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Does every parent feel this (physically)?

36 replies

Yebap · 26/06/2025 13:32

I feel constantly exhausted. I have a 3 year old and recently took a sabbatical of 8 weeks. I’m in week two of the sabbatical and I feel even more exhausted than when I was working! I have been sleeping most days, trying to read or watch tv and falling asleep. Had various blood tests which are all normal. Ferritin came back at 52 which I know isn’t massively high but it’s not really low either. I’m taking iron supplements and vitamins.

i struggle to have the energy to cook for myself and so often a day passes and I will not have eaten much until dinner time. I can barely drag myself out of bed to exercise though I can manage a short run if I make myself.

i don’t understand where this issue is coming from. I’m slim and always have been, bmi is normal/lower end.

I can’t explain the feeling it’s just like I want to nap on and off constantly. I am so worried about returning to work as I am starting in a new office with a longer commute. Not sure how I will manage.

For background I did have a traumatic year or so when ds was born until he was around 1. I don’t know if I am still exhausted from that?! I can’t work it out and it’s massively bringing me down. Perhaps it’s normal?

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40weeksmummy · 26/06/2025 14:11

Get tested for Coeliac disease.
I was knackered, I used to fall asleep everywhere, even at work (mum of 2).
I didn't have any other symptoms like bloating, stomach cramps, constipation, etc. I was just TIRED 24/7.
Diet helped me massively, it took only 2 weeks completely gluten free to feel full of power!

BertieBotts · 26/06/2025 14:04

Not eating enough will do it. I would recommend getting a load of easy to eat foods in and trying to make sure you eat something 3x a day - a bowl of cereal and a pot noodle is better than nothing, add a piece of fruit and replace the pot noodle with a microwave meal and it's closer to a balanced diet.

I can "forget" to eat due to lack of appetite/motivation and it really tanks your energy.

It could also be burnout. Or sensory related - do you find you are sensitive to things like clothing textures, sound, light, extremes of temperature? (Obviously nobody is comfortable in a heatwave, but you know if you're more sensitive to it than other people IME).

Did you ever feel like this before DS was born/before the traumatic experience? Have you also looked into PTSD?

PinedApple · 26/06/2025 13:56

If you’re not eating much could that be it and you just aren’t giving yourself enough fuel? If you’re not feeling hungry though that could be a symptom in itself. Hope you get some answers soon!

Fratolish · 26/06/2025 13:48

Nope. That is absolutely not normal for a parent so definitely keep pushing your GP for tests/answers.

bridgetreilly · 26/06/2025 13:47

Low-level virus?

NightCzar · 26/06/2025 13:46

I suggest getting your thyroid checked.

MuchTooTired · 26/06/2025 13:46

The constant exhaustion was one of my massive symptoms of coeliac disease, might be worth being tested to rule it out? Was like a combination of first trimester and newborn twins rolled up in to one massive exhausting package! I was diagnosed just before my DTs turned 4. Are you breathless doing normal things like hoovering?

Meadowfinch · 26/06/2025 13:45

yanbu. It can be very frightening. I'd always had plenty of energy (single mum) and couldn't understand it.

Blood tests should pick up most things.

A mammogram found the source of my exhaustion, which while scary, at least I could have it dealt with.

Your GP should keep looking. I hope they work it out soon.

mynameiscalypso · 26/06/2025 13:43

I have a chronic health condition that causes fatigue and you sound more tired than I am. I would also be pestering the GP for more tests.

Lmnop22 · 26/06/2025 13:41

I mean, I’m tired with a 5 and 1 year old but I’m not needing to sleep during the day or unable to function and I’m a single mother working full time and in the evenings. I think you need to keep pestering your GP until you get to the bottom of this!

NominatedNameOfTheDay · 26/06/2025 13:37

Hey - no this is not my experience as a parent, I’m sorry to hear you’re having such a tough time. It does sound like you might need some medical support.

Are you a single parent or do you have a partner who could take on more of the home things, at least for a while?