My boyfriend is going back and forth with his ex fling.

And you look desperate and silly to us for wanting to hold on to a man who is disrespectful to you by playing these games with an ex.

A decent guy would tell her he's not interested and not play these games. A decent guy would tell you honestly just the once, not keep taunting you and winding you up about it.

The man you have is a completely self centred, self serving twat and if you're not going to listen to anything anyone has said here, stop posting.

And you’re there feeling like you’ve won a prize. Meanwhile this scumbag of a man sits back and enjoys two women fighting over him, massaging his inadequate ego.

He’s making you both look like absolute fools. 😆

You both look silly and desperate letting a man play you off against each other like this. Why do you want him so much? He doesn’t really want you. If he did, he would have blocked her months ago. Why do you think you deserve so little? Not pursuing other women should be the bare minimum he should be doing in a relationship, and he’s won’t even stick to that. If he genuinely wanted you, he would be prioritising you. He knows he can keep stringing you along because you just let him do it. People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you, and he’s treating you like an insignificant toy he can pick up and put down as he chooses while waiting for someone better to come along. As several other posters have said, he’s just not that into you. Please just get rid of him and spend some time working on your self respect. Stop putting up with being treated like this.

No.
Do dump him!

At this point this is clearly just a wind up thread. At this point if you haven't ditched the guy and moved on I don't have much if any sympathy for you. You got the answer you needed on page 1. You've continued to circle around saying essentially the same thing, and gotten the same response (other than your bizarre post about guys telling you a contrary opinion.

I'm inclined to agree with the posters who think you're actually either the ex-gf OR this is just a made up scenario by a troll who is after attention and gets some weird kick out of click bait. Even if it's true the response is still the same: Grow up. Seriously. You asked for advice, you've gotten page after page of the same advice: ditch him. The post in which you say you "don't know how you will get over this" is nonsense: this isn't a 10 year marriage, this is dating a guy - apparently non-exclusively - for a few months. Get some self respect and move on - and if you can't muster some self respect then get some therapy - and show the therapist this long string of nonsense. It will tell them all they need to know about you and what needs working on.

NO, she doesn’t because he replies and even agrees to meet up with her.

You are the one looking silly and desperate to stay hold of such a loser.

Reading the post I was expecting those involved to be teenagers! Your boyfriend and his ex are both immature. The relationship lasted 3 months, over a year ago, yet instead of blocking each other and moving on (like adults), they are 'slinging mud' at each other via text! Pretty pathetic on both sides. Honestly for a 6 month relationship, I wouldn't put up with this shit... he's not your man if he's still messaging his ex...end the relationship and find someone else capable of being an adult.

Oh OP - why bother posting when you're ignoring the many, MANY replies telling you to ditch this man?

But he does want her attention at the very least. If he didn't, he would have blocked her and deleted the conversation without a second thought. So why is he still in contact? He needs something from her, even if it is just an ego boost. That says a lot about him to those of us on the outside of your situation.

How do you know he watches all her stories?

OP with kindness, wondering why he does and say stuff is absolutely pointless. Even he may not know. Previous posters have all made pretty good guesses but at the heart of it I would say he’s young, he likes the attention, he’s not emotionally intelligent and enjoys the game. What is important is that you see that a man (boy) who behaves in this way isn’t relationship material, isn’t deserving of your love and attention but most importantly won’t change and if he does, I’d give a good 10/20 years before that happens.

so put him in the bin and find a guy for who is all for you and doesn’t make you feel like this.

You’re making one by believing his drivel.
please move on, dump his sorry arse, value your worth and put yourself first here, gain a bit of confidence, be savvy & (in the kindest way) grow up a bit. This is teenlike drama & needs a cooler more adult head? (Also, he sounds like a gaslighting dick!)

Well he sounds like a great catch

He does like her. He’s lying to you when he says he doesn’t. Youre in denial which is why you keep asking MN the wrong question. Really, he’s not that into you and never will be. Youre just enough until someone better comes along. He may not be that bothered about her either, but she’s also a bit of fun until something better comes along. You are both being manipulated by him because you are both letting him do it. You know you should dump him and I reckon within weeks, you will see how stupid/blind you’ve been. Hope that helps and good luck.

Now that I actually wouldn’t read anything into, it’s nice pictures of nice scenery, he may not even associate them with her. It’s the rest of it that’s a worry.

Look, this man is not making you happy. You’re second guessing everything, doubting your own judgement, desperately searching for evidence of the way you want things to be. I don’t know why you like this guy so much that you’re letting him do this to you, but I’m afraid he’s not that bothered about you. Do you want to go on feeling like this for the rest of your life? Always doubting, always having to convince yourself that his interactions with other women are innocent, always having to justify his behaviour to yourself?

Not only is this man not going to love you the way you want him to, he’s going to destroy your self confidence and your sanity. Posters are being blunt because they’re trying to help you, basically being cruel to be kind. Everything you’ve said makes it abundantly clear to everyone reading it that this guy is bad news. You’re struggling to see it because you’re inside the situation and you’re in love/infatuated. I promise that from the outside there’s no doubt, this guy does not care about you. You’re just a toy to him.

Just stop and think very hard, does he make you happy? Because you certainly don’t sound happy. If you were happy, you wouldn’t be posting on here asking for advice.

Wow, 215 responses all basically saying the same thing. I really don't want to sound mean but Yes he does like her, probably more than you. He didn't take much convincing to agree to meet her did he?

Looks like to me he would be with her in a heartbeat but he wants her to grovel for him first. But your not going to listen. Get married, have lots of babies and you'll be back here because he's left you and the kids as soon as she is ready to take him.

Does it matter? I'm telling you what you want to hear because you are clearly just going to let him take the piss out of you.

@Jakielove Don't listen hun, they don't know true love amiright? He's just polite he doesn't want to hurt her feelings by telling her to fuck off. He might have to give her a pity fuck or 10 because he feels bad about her even though he hates her.

Are you just talking to yourself now? Are you paying attention to any of the excellent advice you've got?

OP, you are looking for elaborate explanations for his very simple behaviour 💔

Relationships are hard enough when you're head-over-heels with each other. A relationship starting off like this - at the stage when everything should be easy and perfect and completely joyful - is not that. Even if you try to work really hard at it and be endlessly forgiving and accepting, it will not work.

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I have tins in my cupboard older than this relationship.

You're worth more than this. Worth better than him.

Jesus Christ does it matter? Either way he doesn’t respect you. Have some self respect and get rid.