New colleague staring at my cleavage- is this my fault ?

Please grow up

Is it that you want us to believe you can't understand the difference between your tits out with a gaping neckline that plunges to your navel compared to a more appropriate v neck in the workplace?

This. I've got big boobs and I cover them up. You're not the first person with big boobs and a job OP. Wear more conservative tops!

How old are you?

Have you just finished your exams?

This is me and I never show cleavage.

There's no place for cleavage at work, or anywhere, in my opinion.

Not if you work in a brothel🤣

One of the other managers in my old workplace used to wear revealing clothes like that and she also used to whisper and giggle in departmental meetings.

I thought she was extremely unprofessional in general and used to wonder exactly how she’d got herself a management position…? 🤔

I think if you have alot of cleavage on display then people will look at it, it's kinda hypnotic and right in front of you! I'm not blessed in that dept but I don't like low cut tops so usually use vest inserts or magnets/pins to solve the problem.

But if you feel uncomfortable then Def point it out.....alternatively stick some googly eyes to your norks so you don't have to keep saying 'my eyes are up here!'😆

Come on OP what do you think! I presume you've been in the workplace longer than a year, you must sure have reasonable judgement based on the company, industry sector etc.

I agree. I have always thought that when someone is showing their cleavage, it's almost an invitation to look, maybe? They chose to wear something that shows their breasts, and of course, people are going to look; it's natural. That is something that is always going to happen, regardless of gender, and I hate it when people say otherwise.

There was a thread I read the other day about people not making an effort with their appearance, and everyone was saying how you dress doesn’t affect how you do your work and people can dress how they want. Now you’ve got people berating a woman for showing some cleavage at work.

OP, I’ve got small boobs and no cleavage, and I’ve caught a number of men gawping at my boobs during the past couple of weeks which suggests to me that men stare at boobs regardless of size or clothes that show cleavage (or not). Most men seem to be able to control their eyes, some do not. Maybe you should call him out on it and just tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable when he stares at your chest.

I have big norks but I wouldn't have them out at work. We should be able to wear what we want but the world doesn't work that way unfortunately.

That isn't OP though. It's just some rando model with an ample figure which apparently is nothing like the OP's.

You're going to ask why she posted the photo in that case but that's above my pay grade.

I had a manager 'have a word' once when I was in my 20s about the amount of SHOULDER I was showing in the workplace. I was wearing a boat-neck sleeveless top in sweltering heat. There were other women in the office with plunging cleavages and this was A-OK. But my bare shoulders apparently were enough to launch 1,000 ships.

Came to say his fault, but then saw the pic. That is an extremely low cut top and I wouldn’t wear it to work without a vest under it.

I imagine when you’re sitting down in a meeting it probably looks even more cleavagey than in the pic too.

No, and I wish I looked like that in a top but I don’t. You are well endowed, the only way to stop that is to where turtlenecks and that’s just ridiculous. That’s a pretty blouse and it looks nice on you.

What was the point in posting that pic then.

Thats like me posting a pic of a knee length skirt on someone who is 4ft and asking if it’s too short when you’re 6ft.

You need to post a pic of you wearing the top or take the advice on here that it is not work appropriate.

I used to have a colleague who spent 121s staring at my breasts, even though I wore shirts buttoned up to the neck. Creepy guys will do this whether they can see your cleavage or not. I'd call him out on this - I did make it clear to the guy that was doing it to me that I found it unacceptable.

It’s a beautiful top for anywhere but work. It’s not a work appropriate top.

Fuck me! I would be sent home if I turned up wearing this!

Also….this is 100% a troll post.

Please, put them away!

I mean if a man wore a skin tight top i probably wouldn't be able to help staring at his abs

Maybe avoid v-necks at least. That’s quite a bit of skin on show for an office. That’s more of a going out for drinks top.

Obviously, no he should not be staring at your cleavage.

Personally I think that top is more appropriate to an evening out, but it's not exactly Madonna in her hey day either. I don't think you need to wear polo neck tops or vests - unless you work in a maximum security prison? Some middle ground.

I am ample in that area and hate it when some men can't look you in the eyes even when 'they' are covered up. Ick

This looks like same model from a slightly more face-on view.

Is that the level of décolletage you're showing, @dtarer ?

@dtarer definitely not suitable for work!!