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To think my DF wins the prize for Audaciousness?

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80sStMickey · 26/06/2025 12:34

In February we bought tickets to a show by a performer we'd seen a few times before.

It's in a nice city about 80 miles from home. We'd actually gone a tad wild and splurged on a whole bottle of wine and snacks when we'd bought the tickets. They were to be delivered to our seat during the interval. A nice touch we thought

A couple of weeks later DH said he'd managed to secure tickets to a Very Important Sporting Final. He hadn't clicked it was in the same day as the show.

So we gave a close friend the show tickets as we thought she'd be interested in the performance.

We cancelled the hotel and rebooked to see the performance in another city and made a nice break from it all. He wasn't as great as the previous times we'd seen him. Ho hum.

The weekend in question was a fortnight ago and a good time was had by all. She thanked me both at the time of the tickets being offered and again after the show.

DF left her jacket under the chair at the theatre. She filled out an online form the next day to enquire about it.

Yesterday DF contacted me to say it looks like the jacket is sadly lost and is having to give up on it.

She feels that it was left only because she was tipsy on the wine that came with the tickets.

She now feels that I ought to reimburse her for the jacket as she wouldn't normally drink that much alcohol in one go.

It's a vintage jacket and she said she wasn't really sure how much she needed to replace it.

I was a teeny bit gobsmacked really. Do I have replied that it was entirely her responsibility to decide how much free wine to drink and to take care of her possessions. And I wouldn't be reimbursing for anything!

She's replied saying that she's going to look on Vinted Ebay and other places to see if she can find similar and she'd let me know then if she finds a replacement.

She wasn't exactly clear that she'd ask for the money if she did find a jacket, but equally didn't say she wouldn't ask.

Aibu to think she's a giant piss taker?

OP posts:
ContraryNoodle · 26/06/2025 15:57

My flabber is truly gasted by this level of cuntywankerism. That is truly advanced level of entitled and cheeky. 😆

Fusedspur · 26/06/2025 15:55

That’s bizarre.

hmmmmmmm1990 · 26/06/2025 15:52

80sStMickey · 26/06/2025 12:35

Lawdy I'm a humongous waffler aren't I?

I'm sure that could've been condensed.

I don't get out much.

Obviously. No one in their right mind would think they have to replace the jacket.

DrowningInSyrup · 26/06/2025 15:51

80sStMickey · 26/06/2025 12:34

In February we bought tickets to a show by a performer we'd seen a few times before.

It's in a nice city about 80 miles from home. We'd actually gone a tad wild and splurged on a whole bottle of wine and snacks when we'd bought the tickets. They were to be delivered to our seat during the interval. A nice touch we thought

A couple of weeks later DH said he'd managed to secure tickets to a Very Important Sporting Final. He hadn't clicked it was in the same day as the show.

So we gave a close friend the show tickets as we thought she'd be interested in the performance.

We cancelled the hotel and rebooked to see the performance in another city and made a nice break from it all. He wasn't as great as the previous times we'd seen him. Ho hum.

The weekend in question was a fortnight ago and a good time was had by all. She thanked me both at the time of the tickets being offered and again after the show.

DF left her jacket under the chair at the theatre. She filled out an online form the next day to enquire about it.

Yesterday DF contacted me to say it looks like the jacket is sadly lost and is having to give up on it.

She feels that it was left only because she was tipsy on the wine that came with the tickets.

She now feels that I ought to reimburse her for the jacket as she wouldn't normally drink that much alcohol in one go.

It's a vintage jacket and she said she wasn't really sure how much she needed to replace it.

I was a teeny bit gobsmacked really. Do I have replied that it was entirely her responsibility to decide how much free wine to drink and to take care of her possessions. And I wouldn't be reimbursing for anything!

She's replied saying that she's going to look on Vinted Ebay and other places to see if she can find similar and she'd let me know then if she finds a replacement.

She wasn't exactly clear that she'd ask for the money if she did find a jacket, but equally didn't say she wouldn't ask.

Aibu to think she's a giant piss taker?

Did she contact you by text? Was it possible that she was joking?

If not that woman has some nerve. I'm in awe!

mismomary · 26/06/2025 15:47

Fake

JustFeedMeCake · 26/06/2025 15:42

Fuck off is a complete sentence

Scrumdiddlyumptiousness · 26/06/2025 15:38

As they say - the lion, the witch and the audacity of this bitch!

CatOnAHotRadiator · 26/06/2025 15:36

Over 1000 responses and you’re unanimous. I think you win mumsnet 🤣

LookingAtMyBhunas · 26/06/2025 15:32

I'm not going to lie, and this never ever happens, but I actually began to physically laugh out loud reading your OP and steadily got louder and louder as I read on.

I actually can't with this woman 😂

Thaawtsom · 26/06/2025 15:29

The only sane response here is "was she joking and you didn't get the joke?" (I mean, sometimes one doesn't say jokes right, and sometimes one doesn't hear jokes right). Otherwise, why is this person your friend?

I once lost my favourite jacket because I got unexpectedly pissed one evening and left it behind. Clearly I should have sent the bill for a replacement to the old friends I bumped into who invited me to have a few drinks with them. If only I'd known!

nam3c4ang3 · 26/06/2025 15:28

this has to be one of the more outrageous things ive EVER read on here - and ive read some bat-shit crazy things. Your ex-friend is an absolute LOON.

Bedknobsandhoovers · 26/06/2025 15:25

If she finds it/one and asks you for the money then maybe charge her for the tickets and drinks?

Pricelessadvice · 26/06/2025 15:25

I would reply to her message with a huge row of laughing faces and leave it at that!

TwistedKeys · 26/06/2025 15:25

A 100%/0% split. Don’t think I’ve seen that before on MN.

Clarabell77 · 26/06/2025 14:58

Is she maybe having a joke with you?

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 26/06/2025 14:57

Hard to believe, frankly.

MoreChocPls · 26/06/2025 14:55

Why is she your friend?! How nasty and entitled.

ManchesterLu · 26/06/2025 14:53

You tell her in no uncertain terms that it's her own fault if she left her belongings behind, you won't be paying her a penny.

And then cut her off, because you can do without this in your life!

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 26/06/2025 14:44

I want to know about the snacks. Sod the wine - what were the snacks?

AtrociousCircumstance · 26/06/2025 14:41

Ugh, entitled fool of a woman! How do you tolerate her!?

latetothefisting · 26/06/2025 14:38

Insane!
Does she have any previous OP?

Reply to her saying "dear friend, I was so shocked reading your message that I spilled my coffee all over myself. Sadly I was wearing my vintage designer dress at the time. As I wouldn't have spilled the coffee if you hadn't sent me the message, I think you should take responsibility for buying me a new dress. I'll look on vinted and let you know the price."

Alternative to spilling coffee "pissed myself with laughter at your audacity"
Or "spat water over keyboard" in shock
Etc
In fact why not all 3?

Perhaps every mumsnetter who reads the thread can pass on our own claims to her for our ruined clothing/seats/keyboard etc.

LillyPJ · 26/06/2025 14:35

80sStMickey · 26/06/2025 12:35

Lawdy I'm a humongous waffler aren't I?

I'm sure that could've been condensed.

I don't get out much.

I thought you were very succinct! And your friend is an enormous CF. Not your problem if she drank too much and left her precious coat behind.

PorpoiseWithPurpose · 26/06/2025 14:34

Fake news

diddl · 26/06/2025 14:31

I thought it was going to be that you were pissed off that the wine & snacks were consumed & not brought back to you!

Bettysnow · 26/06/2025 14:29

I would tell her to claim off the wine producer. Tell her she needs to get a solicitor on the ball urgently 🤣🤣