts unbuttoned showing off their chest hair!

… which is exactly the point I was making. So it was silly of you to claim that they aren’t sexual.

They have been made sexual by our male dominated society

Yes it is easy (34GG here). I have never had any trouble covering up.

Yes of course it wasn’t just The Sun - soft porn mags like Playboy and Penthouse were all doing it.

But The Sun was doing it in a mainstream newspaper. Which meant that anyone could see page 3, including small children. Made women’s breasts an obvious sexual thing, and made that seem normal.

Ive got 36dd but i never have a cleavage. I always wonder why

Yes of course it does.

But i was replying to the poster who said that of course breasts are sexual, they were in page 3.

Page 3 aimed to sexualise breasts in an extreme way.

Of course it does.

I think it predates the Sun and page 3.

It is inappropriate to show cleavage in a work setting; both men and women should dress modestly and professionally at work. That top is inappropriate for work.

AND

It is inappropriate and pervy for a man to stare at your cleavage, whatever the setting.

Both statements apply in this case.

Page 3 was fucking ridiculous.

The sun newspaper made breasts a sexual thing.

They told us to think of breasts as sexual.

We are heavily influenced by media.

I love that top, where is it from please? Put it in google but not coming up. X

Pretty sure this is a wind up. If it’s in an office environment I’d struggle to accept the OP would think that top is suitable.

I think he's a creep but I also think that top is unsuitable for work. I can't think of any work place that would be appropriate for.

I would not like a cleavage on show in work. I’m a bit of a prude but have big boobs and always wear a cami top or vest to cover mine up. Unfortunately all men will look it’s human nature but staring is sleazy but they are there and he will think you want him to look as they are on show. Cleavage at work is no no. You can still wear your top maybe just cover the cleavage then when going out show them off.

Er …

What on earth was The Sun doing with their Page 3 feature, which ran for years!

Of course they’re a sexual thing. Don’t be daft.

If he was staring at your face because he thought you look gorgeous, would you feel the same way? He was obviously mesmerised by your beautiful breasts 😍

It’s so strange that society and the fashion industry make women’s clothing so tight, revealing and provocative while men are able to hide their bodies and wear modest clothes and still be considered attractive.

I've never worn anything tight, revealing or provocative, that type of dressing just isn't my style, and neither is it the style of the women in my family and close friends. We all dress well, don't find it difficult to buy clothes and have all managed to be considered attractive enough that men have married us.

It isn't society or the fashion industry that have decided that certain styles of clothing are tight, revealing or provocative, it's that some women enjoy the feeling and effect on some other people of wearing that type of clothing, there have always been women who like doing that.

But the workplace is not the place for that type of attitude.

It’s so strange that society and the fashion industry make women’s clothing so tight, revealing and provocative while men are able to hide their bodies and wear modest clothes and still be considered attractive.

That top isn't fashionable and it's a massive exaggeration to suggest, if that's what you're trying to suggest, that all women's clothing is tight, revealing and provocative or has to be, to be acceptable. I'm considered by people who know me in real life [and indeed random strangers, male and female given the amount of compliments I get about my clothes] to be someone who dresses really well. I've never worn clothes like that. I think the black top is hideous.

Some people, including women, think that- many people don't.

Actually I have found that it doesn’t matter if you cover them up with a cami or even a roll neck there are still some men who will just stare at them. It’s disgusting behaviour which I believe should be called out immediately. So perhaps something like ‘eyes up John when you’re speaking to me’.

No, of course he shouldn’t stare, but get real. You could’ve worn a cami under that or those fake cami things you can put in when your top is too low.
I have no interest in breasts but I would find it difficult not to look at those on display at WORK. It’s completely out of place in a professional environment no matter how casual the setting is. It’s no different to a doctor about to deliver me bad news dressed as Mickey bloody Mouse.
When you have big boobs there’s no getting away from that. So yes, if you were dressed office appropriate and his eyes were still popping out of his head I’d say you had a leg to stand on. But that is a top designed to draw people to look so don’t feign innocence when people actually look.