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My boyfriend is going back and forth with his ex fling.

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Jakielove · 25/06/2025 21:12

My man of 6 months is going back and forth with his ex fling of a year ago. I found these messages on his phone because my gut was telling me to check. Messages were of him telling his ex how he doesn’t like how she acts, how she wasn’t special to him etc. Basically texts of them hitting low blows with each other. Keep In mind this relationship lasted on 3 months and ended a year ago. He was the first man she ever slept with, he claims that he doesn’t care for her. Yet why respond when she sends a text ? She sent her number over to him and told him to call her, and I seen the call log and he ended up calling her smh ……. I don’t know what do do ? He claims no feeling are involved

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GeorgeMichaelsCat · 06/07/2025 07:13

RampantIvy · 05/07/2025 17:01

I have been following this thread and can't believe that you can't see that all he wants is his ego massaging.

He doesn't like her or you.

He just wants a booty call with whoever is free at the time.

Is he your first boyfriend? You seem very naive and gullible about his intentions.

You need to get rid and block.

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She doesn't want to see it.

RampantIvy · 05/07/2025 17:01

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 18:05

So you do think he likes her

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I have been following this thread and can't believe that you can't see that all he wants is his ego massaging.

He doesn't like her or you.

He just wants a booty call with whoever is free at the time.

Is he your first boyfriend? You seem very naive and gullible about his intentions.

You need to get rid and block.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 05/07/2025 07:52

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 18:05

So you do think he likes her

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He said he wants to spend time with her. That should answer your question. However you won't leave him, will you.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 04/07/2025 18:51

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 18:05

So you do think he likes her

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Stop. Just stop. You’re going to drive yourself crazy over this. I don’t know what’s happened in your life to make you so insecure and have so little confidence, but please for your own sake just stop. Get some therapy. Try to explore why you are so hung up on this awful guy who treats you like shit and gaslights you all the time. You’ve done well to get rid of him, but as long as you keep thinking about him you cannot get over him. Please get some help in real life.

BurnerAccount3 · 04/07/2025 18:33

OP - this guy is not good partner material, for anyone.

I presume he has some cash and is a little good-looking. Don't be shallow. He's thrown a little attention your way and you were prepared to be treated really badly in return.

Most of us went through this in our teens.

When you meet the right person you won't be asking yourself any of these questions. It will be simple.

LurkyMcLurkinson · 04/07/2025 18:27

Serious question. Are you actually a teenager posing as someone older?

Anonusername1234 · 04/07/2025 18:26

Come on… this has to be a troll. Honestly. No one is THIS stupid!

FortyElephants · 04/07/2025 18:16

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 18:05

So you do think he likes her

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Yes. Yes he does. That's why he's messaging her and trying to meet her. He likes her more than he likes you. Now time to get over it.

Laura95167 · 04/07/2025 18:14

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 18:05

So you do think he likes her

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Likes her as in fancies her, yes. Likes her as in up for dating her, yes. Likes her as in wants sex with her, definitely.

Likes her as in would treat her nicely, probably not

BeachPossum · 04/07/2025 18:10

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 18:05

So you do think he likes her

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OP you're going in mad circles.

Can you tell us why it matters to you whether he likes her or not?

TwistedWonder · 04/07/2025 18:07

This is all I have left

Game Over I Give Up GIF by Ocean Park
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Jakielove · 04/07/2025 18:05

TwistedWonder · 04/07/2025 17:46

And not ‘everyone’ is saying that at all. You’re repeating it over and over again and most are just so exasperated they just think ‘ok yes if you say so’

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So you do think he likes her

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TwistedWonder · 04/07/2025 17:46

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 17:13

See everyone is saying he doesn’t like her I knew it!

And not ‘everyone’ is saying that at all. You’re repeating it over and over again and most are just so exasperated they just think ‘ok yes if you say so’

Laura95167 · 04/07/2025 17:34

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 17:13

See everyone is saying he doesn’t like her I knew it!

Youre hung up on the word "like"

Generally the consensus is we think he "fancies" her.

But he isnt being kind to her, hes being antagonistic. We dont think he likes her. We dont think he likes you. We think the only person he likes is himself.

We think he fancies her, hes flirting with her. And he absolutely will have sex with her again. He may rekindle his relationship with her.

We think both of you could do better

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 04/07/2025 17:16

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 17:13

See everyone is saying he doesn’t like her I knew it!

I hope that gives you some peace. Now for goodness sake drop it and move on. He is not worth being liked by. You need to think about your next move and stop stressing about who he does or doesn’t like. He’s an immature dickhead who likes messing with women’s heads for his own amusement. He is not a nice guy. Focus on you. What are you doing next, what will you do for yourself to make yourself feel more confident.

TwistedWonder · 04/07/2025 17:14

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 17:13

See everyone is saying he doesn’t like her I knew it!

But he doesn’t seem to like you much either so stop playing the pick me game with a man who doesn’t give a toss

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Jakielove · 04/07/2025 17:13

See everyone is saying he doesn’t like her I knew it!

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TwistedWonder · 04/07/2025 17:09

Laura95167 · 04/07/2025 16:51

I think deep down hed absolutely still have sex with her

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And let’s be honest some men would have sex with a stray dog if it showed them any attention.

Actually liking someone isn’t a prerequisite

Laura95167 · 04/07/2025 17:05

Jakielove · 04/07/2025 00:24

Exactly he does not like her either. So all these comments stating that he loves/likes her are just going overboard

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You dont have to understand why hed have an interest in someone he separated from a year a go.

It probably would hurt your ego and hurt to think shes anything other than desperate. And thats ok

The truth is it doesnt matter what he felt, he was behaving like a single man. You are better without him

Its hard to accept someone you love doesnt love you the same way, but the best youll ever feel is when you stop wanting the love of someone who doesnt love you

Leaving him was a great decision. Best of luck with your future

Laura95167 · 04/07/2025 16:58

Jakielove · 01/07/2025 08:06

See everyone is saying he doesn’t like her …

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I dont think he likes her (you dont treat someone you like this way) i do think hed like access to some more sex with her though.

He doesnt have to like her to fancy her

Laura95167 · 04/07/2025 16:56

Jakielove · 01/07/2025 00:30

We had a talk. He claims that she means nothing too him and she likes him and is nearly obsessed with him. He said the only reason why he responds is to be nice. That they’re are no feelings involved on his end at all.

Of course he said that because hes got a nice safe thing with you and flirty excitement with her.

If hes telling the truth ask him to delete her SM and block her.. see how that goes.

Laura95167 · 04/07/2025 16:53

Jakielove · 26/06/2025 04:52

I appreciate it…
how do you think he feels about the ex fling base off of what I’ve posted?

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I think collectively we all think his feelings dont matter his behavoiur does.

He might fancy her, have feelings, be bitter, be obsessed, need her for his ego, his heart, or just some attention.

Bit what hes doing is disrespecting you and your "relationship" because hes giving his attention to her

Laura95167 · 04/07/2025 16:51

Jakielove · 26/06/2025 04:31

Makes sense… why do you think he is rude to her yet responds?? Is it because he actually likes her deep down ?

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I think deep down hed absolutely still have sex with her

Laura95167 · 04/07/2025 16:50

Jakielove · 26/06/2025 03:32

Why is he so mean to her but wants to see her ?

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Because he flirts like a teenage boy.

Laura95167 · 04/07/2025 16:48

Jakielove · 25/06/2025 23:04

I personally think he isn’t really into her … I think he’s just trying to get an ego boost

I think its a distinction without a difference.

He likes her attention. Despite being with you hes following her on SM, responding, teasing her, texting her, calling her. He feels something even if it's just a tingle in his jingle at riling her up.

Leaving him isnt a mistake. Making excuses for him is.

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