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New colleague staring at my cleavage- is this my fault ?

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dtarer · 26/06/2025 19:29

I sometimes wear tops that show some cleavage. It’s hard to avoid in most tops that aren’t super high cut.

I notice men sometimes look. But today in a meeting, a man did not stop staring.

his gaze was fixed the entire time he was talking to me. It was extremely uncomfortable.

I somehow feel it’s my fault this happened. But I really love this top and I don’t think it’s obscene. I find it hard to avoid showing some cleavage, especially in summer. It just suits my shape somehow.

I’ll post a pic of the top if it will let me.

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Boliviabae · 26/06/2025 20:48

Breasts can be hard to hide sometimes.

I dont wear any low v necks that actually show skin.

But i have large boobs.

If i wear a highneck jumper, men still look, because you can clearly see the outline of my boobs.

It would be like if men wore leggings and we could clearly see the outline of their penis

Just seeing the outline of our breasts, gets them aroused.

Blinkingbother · 26/06/2025 20:47

I’m afraid I’m also in the it’s not a suitable top to wear at work camp.

JLou08 · 26/06/2025 20:47

He was wrong for staring.
You were wrong for showing cleavage at work. It's not professional at all. I've not witnessed anyone do it in my office. I have blouses like what you are wearing, I put a matching vest top underneath so nothing shows. I have the adjustable strap vest tops so can tighten the straps to ensure everything is covered.

SusieLawson · 26/06/2025 20:47

That's not a bit of cleavage. The V goes as low as under the bust.

Hoogey · 26/06/2025 20:46

dtarer · 26/06/2025 19:49

Is that inappropriate for work?

Yes it is. Its a going out top.

icelolly12 · 26/06/2025 20:46

No one would wear that style top where I work, it is extremely unprofessional to reveal that amount of skin. I would look myself as would most people. Yes creeper was wrong to stare but you're not helping yourself by having half your boobs on show.

JackieWilsonsaiditstimeforbedlittleone · 26/06/2025 20:45

Unless you asked him to look at your cleavage it is not your fault.

godmum56 · 26/06/2025 20:45

hang on.....didn't we have exactly this post a couple of weeks ago?

Hotflushesandchilblains · 26/06/2025 20:45

He should not have been staring for sure. But cleavage is not appropriate at work. Neither are spagetti straps, seeing bra straps around the edges of clothing or clothes so tight you cant pinch an inch of fabric on each side.

MarxistMags · 26/06/2025 20:44

It's a lovely top, but more suitable for going out on the pull !

Butchyrestingface · 26/06/2025 20:44

dtarer · 26/06/2025 19:49

Is that inappropriate for work?

Yes.

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dtarer · 26/06/2025 20:44

I wasn’t gona post a pic of myself. So I found the pic from where I got it. It’s not how it looks on me.

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howshouldibehave · 26/06/2025 20:43

It’s hard to avoid in most tops that aren’t super high cut.

Rubbish. I have FF boobs and manage to get through my working days without either flashing 30 children loads of cleavage or wearing super high cut tops. Just pick something in the middle where your boobs aren't showing.

I would absolutely wear a v-neck top or dress but I'd wear a tight vest top under it. That v is very low-there is no need to wear clothes like that for work.

Boliviabae · 26/06/2025 20:43

Breasts have a lot of power don't they. They completely stop people in their tracks.

I have very large boobs. If i wear anything even showing their outline, men and some women , are absolutely transfixed. It's like they are in a daze.

godmum56 · 26/06/2025 20:43

dtarer · 26/06/2025 20:37

It’s just not me in that pic. It’s probably AI. I don’t look like that in that top.

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if you don't look like that then why post that picture? But yes, I'd consider that not appropriate.

Kittyfur · 26/06/2025 20:43

At best you look unprofessional

at worst you look cheap, attention grabbing and tacky

Artfulnancy · 26/06/2025 20:42

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LittlleMy · 26/06/2025 20:42

Allseeingallknowing · 26/06/2025 20:41

It’s nice for a party a bit Kat Slater for work!

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Yes! 😅

BIWI · 26/06/2025 20:42

I find it hard to avoid showing some cleavage

Somehow, in all the 40+ years I was working, I always managed to avoid this. Perhaps you need to buy bigger clothes?

Onelifeonly · 26/06/2025 20:42

That photo may not be you, but it's clear that the model could wear something with a higher neck line that isn't a crew neck or polo. I work in a school with a mainly female staff. No one shows any cleavage, it's not that hard.

And I find cleavage distracting and find it hard not to look. I'm not into women sexually (though admit I have a bit of large boob envy, not being generously endowed).

Redpeach · 26/06/2025 20:42

Boliviabae · 26/06/2025 20:38

I agree!

I cant stop looking at cleavages when they are slightly displayed.

I dont want to look at them. But my eyes are drawn to them. I cant seem to help it

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I'm the same!

SusieLawson · 26/06/2025 20:41

dtarer · 26/06/2025 19:49

Is that inappropriate for work?

It is a bit low for work, in my opinion.

Allseeingallknowing · 26/06/2025 20:41

dtarer · 26/06/2025 19:51

why is the top unsuitable ? Is it too low cut ?

It’s nice for a party a bit Kat Slater for work!

AcquadiP · 26/06/2025 20:41

Yes it is inappropriate for work.

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 26/06/2025 20:40

That wouldn't be appropriate where I work.

I work in a school mind.