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Cleaner who works 6 hours per week preferring cash in hand weekly - holiday pay? Is this a thing?

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Catwhispereroo · 26/06/2025 18:14

Hi, we have a cleaning lady who is generally lovely. She comes for 6 hours per week, £20 per hour, so £120 per week. She always prefers cash in hand weekly.

Today she asked if we will pay her 4 weeks holiday pay as, according to her, 'everyone else does.'

I had a think about it, but have had to tell her this is not possible. I feel bad though. AIBU?

My reasoning is -

  1. A cleaner is already quite a luxury, as I'm no longer working.

  2. We have had lots of cleaners over the years and all preferred cash and none ever asked for holiday pay for cash in hand work.

  3. I don't want the hassle of a contract setting out holiday pay or sickness pay (will that be next)? We are a just a private household, not a company.

  4. I will give her a few weeks pay as a Xmas bonus anyway.

  5. She seems to go abroad for a month each year. If we gave her 4 weeks pay, that would be almost £500. Then, if I got a replacement cleaner in for those weeks, that would be another £500!

  6. When we go away I'm happy for her to come as usual (even though we don't really need this) so that she doesn't lose out financially. But I can't pay 4 weeks holiday as week.

Again, AIBU? Thanks!

OP posts:
Mmhmmn · 27/06/2025 00:01

No. If she wants holiday pay she needs to join a cleaning agency. Bit bloody cheeky.

Also - the fact she isn’t taxed on her cash, that’s her holiday pay!

Anotherscrubber · 26/06/2025 23:58

Childrenare4life · 26/06/2025 23:36

I'm a cleaner and charge £15-£17.50 ph but I'm a mug. I supply all eco products, always work over my time as chatting is free and can't put up my prices as my elderly clients claim they're poor pensioners. I'd love the Xmas bonus you pay but I'm lucky if I get a candle. I'm adhd, am a perfectionist so work extremely hard but never seem to be appreciated. This woman sounds like she's a chancer and it's obviously paid off for her before. As she's cash in hand then she doesn't have a leg to stand on as I bet it's not declared.

I have found that the less you charge for anything, the less appreciated you are. I am very lucky in that I think only once have I even been given a sob-story when it came to prices.

I did once have someone (a young lady) say "That's expensive!" when I gave her a quotation (and it wasn't expensive at all, it was exceptionally good value based on all her factors and that parking was going to be a likely issue). But she accepted it, and like an idiot (and despite my gut instinct & vast experience telling me to back away) I still went and did one clean for her...it was meant to be an ongoing fortnightly job, but she was a nightmare.

As I pointed out to her, from the moment she said "That's expensive!" I felt an overwhelming urge to get the f*k out and never come back ensure I provided her with excellent value, and had tried very hard to make a good start on her exceptionally filthy apartment refreshingly challenging home, but understood that it may not have pleased the ungrateful cow ticked all her boxes the first time round, and that I'd happily refund her fee as a matter of goodwill, because under no circumstances was I going back after all the f*king noise she made the obvious difficulties I was going to have when parking the car.

I bend over backwards for most customers, and if I've got it, they can have it. Except for my sanity. I'm not giving that up at any price.

Childrenare4life · 26/06/2025 23:36

I'm a cleaner and charge £15-£17.50 ph but I'm a mug. I supply all eco products, always work over my time as chatting is free and can't put up my prices as my elderly clients claim they're poor pensioners. I'd love the Xmas bonus you pay but I'm lucky if I get a candle. I'm adhd, am a perfectionist so work extremely hard but never seem to be appreciated. This woman sounds like she's a chancer and it's obviously paid off for her before. As she's cash in hand then she doesn't have a leg to stand on as I bet it's not declared.

Anotherscrubber · 26/06/2025 23:34

Gongpostal · 26/06/2025 23:25

Thanks yeah I do understand that, we do other jobs that are charged per job but we have been told we are undercharging! Perhaps that's why we are so busy?! 😂 X

I dunno...I never think of price as being a factor in this game, that is until someone contacts me and the first thing they want to know is how much do I charge.

If they said "I've never had a cleaner before and I've no idea what to expect to pay - can you help me?", well, that's different. "How much do you charge" equates to "I don't want to pay any more than I think I should", which makes me think "You can't afford me and even if you hire me you'd make me earn every penny, and more".

I like people who ask me if I have vacancies. That's always a good place to begin. One lady even went so far as to point out that she was a friend of Mrs So & So, who'd not long died...and she happened to wonder if I might just have a slot going begging. I liked her style, really I did. 😆

Gongpostal · 26/06/2025 23:25

Anotherscrubber · 26/06/2025 23:22

You mustn't fall into the trap of the elderly & what doesn't seem fair...I know it makes me sound utterly heartless and I'm as genuine as they come, but so many people I work for have so much money and so little time left to spend it. I only charge per-job rather than per-hour, but the least I charge now is £40 for any of it...I'd rather do more when I was there and go less often & for longer than I would turn up and charge just for the hour I was on site. Because as you say, we are very busy with work.

I've got to let some of my clients go, which I am not looking forward to, as come September I won't be able to work even half of the hours I do now...It's so hard, I've had some for over twenty years.

Thanks yeah I do understand that, we do other jobs that are charged per job but we have been told we are undercharging! Perhaps that's why we are so busy?! 😂 X

Anotherscrubber · 26/06/2025 23:22

Gongpostal · 26/06/2025 23:06

Yeah we know, but sometimes we are only there about 45 mins so it evens out, we are really busy, some of our clients are elderly and really don't need much doing, doesn't feel right charging more. We do ok and work 7 days a week.

You mustn't fall into the trap of the elderly & what doesn't seem fair...I know it makes me sound utterly heartless and I'm as genuine as they come, but so many people I work for have so much money and so little time left to spend it. I only charge per-job rather than per-hour, but the least I charge now is £40 for any of it...I'd rather do more when I was there and go less often & for longer than I would turn up and charge just for the hour I was on site. Because as you say, we are very busy with work.

I've got to let some of my clients go, which I am not looking forward to, as come September I won't be able to work even half of the hours I do now...It's so hard, I've had some for over twenty years.

curious79 · 26/06/2025 23:11

I pay my cleaner when we’re away - that is effectively their holiday pay

if you’re in london and you like your cleaner be very careful about not covering this request - they are very hard to come by now

Gongpostal · 26/06/2025 23:06

Anotherscrubber · 26/06/2025 23:01

Do you know that at £15 per hour you're on less than minimum wage, by the time holiday pay and other employee benefits are factored in? And that's without all your costs and travel time.

Yeah we know, but sometimes we are only there about 45 mins so it evens out, we are really busy, some of our clients are elderly and really don't need much doing, doesn't feel right charging more. We do ok and work 7 days a week.

Anotherscrubber · 26/06/2025 23:01

Gongpostal · 26/06/2025 22:55

Completely agree! I do the same, charge between £15-£20 and hour ( depending on the job) bring our own products etc. Work bloody hard but certainly don't expect holiday or sickness pay! That includes if the clients are away or unwell. It's called being self employed.

Do you know that at £15 per hour you're on less than minimum wage, by the time holiday pay and other employee benefits are factored in? And that's without all your costs and travel time.

HoskinsChoice · 26/06/2025 22:57

Zanatdy · 26/06/2025 19:16

I used to pay my cleaner in cash, because she was my friend, so I was happy to do that so she could avoid putting it through the books. Actually we used an app, so we didn’t have to mess about with cash but also didn’t go via bank account. She put all her other jobs through, just my £60 a fortnight she didn’t.

Wow. You have just publicly admitted to being an accessory to fraud. I hope you're not involved in any other crimes as you'd be rubbish in a police interview!

Gongpostal · 26/06/2025 22:55

DiscoDancingDoris · 26/06/2025 22:06

Self employed cleaner here.

I charge £20ph, that's fine. I supply all my own products with that and work effing hard.
Requesting holiday pay? CF. I personally would find a new cleaner, she has seen you as an easy target. If she is a good reliable cleaner she will have no problem with finding a new gig 😉

Completely agree! I do the same, charge between £15-£20 and hour ( depending on the job) bring our own products etc. Work bloody hard but certainly don't expect holiday or sickness pay! That includes if the clients are away or unwell. It's called being self employed.

WunTooThree · 26/06/2025 22:37

If "everyone" is paying her holiday pay, then she must be raking it in.

cupfinalchaos · 26/06/2025 22:36

She’s trying it on. Mine asked too and I told her I don’t pay my hairdresser when I’m away and miss a cut so why would I pay her?

notatinydancer · 26/06/2025 22:31

HoskinsChoice · 26/06/2025 18:52

Why are you paying her cash? You are potentially facilitating fraud and screwing over public services and people who rely on benefits to survive. Make sure every penny goes through her bank account by paying her electronically so that you can absolve yourself of any responsibility.

It’s completely up to the cleaner to be honest and declare her earnings.

Portakalkedi · 26/06/2025 22:28

what a cheek! That's a good rate, and I can't imagine she pays tax on it. You're well rid.

DiscoDancingDoris · 26/06/2025 22:06

Self employed cleaner here.

I charge £20ph, that's fine. I supply all my own products with that and work effing hard.
Requesting holiday pay? CF. I personally would find a new cleaner, she has seen you as an easy target. If she is a good reliable cleaner she will have no problem with finding a new gig 😉

Londonmummy66 · 26/06/2025 22:04

CakesofPan · 26/06/2025 21:02

I do give my cleaner holiday pay. I feel bad, it’s not his fault I’ve decided to go away. He needs a living and consistent income as much as the next person.

Other way around OP paid her cleaner to come in whilst she was away. Cleaner wanted to be paid when she wasn't cleaning as cleaner was away on holiday and OP at home

Spirallingdownwards · 26/06/2025 22:01

GrimDamnFanjo · 26/06/2025 18:27

Cash in hand? I’d suggest if she wishes holiday pay then she should run her business legally.

It's not illegal to be asked to be paid in cash. However she should declare her income however it is paid to HMRC.

Anotherscrubber · 26/06/2025 21:58

CautiousLurker01 · 26/06/2025 21:45

Been weighing up this dilemma myself, although from the other way round. My cleaner is from a family run business and I’ve been told you only pay for the hours done. She’s booked for 3 hours a week and I pay her for those even if she finishes early because the house is not messy and/or one of the kids is ill so she can’t do their room. My feeling being we have that slot and she has pitched up, she gets full pay whether she does two hours or three.

So, this means she does not get paid when we are on holiday, which I didn’t appreciate when we ‘contracted’ with the cleaning co. It doesn’t sit right with us.[Also, I am funny about giving anyone outside the family and a trusted neighbour a key to access the house in our absence, so won’t have her come then.] DH and I had already decided we would give her a week’s pay for the two weeks when we are away. A summer bonus if you like, because she is losing 2 weeks pay. I have given plenty of notice so she can’t pick up other one-off jobs if they’re offered, but on the assumption that we have those hours and are asking her not to come in, we’ll pay her half pay.

I know it goes against the advice here, and maybe I’d feel differently if she’d asked. If I’d employed her direct, I am anal enough to have clarified holiday/sick pay at the point of contracting. If she is on holiday, the family send an alternate cleaner, so we pay the ‘company’ anyway and they pay the person who comes in her place so actual holiday is dealt with by them.

If you are hiring a company, one of the reasons for doing so is because they "manage" the staff for you. Unless you are paying the cleaner directly (which would be unusual when hiring a company, as that's what you'd do if you booked a cleaner through an agency), when you pay for the cleaning slot you don't need due to your holiday, you are actually paying the company not the cleaner, and there's no knowing that the cleaner benefits from it.

A "proper" cleaning company should be one step ahead of the curve anyway, and managing the number of clients booked in vs. staff available, bearing in mind that staff "sickness" can be rife in this industry, so a cancellation can often be welcome.

nomas · 26/06/2025 21:47

I’ve never had a cleaner but, no, there is no way I’d pay that.

It sounds like she knows her worth which is great but she seems to know that not everyone will think she’s worth an extra £500 for no work.

CautiousLurker01 · 26/06/2025 21:45

Been weighing up this dilemma myself, although from the other way round. My cleaner is from a family run business and I’ve been told you only pay for the hours done. She’s booked for 3 hours a week and I pay her for those even if she finishes early because the house is not messy and/or one of the kids is ill so she can’t do their room. My feeling being we have that slot and she has pitched up, she gets full pay whether she does two hours or three.

So, this means she does not get paid when we are on holiday, which I didn’t appreciate when we ‘contracted’ with the cleaning co. It doesn’t sit right with us.[Also, I am funny about giving anyone outside the family and a trusted neighbour a key to access the house in our absence, so won’t have her come then.] DH and I had already decided we would give her a week’s pay for the two weeks when we are away. A summer bonus if you like, because she is losing 2 weeks pay. I have given plenty of notice so she can’t pick up other one-off jobs if they’re offered, but on the assumption that we have those hours and are asking her not to come in, we’ll pay her half pay.

I know it goes against the advice here, and maybe I’d feel differently if she’d asked. If I’d employed her direct, I am anal enough to have clarified holiday/sick pay at the point of contracting. If she is on holiday, the family send an alternate cleaner, so we pay the ‘company’ anyway and they pay the person who comes in her place so actual holiday is dealt with by them.

Anotherscrubber · 26/06/2025 21:42

Catwhispereroo · 26/06/2025 21:28

Wow. You change the beds and ironing in 6 hours? I never asked this lady to do anything with laundry, or ironing or beds. She would vacuum and mop and light dusting basically.

It's all subjective. "The ironing" is not quantifiable amount of ironing, but even without it, I'd struggle to do that much cleaning in six hours at my age...I might be able to if and only if the house wasn't too bad to begin with.

Catwhispereroo · 26/06/2025 21:28

Funnyduck60 · 26/06/2025 21:24

Self employed domestic cleaner here. Firstly NEVER pay cash hand. You are complicit in her avoiding paying tax and class 2 National insurance. Theoretically HMRC could come after you for her unpaid tax. Always have a paper trail. I have never been paid holiday pay. She is taking you for a sucker. 6 hours is a crazy amount of hours anyway. I would clean a large house with several bathrooms and bedrooms, change beds and do the ironing in that time. She isn't lovely. I appreciate you may like to keep her but gently reign this in.

Wow. You change the beds and ironing in 6 hours? I never asked this lady to do anything with laundry, or ironing or beds. She would vacuum and mop and light dusting basically.

OP posts:
Funnyduck60 · 26/06/2025 21:24

Self employed domestic cleaner here. Firstly NEVER pay cash hand. You are complicit in her avoiding paying tax and class 2 National insurance. Theoretically HMRC could come after you for her unpaid tax. Always have a paper trail. I have never been paid holiday pay. She is taking you for a sucker. 6 hours is a crazy amount of hours anyway. I would clean a large house with several bathrooms and bedrooms, change beds and do the ironing in that time. She isn't lovely. I appreciate you may like to keep her but gently reign this in.

Anotherscrubber · 26/06/2025 21:20

Catwhispereroo · 26/06/2025 21:16

2 weeks extra at Xmas seems to be the going rate. It's not compulsory, but I just did. Maybe it was too much. It's hard to know.

You live in London. Rules for domestic cleaners are very different there as you don't seem to struggle to get people to clean in London. The rest of the country is quite different from that.

£20 ph when the customer supplies everything is a very good rate to earn when cleaning in London.