Holiday without DH

Book it now.!

Get an AI holiday through a tui or jet 2 booking so everything is covered and there is an agent on site or in resort.

Encourage him to go to gp but it is his own health to sort out
If he changes mind he can book to join you later

Go for it - you’re a long time dead as they say. Make memories now whilst you can.

Go with the dc. I did this with mine because dh couldn’t come. We went to Turkey, walked around a lot, did a couple of paid activities, lots of swimming and a day trip to Rhodes.

He is 20 stone overweight!!!??? Well he is at high risk of being dead by next year if so, so saying 'maybe next year' doesn't cut it.
Go with the kids on your own. You will have a great time!

Go for it! Have an awesome time.

But there is the different subject of your DH and his weight issues/lack of interest in figuring those out for the benefit of himself his family. Would urge you to have some conversations with him about it - in as kind a way as possible - and to encourage him to figure out the root cause of the weight problems, as well as helping him to lose that weight. No good comes of being obese - particularly if, as it seems from your post, he is morbidly obese - certainly anyone who doesn't fit into a normal airplane seat could well fit that description.

Of course as with all things it's up to him to want to lose the weight and to put the effort in, but there are certainly things you can do to be encouraging and make that as easy a situation as possible. Including exploring activities you can do together (walking everyday, bike rides, getting him exercise equipment for the home (Pelatons and equivalent are great) and spending spare family time doing activities that require walking and exercise.

You mention the takeaways: those should stop too. Maybe if he wants different food you could get some of those meal boxes and cook with him as a healthier alternative. If it's on you to do the shopping then stop buying junk food/fizzy drinks etc etc altogether.

Good luck, and have fun on the holiday!!!

@Zil3 i first went alone when my dad was just 8 . It’s daunting but you will be fine .

What about euro tunnel to France do a chalet/caravan holiday a lot of the sites there have pools and good entertainment for kids.

If he still says no then book that holiday for you and the kids .

And yes go OP -

@Zil3 20 stone overweight or 20 stone?

I think for somebody who is very overweight, a holiday abroad can be very daunting, between the heat and the expectation of swimming or spending time on a beach. So I can understand his hesitation. It doesn’t sound like he’s controlling in other aspects of your life? As obviously that would change things.

Absolutely no reason for you and the kids not to go and enjoy yourselves, though it’s a pity as I’m sure you’d all prefer him to be there too.

Definitely go! It will be good for all of you.

If you can afford it try and have weekends away as well, or just you and the teen have a city break together as a trial run to build your confidence.

Go on your own. I have travelled on my own with my three children for years. We have a holiday home abroad so probably a bit easier. I actually find it easier when DH is not with us as I have my own routine and can do what I want, when I want.

I assume it's the weight that's the barrier for him?

Fitting into plane/train seats
Do people stare?

Go on your own, but make sure itis a hotel with activities and clubs for the kids. Will make it a lot easier if you are somewhere with loads to do in the hotel.

Go. Many of us lone parents manage it every year you will be fine. Kids clubs often a lot of fun for the DC too. He’s being a selfish wotsit IMO though! I don’t know how he thinks the kids waiting another year whilst he works out whether he feels like losing weight is fair.

Yes i would! Book it quick before he changes his mind.

My husband works stupid hours and there are lots of school hols that would work great for a short break but he can't ever go at the beginning or end of a month (accountant). I'd happily go with just the kids but when I mentioned it they say they would be sad to leave dad behind which is quite sweet. If they weren't bothered I'd be booking it like a shot haha!

Go! Don’t let him stop you and your children doing what you want. I holiday without my DH and it’s lovely.

Flying is like anything else, the more you do it the easier it gets. And you’ll have your teen with you which should help a lot.

Do it do it do it!! What’s your budget and what sort of thing do you fancy, maybe we can make suggestions?

Go for it. I quite often take my kids to see my family & have a few days somewhere with just the kids for a bit of a treat. Partly because DH doesn’t want to spend his holidays visiting my family, partly so there’s someone to look after the dog, partly because he’s a homebody. I am not going to limit my holidays because DH doesn’t want to go.

Do you and the DC have valid passports? If not, I would start applying for them immediately, as you might need passport numbers for the booking form.

Just a thought, but would he consider going on holiday by train, so no need to fly, or a cruise from Southampton?

Go Go Go

Do it. Not fair for the kids to miss out because of him.

Go. He’s being hugely unfair in backtracking when your children and you are so excited.
have a great holiday