Partnees ex wants to take child to America to live.

I would remove her passport while things are ongoing...

O god please don’t listen to this scare moungering, this is very very unlikely to happen. It is really not that easy to get a green card. My best friend is American, it took her and her husband years to get his, they are both highly educated professional’s and that was pre Trump and his anti immigration cronies.

I would be telling your DP to take a breath and not panic. It is highly unlikely she will get anywhere at all with this. As others have stated there are women from other countries not allowed to return home to their own countries because they aren’t allowed to remove their children from their fathers and women not allowed to moved within the UK for the same reason.

youve mentioned that the mother has MH issues and your DP hasn’t pushed in the past to keep her happy, I would be throwing this out of the window now and just quietly going for full custody to protect his dd as by the sounds of it he has been the one constant stable in her life.

Ignore the games the ex is playing, they are just that games. Try and get your DP to ignore the stuff she’s saying, he knows the truth, his solicitor can present the truth too. I would also be making sure the courts know about the lies she’s telling the child and her effecting the child’s mental health. I’d probably encourage the solicitor to highlight to the courts how immigrants are being arrested on arriving in the us and children being ripped away from parents and put in detention centres, yes westerners too.

Once you have full custody you can work on getting his dd the support she needs to unravel the mess her mothers made.

Have you got evidence you could show the court about her lying to dd about having relatives over there, or the invented moving date, or other signs that she's unstable?

Sounds like dd would be better off living with you full time if possuble.

Can partner's lawyer get a criminal history check for this guy in his location and run a sex offender check?

How is she going to provide for child and herself? Is she moving her child in with a virtual stranger?

What happens if she and partner breakup?

Not necessarily if he has a good relationship with the child. I mean, the mother can go but the Courts will decide what is in the best interests of the child and thats not always staying with the mother

This.

She’s being really unfair. It’s not fair of her to move her dd away from her (good, loving, involved) father.

I think all he can do is go to court and fight his corner. They will likely grant custody to the current primaty caregiver though.

100% it is selfish when she is moving 5+ hours away on a plane. Wait until DC leaves home and then move if you really want to go. You make certain commitments on having a child, and have to realise some things are 'reasonable' and some things are not - this is not - moving a few hours drive away at most. Especially if the dad see's DC regurlary

My freind took her son to the US with new partner.
Basically ended up in court. Court saw no good reason to stop the move and granted the child to live with the mother overseas as there was no detriment to the childs life to move and it was deemed best for the child to live with the mother primarily. I think she had to show how she would provide for the child overseas, housing, job, private school etc as evidence to show how it was in the best interests.

Arrangements were that the child must come back for several weeks a year in the holidays and mother had to fly back and forth with the child until theybwere about 11 and could fly alone assisted by the airline.

Are her qualifications valid in the U.S? An acquantance of mine had to repeat her medical residency in the U.S. to requalify as a U.S. doctor. It took 2 years. Luckily her American husband was ok financially to support her.

Not true. They go through a process that involves evaluation of their education, application for state licensure, they have to take the NCLEX, and get the right visa. It is time consuming and depending on the location and her job experience, she might not get a job or be working long term care.

Has your partner's daughter even met this guy? Have they lived together at some point? This is scary to contemplate possible ramifications. Good luck to you guys

@Jamaisy82 I really hope your partner is successful in keeping his relationship with his daughter.

It must be a stressful process, but he's doing all the right things in maintaining contact and employing lawyers. 3/7 is still a significant amount of contact, so I hope it's all taken into account 🤞🏾.

OP, your DP needs to get an urgent Prohibited Stsps Order to stop the mum from taking the child out of the country whilst you wait for a Court date. You can also ask for a Lives With Order when you get to Court. Don't worry about ex making up stories, Family Court Judges are used to it. It's down to her to provide evidence of the allegations not down to him to prove his innocence in Family Court and the Judge will only be interested in the best interests of the child which isn't leaving behind regular contact with her father and other family members to move somewhere she's never been and to live with someone she's never met but plays on the Xbox with once a week!

He didn’t. RTFT

How did he lose joint custody?

Any evidence the relationship was good before and switched when he did not give consent for the move? Save this if so.