To find male aggression deeply disturbing to witness as a woman?

Absolutely. My dad got in raged when was growing up...he probably still does but I avoid him now. He didn't hit us but he didn't need to- the slamming, shouting and atmosphere was enough. I am absolutely incapable of standing up for myself as a result. It's horrible.

Always notice how much more space they take up too. At school, the field was just for boys and their footballs and when there was ever a fight or a game, you had to get out the way or be collateral damage.

I also went to a football game recently and a big man near us was screaming and swearing at the ref, he was bright red and spittle flying. Ruined it honestly. His tweenage sons were joining in too screaming cunt this and that. Love the singing and the chants etc. but the hate was physically uncomfortable.

I wonder how he would like to be in a crowd of men all built like The Rock shouting screaming and barging about. Not to mention the sexual shit women deal with.

I agree! My ex-SIL hates me and she has a male best friend who I don’t really know, but his body language would change when I was around. One time my husband and I bumped in to him in a pub and he smiled at my husband then turned toward me gritting his teeth and repeatedly clenching his fist at his side - just staring me down! I’ve barely spoken to the man and am 5’4 (my SIL is 5’11) so the idea that either of them would feel the need to be physically intimidating is not only gross but ridiculous! I know you can beat me up - no need to growl at me!!

I always remember it as a scary moment despite nothing violent actually happening!

I find women getting aggressive more scary. Perhaps because I am more used to men being rowdy, pushing shoving etc but a fight between two women is vicious, particularly the hair pulling.

I agree with you @ForBreezySloth. It's very scary and when you figure into that how much frailer we get as we age and it's a real worry .
Avoid ,avoid ,avoid is my mantra .

It's highly unattractive. The older I get (I'm 56),the less tolerant I am. It's a mix of their capacity for both aggression and selfishness. Unfortunately my decreasing tolerance, for both, seems to increase their tendancy towards aggression, as they feel challenged.

To be honest, seeing large groups of male football/sports fans shouting and chanting together is enough to make me feel on edge sometimes, so it's not just you.

I was recently at a match and at half time, when everyone went to get drinks etc, I saw a huge older bloke absolutely lose it and start completely bellowing at a young teenage boy, really getting up in his face and intimidating him. Not sure what (if anything) the lad had done to upset him but it was scary to watch, must have been terrifying to be on the receiving end of.

Obviously women are capable of losing control and shouting and being unpleasant too, but it is far less scary, at least that's my experience. Exactly as you say, with men it just feels more unpredictable, like they are more volatile.

The older and my experienced I get, the more viscerally done with it all I am.

Well obviously they have more capacity to harm, that goes without saying. But if I was a weaker/elderly/ disabled man I would feel as much fear I think. Probably combined with shame as society seems to expect men to be able to stick up for themselves to a greater extent than women.