DH has no idea how this feels?!

Who made the decision to move to the house you chose? Begining to think this is likely to be a DH choice alongside everything else. It sounds like you need to be somewhere with better connections if you are unable to drive.
Also based on the fact you have said he jumps from job to job now would be a good time to tell him to look for something flexible where he could share a role in school drop offs while you do the commute to work and work the full day.

I think your dh has to step up. He could do the dinner. I would be tempted to find a school based job locally if your on minimum wage or a job that works around him either evenings or weekends. I would not consider travelling hours for work especially if there is no childcare.

He needs to step up and be more of a team player. All the stress and juggling of this should not just fall on you. Honestly, why are some men so bloody selfish (and why TF do we let them)..

Sounds like where you live doesn't work for you and your children. You may need to move to somewhere that does

How far away is the kids school? Could you set up as a before and after school childcare provider from home? There must be a need for earlier starts and later finishes for parents with the times you state?

Could offer the flexibility you need whilst bringing in an income.

Edit: you could extend it to the school hidays. You wouldn't then need to pay for holiday clubs. During term time you could pick up some ironing/cleaning or remote admin support work to top the pay during school hours.

Seems like a bad spot to live in if you can’t drive and need to work. There must be some local options (council, schools, shops) or places in the city centre, if nothing remote is available. When you do get a job, and I’m sure you will even if it’s much tougher than DH imagines, do prioritise driving lessons if at all possible. Know it’s annoying to repeat but you’re so stuck otherwise, especially as your DH doesn’t have your back. Good luck with the job hunt and don’t let him grind you down.

It sounds like everything about your life only fits your husband and nobody else: where you live, your childcare arrangements, the running the household, work arrangements... what's in it for you? What do you want? What benefits you? From what your wrote, nothing really.

Lots of government departments near Cardiff?

definitely worth learning to drive - a short intensive course would do it. You don’t need lessons necessarily - get husband to take you to practice or a friend if he’s be a shit teacher.

might also be worth learning some Welsh as it opens up more government jobs, TA etc

www.stonewatercareers.org

Perhaps something on here. They always have home based roles.

Good luck.

OP look into being a classroom assistant. I'm a primary school teacher and we are crying out for classroom assistants in Northern Ireland (not sure what the rest of the UK is like). Most of our TA's are mums in the school and don't have childcare qualifications (though obviously police checked). Money isn't great but it is minimum wage and your hours will fit perfectly around your kids. Maybe something to consider. It is hard work though but you are never bored and it is rewarding.

Can’t your DH go hybrid? (Why do you live so far from his job?)

If childcare is an issue, then can you become a childminder? Do you think tgeee would be enough demand locally?

What about your husband though? If he drives why is he not the flexible one? Your job options are limited so you should seek the most suitable for you to travel to. If your “D” H has to do more then he has to suck it up and put in a request with his employer.

Look for admin roles with your local council. If my council is anything to go by, they are always looking and usually, basic maths and English are the only requirements.

I started at my council last August after redundancy, and this month I have started an Apprenticeship. I already have a teaching degree but the council prefers to promote those that have done this apprenticeship, so in 18 months I can start looking at higher grade jobs.

"Learn to drive" is parroted on here all the time and it drives me nuts. It's hundreds of pounds, hours, and the availability of tests means the OP could be waiting 6 months before getting a slot.

OP your husband needs to work around the kids as well. Try not to worry about going to the office full time - many office jobs offer hybrid work now, or fully WFH.

Won’t you get a redundancy payment if you’ve been there 5 yrs?

Sounds like you’ve given up on the husband, in which case why not look for a job in a school? You need something term time and some schools offer shifts / job shares like 8-1 or 1-5. There must be loads if you are near Cardiff.

He doesn't have to factor in working hours around the kids.
He just takes random days off through out the year to do whatever he wants and never helps with half terms.
He never takes the kids to school or picks them up?!

He never cooks dinner
He never does chores after work

please read this back. It’s not normal or what you deserve.

You sound extremely passive and sound like you've enabled your husband to be pretty shite.

Not that it's your fault of course!! But have you actually spoken to him about workload, chores, annual leave etc.?

Have a look at British Gas/Centrica jobs, most of their staff WFH with mandatory 2 days a month in office

He gets home at 5.15pm? Plenty of time for him to do dinner and some chores. Lazy bastard. He's had it very sweet for too long. Find a job you like and you'll have to both find solutions for your kids (new arrangements for drop off and pick ups, wrap around care and equal holidays during half terms). They're his kids too, ffs!

He needs to start sharing pick ups, tell him to put in a flexi working request. He starts sharing caring for the children out of work too - housework etc. don’t let your redundancy turn you into even more of a drudge.

If you don’t change things what example are you setting your kids too?!

Then it’s time for him to step up and look at how he can change jobs, or change hours, so he’s around to help.

You’re meant to be a team OP, this isn’t purely your problem to solve.

But agree with PP who say you’d be better off leaving him.

This!!!

Why can't your H do the school runs, or make dinner, or do laundry?

Sorry you've been made redundant, it's happened to me and it's gutting.